Messages By: fabfivemom

I have a 17 year old girl and 16 year old boy - 10 year old 2 and 1.  I agree that it is best to wait till 16 to date, and even then explain the benefits of GROUP dating.   MY daughter finds that it eases the pressure of finding things to talk about and do.  If you are thinking that double dating is "safer" you are wrong.   It all depends on your standards and the standards you are teaching your daughter.  My daughter is not perfect, but she knows that she is not looking for her mate at this point in her life.  So there is no reason to get serious about 1 guy.  She has seen the emotional effect this has on her friends.  I always told her, a date is a possible mate, so choose well!   

I wonder what his side of the story is.  Have you ever read the book by Dr. Laura?  The proper care and feeding of husbands.  Maybe there were some things that you overlooked during the 23 years.  Just a thought.

Men and Women are different.  Us women have kids hanging on us and demanding our emotional attention.... Sex is emotional for us as well.  Sometimes it is difficult to have anything left at the end of the day for your man.  But guess what?  It is a neccessary way for him to express his love for you.  Maybe try waking up when he does and send him off right!  You might skip the feelings of guilt or resentment if you mix it up a bit and he knows that there are other options.  It isn't always about me, if I waited till I felt good about my body, or if I was in the mood, or if I wasn't mad at my husband for something, he would probably never get any!  But when I think about how much he adores me know matter what, I can get into it and I am so glad I did!  TIP:  When you're not feeling "in the mood", get out of bed and sneak into the bathroom, brush your teeth and put some of your favorite sexy perfume on and you might turn yourself on!