my son who just turned 37 April,was having trouble reading he is divorced raising a 16 yr old since
he was 5 <deadbeat mother> we help him a lot they live behind us we share a back yard
when he and i went to see about reading glasses for him the Dr couldn't bring up any vision
numbers to work with so he sent us to eye Dr he said i know what I'm looking at on paper but i cant
tell you why is sight is the way it is....
he sent us down to a teaching hospital eye Dr,he did test next thing we know we or into 7hrs of
brain surgery he had 80% of his sight gone already,,
we only went for reading glasses they found a growth on his optical nerves nothing they can do it
now has took all his optical areas and destroyed the cones in his eyes..
they is no tests,glasses,operations,noting he is left with 20% sight,this come out of the blue we
never expected nothing like this and he didn't either.they or staying with us for now he wants to be
able to go home we went to low vision Dr
and we had hope maybe strong glasses but no.....he is being refereed to council of the blind
who can help him adjust to his vision loss.this is tearing up all of us,he is our only child and the
son he has is his only child..we just went for glasses..
.
he had to give up his drivers licenses,
his dad sold his trk bought sons trk,to keep in family.
...our son goes every day to a support group for depression some days or really bad for him..
..all i can keep saying and seeing is we just went for reading glasses......i close my eyes and try to
think of what he must be going threw but i cant i know when i open my eyes i can see...they have
him on steroid and now have to get him off a Little at a time
it is causes so many side effects he has gained 27 lbs.of water....
my son lived a very lonely life caused no one any trouble and to go threw this is heart breaking i
see him struggle every day...his dad told me while he was driving one day he had to pull over tears
just started..this is more then what we all can bear at times....we or a close family...his dad is
disabled from heart problems my son is disabled from depression and sever headaches,to have
this happen at a time when none of knew..we got the final word nothing can be done last week...i
don't know how to help him..we all or just walking on air trying to stay on our feet..i could see if he
got something in his eyes a wreck or anything but to just have 20/20 vision one day 80% gone
next.i have never screamed at god i thank him everyday for some sight he has left him.blind
assoc.is coming to his home to help him adjust.my son cant see he is in the same area as a blind
person so we let him say low vision..i know him and his son live on such a low income but they
make it his bills or always payed the minute he gets his s.s. check..i wish there was support
groups for all of us out there on this.i feel like their should be 3 of me aim going in circles my home
his home ,child's school.every thing.my son is a lot stronger then i ever knew him to be i admire
him for going every day i don't know if i could.there is a growth laying over his optical nerves if they
go mess with it he will go blind,they had no choice but to leave it alone.in time this killed all cone
areas in his eyes.and in between Dr and surgery he turned 37 this yr.surgery was march 23,2006.i
just don't were to turn for him or me just to get some understanding...my son said a sentence of i
had to lose my vision to have my eyes opened..his x wife is a dead beat mother,she is on 5yr
probation for non support,knows nothing about the boy from 5yrs old to now 16.judge ruled in June
2006 for her to leave the boy alone till he wanted contact with her....you can fill in any story you want
and it would be OK the truth is bad enough.i just want to say i know about grief we all or going
threw it now every day