I'm know exactly how lynn feels myself is going through the samething with my husband, we have seperate accounts and yeah he pays most of the bills but I pay all my bills, my gas, whatever I need but I also pay both car payments and sometimes alot of the kids stuff. If I ever need anything else I need to ask him. I hate Yes I work I'm waitress and I do make decent money but you know his salary is guarentee and my money is not. So if I tell him that I'm short money he's like oh well, maybe you should find another job its the same bullsh___ over and over.  
 
I wish at times I could do it on my own but I have my own debt issues t o deal with and I am. But it really upsets me, His friends can call and ask to borrow money and he will give it to them but me nothing.