Messages By: rebeccatol

Quote From: mrsraz

First let me start by saying she is not the only 4 year old out there who wets the bed, she is not the first and definitely not the last. Some times the reason for bed wetting is a small bladder. So even though you don't give her drinks before bed and wake up and take her potty her bladder might just be small. No she will not wet the bed forever even though it might seem like that. I would not suggest taking things away from her because then you are punishing her for something she has no control over, unless of course she is getting up and peeing in her bed and then going back to sleep on purpose, yeah I don't think that is the case. You can try by cutting out any caffeine drinks such as (ice)tea and soda that will help. Maybe after dinner set aside a small glass of water so that you can make sure her drinking is to a minimum. Some kids just take longer to break this cycle of bed wetting then others. As for her big girl bed,  they have bed covers that are made specifically for the situation. They are completely water proof. I would not suggest using the night diapers because then she will just pee in them because they are designed to absorb the wetness. Also try and have her help you clean the bed up in the morning and take that opportunity to discuss her situation and explain to her how if she feels she needs to go even in the slightest to get up and go potty. Try giving her goals to meet instead of punishing her for wetting the bed make it a HUGE deal when she doesn't. Maybe go and buy her a piggy bank and tell her for every day she doesn't have an accident she can put a quarter in her piggy and after 1 month of no accident straight through then she can empty her piggy and go buy what ever she wants. If you put more attention on the positive then the negative it will make a difference. Just remember being a parent is a growing experience and even though at times it might seem close to impossible be patient. Good luck and God Bless!!

Quote From: pinkdefyed

of him for thinking life is a cake walk.  Women need each other and women need space!  What gives him the right?  What state do you live in?  You should really look for a great babysitter or perhaps another mom....then you can trade on/off daycare needs for free....you then go and have a blast one night a month.

 

Have you tried talking to your husband about this?

 

 

Quote From: jettav

I don't know how old your kids are, but do you have a mall where they have a play area? How about story times at the library? Churches usually have a ladies or a mom's  group. Check out MOPS.com and see if there is a program in yur area. Also The PAT organization might be in your area (Parents as teachers) The MOPS program is for parents with young children and it is Christian baaased but the kids go to their classes and play with their poeers and mom's stay togehter and do fun activiteis and devotionals and crafts, whatever. THe PAT group is also for parents with young children where you go to a set place and the parenst are with their kids and interact with thema s wella s the parents.

These ideas might not fit your age group of kids but theya re ideas on how you can meet other parents. once you start going to meetings and activities and start communicating with others, friends can be made. If your kids are older, maybe join the PTA or some organization at the school or maybe advertaise and start a play group of your own or something. Again, these are just a few ideas on meeting other parents, if you want to meet others then you ghave to put some effort towards it, it really does help to get out.

You say your husband says he doesn't know waht you like to do, well, tell him tehn. I have absolutely no problem telling my husband that we need to go out and I will make the arrangements, no excuse there as far as I am concerned. Sometimes we women just have to sspeak up and talk to our husbands in simple terms, he may not ever take the time to ask you what you want to do and in that case,  you just do it and don;t wait for him to ask. It will make your life a lot happier.

Quote From: jettav

The big girl bed migth encourage her more not to wet to bed, it could be a good incentive. MAybe tell her that when she goes threed ays without wetting to bed,t hens he will get her big girl bed nad see what happens or just go ahead and give it her, either way, you are going to have to keep encouraging her, eventually she will get it.

Has she been checked fo bladder problems or anything that could be causeing her to wet to bed?

Quote From: mrsraz

If you do decide to give her the big bed make it a huge deal about how big she is getting. I would suggest first how ever to go and buy a water proof mattress sheet, I am pretty sure you can find them any where like Walmart or Target. Have you talked to her about if she knows when she wets the bed or does she just wake up in the morning wet. Does she have her own room? Maybe she is afraid to get up in the middle of the night to pee. Every child is different, I have 4 and all of them have advanced at different ages. My son wet his bed until he was around 7 or so. Trust we did everything by the book, no drinks to close to bed time and getting him up in the night to pee. My husband even did the whole spanking thing but all it took was time and consistancy. Just remember communication is the key. Keep your head up!

Quote From: tjfrasier

My parents, sister and her 4 1/2 year old son just left after visiting us in VA for 9 days.  They live in IN.  While they were here my nephew peed on my dog while I was taking a shower one morning.  When I found out and asked him why he did it, he said because he wanted to.  After they left we discovered that he had taken the cover off of the register vent in our oldest son's room and had peed down there too.  My oldest son is almost 15 and needless to say was not happy about that discovery. 

 

My husband and I made the decision that until my nephew is evaluated and something is done about his behavior, he is no longer welcome in our home.  When I called to tell my parents and sister of this discovery and our decision, I became the bad guy.  My sister was more concerned that she was going to lose touch with my boys than about her own son.  My sister thought it was funny that he had peed on my dog.  My mother cleaned up the carpet and my dog the best she could while I was still in the shower.  My question is, was I right in taking such a firm stand with my sister and parents?  Oh by the way, my sister, her husband, and my nephew live with my parents and have since my nephew was less than a 1yr old and show no signs of ever wanting to leave, but that's another issue altogether!

Quote From: dailyprayer

I am very worried. I am from California and my granddaugther was born in Colorado. My daughter has been a rebel since she was 15. She has been homeless, she has experimented with drugs, she lies for no reason at all, she's disrepectful to my husband and myself but for 6 years I have been bailing her out of trouble, sending her money with my husbands knowledge and it's a mess. I got a call from her when my granddaughter was born and she was homeless then. I spoke to the social workers and they told me that my granddaughter was born with cocaine in her system and if I didn't high tail it up there they were going to put her in foster care. I wanted my granddaughter. I was so out of my mind instead of getting on a plane, I got on bart. I was in a daze. My mom called me luckily before I reached the next city and said that she be on her way to pick me up so we can go to the airport. I told her I was on bart. She was really worried about me. My granddaughter is 14 months and both parents are drug users, can't care for her financially or mentally. They both have me and my husband on an emotional roller coaster because all they no is I am the mother and I am the father, but their needs comes before my granddaughters. I don't know where she is. I am scared. My baby granddaughter is not receiving any love, security, stability, or routine. My lawyer said somthing bad has to happen before I can get her back or have custody over her. I don't know where my angel is. Somebody, anybody, tell me what can I do?