Messages By: jdm70_jb85

It doesn't matter if your overweight or if your not "pretty" enough. I've always been left out through out grade school because I was just an average looking girl; and I still am today. I've learned to tell myself that there are people who are going to like me for who I am and not what I look like. Whenever I come across a person who doesn't like me for who I am, I just tell myself, that's only one person and I'm not letting one person change how I see myself.

Brandi is TOTALLY guilty for killing Daniel. She went into her parents bedroom and took the car keys WITHOUT permission, which is theft! She NEVER asked to take the keys. Her father says that he's a light sleeper and he would have heard Brandi taking the keys, which doesn't add up right. Now, that Brandi's 17 and served about 3 years of her 12 year sentence, she was only about 13 years old when this happened. A 13-year-old should never be behind a wheel of a motorized vehicle, when he/she is not in the age of majority to drive. 

  

Brandi's story does NOT add up right. She says that after she hit him she never noticed that the wind shield was damanged until she got home and tried to lie to her parents about it before she confessed. When she got home, she put part of a tree in the wind shield to make it look like a tree busted the wind shield.  

  

I sympathize with Daniel's family, even though I don't know what it's like to lose a sibling or a child, but I do know what it's like to lose a parent. I know how they feel!!!!! 

Whenever there is ONE problem, there's always at least one more under neath it! They had to deal with Bridgette's shooping addiction, then with Mike's temper then deal with her cutting. 

  

Cutting is not an attention seeker. I know, I've been where Bridgette is now. When Bridgette said that no one understand what it's like to be a cutter, unless they've been there themselves... I agree with Bridgette. NO ONE KNOWS WHAT IT'S LIKE TO BE A CUTTER. It's a coping mechanism because the cutter never learned the positive coping skills from their parents growing up!!!!!!!! 

  

 

I was a cutter myself, but I got the help that I needed. I've gone 2 years next month without cutting and still get the urges to cut; but I find ways to distract my hands and brain so that I do NOT cut again. 

  

Here's part of a poem that I wrote when I was still cutting: 

You have a secret
That you don’t want
Anyone to see.
You cover your arms
By wearing long sleeves.
But when someone
Accidentally sees your arms
Because your sleeves
Accidentally moved up,
You try to cover up
The real reason why
With an excusable lie,
Or you just say “don’t worry about it.”

You feel no one will understand
Why you do this,
Unless they went through this
Or something similar to this.

You keep doing this
Because you feel
That this is
The only thing
That can’t be taken
Away from you 

Cutting is NOT a mental illness, it's a COPING MECHANISM. The cutter never learned positive coping skills from his/her parents going up. I was a cutter and I know exactly what Bridgette is feeling and going through!
 

Alcoholics drink to releave immedate stress... cutters do the same thing! Cutters cut instead of drink!!!!!