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July 26, 2005, 2:24 pm CDT

On The Show

I unfortunately am just like the woman on the show today who would cry during sex.  To me sex has always been about my partner's power over me when I am in a vulnerable position.  I dread sex constantly and try to avoid it.  I even avoid being intimate in other ways because of the fear that sex will be what is expected next.  It isn't fair to him and he often complains.  I know it makes him feel horrible when I turn him down but I am scared out of my mind.  Any advice that might help?
 
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July 26, 2005, 2:27 pm CDT

Don't Marry Him

Don't walk down that aisle just yet.  I just got out of a relationship with a man who was adicted to porn.  It killed me knowing I wasn't good enough for him.  Finally his porn addiction led him to want to act out what he was seeing online.  When I wouldn't participate he looked outside of the relationship for it.  Look out for yourself first and foremost!  You deserve better than what he is giving you!
 
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December 28, 2005, 4:21 pm CST

What are guys thinking?

 I am still single but unfortunately I see this same concept that your first guests were dealing with in my search for a husband.  Guys see women as possesions.  Not all guys but more than I would like to admit seem to be looking out for themselves and only them.  I have met to many guys who want to know what dating me gets them.  Whether it be financially or in the bedroom.  It drives me up the wall.  How can guys degrade women like this?  It is no wonder the divorce rate and depression rates are so high in this country.  I'm sure some women do the same thing.  It makes me sick.  I want to be loved for me...  who I am not what I can give the man I am with.  I want to treat him like a prince but I don't want to be his slave or be taken for granted.  On the same token I expect the same in return.  A relationship is 50/50.  Give as much as you take!
 
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August 2, 2006, 2:05 pm CDT

Shocked

I have been where Shannon is.  When I was younger it started about when I was 7.  My little brother was born, I was sexually abused by a family relative, and my mom started treating all of the kids differently than me.  It honestly killed me and made me have so much anger.  When it was all going on I had no support or outlet for my pain and anger.  Now I am hurting so much that I don't even know where to begin to start the healing process.  There are times I dread coming home because I feel like I am labeled the problem child.  I was the one they didn't get right.  I hope Shannon gets the help she needs and the family realizes that it isn't all her fault, that they are contributing factors before it is to late!
 

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