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September 5, 2006, 7:51 am PDT

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i can't believe Steve Irwin is gone! my family is mourning today over the news! He has been a part of our families lives that we are in shock! I pray that Terri and her family will pull this. Everyone pray for emotional care and take care to all those who loved them too!

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 I just learned of Steve Irwin's untimely death this morning. My sister in law emailed me about it. I was not a fan of his show, all those creepy crawly things just gave me the willy's! Anyway, I am saddened by his death and hope that his family will be able to go on. My prayers go out for his wife and 2 young children. I hope they find comfort in this difficult time.
 
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September 5, 2006, 9:22 am PDT

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My 8 year old daughter and 4 year old son are the pickiest eaters you are ever going to know!  They will only eat chicken nuggets, cheese pizza, french fries, and hot dogs for dinner.  For lunch they will only eat peanut butter sandwiches, and for breakfast they will eat waffles.  Unbelievably, they look perfectly healthy (they are within their ideal weight ranges).  They are healthy and intelligent kids.  Of course, they love sweet junk food as well!  My husband and I have tried countless times to try to get them to at least try other foods.  They won't even put it near their mouth.  We have learned to pick our battles most nights with this food issue. However, on the other nights, we put them to bed without their usual bedtime routine.  This seems to upset them, but they still won't eat.  We have tried to take the focus off food issues to try to make it a more enjoyable meal, but it just hasn't worked.  Please offer any suggestions!!!!!!!! I am at my wits end!  

 

 Why not have your children help make dinner one night? My children ages 6 and 4 help me when I am making dinner. They help snap the ends off of green beans, wash the lettuce for salad, spin the lettuce in the salad spinner, mix the dough for dinner rolls... be creative. If your kids help make the meal they will want to try what they helped make. My children were very picky as well and when I started letting them help me, they started trying different foods. Good luck to you!
 
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September 6, 2006, 9:00 am PDT

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Ask your doctor about testing her for Kidney reflex in regards to the constant bladder infections. My daughter has that and it causes her to have consistant bladder infections. What is Kidney reflex? The proper steps are kidney, bladder and then out. What happens with kidney reflex is when the bladder drains out during the peeing some urine goes back up into the kidneys and this is what cause consistant bladder infections in some cases.

 They actually did a test like that on her when she was 3. They gave her some "silly jucie" and put a cathadar that injected dye into her bladder to fill it up. Then they watched through and X-Ray as they drained her bladder. They found nothing. Everything was normal with her. They treated her with antibiotics time after time, but it never totally cleared up the bacteria. Knock on wood, it has been at least 5 months since her last one. The doctor told me that her taking a bubble bath can cause bladder infections!! Who knew!!
 
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September 6, 2006, 9:04 am PDT

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The freakiest part of this is.., that he had a better chance of winning the lottery and being hit by lighting at the same time!  I understand what you mean, I have 4 kids and whoever it is either can handle watching the show or whatever.  I just can't handle that He is gone and doing what he loved best.  He was such a teasure to the environment and the sake animals and so-onnn...we all are used to car accidents and fires and mishappens.., but; to recieve the call from God the way Steve did!  so precise and to the point without a turnabout!  astonishing!

 

yeah we too! i sent flowers and lews to Terri and Bindy (his 8 yr. old girl) and Bob (his 2 yr. old son). To the zoo too! Everybody over there are just sick w/ grief!

 

thanx for responding and glad that you can remember them in all prayers..  Where does your sister in law live?  How about you?  We live in Ca. too!

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 What bothers me the most about this is the media. They are going to find a way to twist the facts about what happened or saying if he had just left the barb in then he might still be here. Don't they realize his family is suffering enough without having to hear that?  My family will always remember him and the kindness he had with all animals. And the occassional "Crikey!!"

My sister in law lives in Mass. and I live in Texas. She sent me an email monday night asking if I had heard about it, so I looked on People's website and read the articles about it.

On another note... Did anyone see the pictures of Baby Suri Cruise?? Oh my gosh she is beautiful!! I hope the media gives them the space they deserve as well.
 
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September 8, 2006, 5:59 am PDT

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sounds like it hurts? are you awake while this is going on?
 they did it to my daughter when she was 3. They gave her some juice to help relax her, but she was awake during it. I remember having a catahdar when I was in labor with my son, and I don't remember it hurting that much.. that could of been because of the labor pains though! I am sure they will give you something to relax you if you ask them to.
 
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September 15, 2006, 2:30 pm PDT

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I'm 20 years old i just had my first baby six month ago. and i breastfeed. since my baby was born she's been sleeping with me. now my mom seems to think that I'm damaging her by letting her sleep with me. she is still on my breast and I'm still not ready to let her sleep in her bed because of SID. what i want to know is my mother right? am i damaging her or is my mom trying to run me . she say thing like I'm not watching her if she don't sleep in her own bed. or thats why she so spoiled. I'm so to the limit the only thing i want is to be a good mother, an at time i feel like I'm doing the opposite. my mom didn't raise me and i think that part of her trying to tell me how to raise my daughter.some times i think its advice and sometimes i want to tell her to mind her business but out of respect i wont.i really may be over doing it out the SID but wont feel right if she don't sleep next to me. i feel when she get a year old then i will teach her how to sleep in her own bed.she will understand more then than now.or is that to late? any ADVICE can help thank you.......................
 I too had my first baby when I was 20. I was so worried he would stop breathing during the middle of the night that I let him sleep in bed with me from the day I brought him home. It was also a convience when those night time feedings rolled around. I breastfed as well. He slept in my bed until he was 4 and I had gotten married. Let me tell you from experience that it is a really bad idea to get your baby used to sleeping with you. You said that when she gets a year old you will be able to teach her o sleep in her own bed.. its a nice thought but it is not going to work. Start laying her in her crib at nap times and bed time. It is not going to be easy to break this pattern for you. Its more that you are used to it then she is. After a week or so she will get the idea that the crib is her place to sleep. It will be better for the both of you. Don't forget too that it is dangerous for you to sleep in bed with your infant. You could roll over and smother her. I wish I had known now what I knew then and just dealt with the crying and made him sleep in his own bed. You love your daughter and want what is best for her. That is what makes you a good mother!! Don't ever let anyone tell you different. Congratulations on your new baby. Enjoy this time with her, because believe me they grow up way too fast!! I hope this helps you out!!
 
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September 15, 2006, 2:35 pm PDT

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I need some serious advice! My boyfriend and I have been together for over 2 years now. We have resided together full time for the past 18 months with my 2 children from my ex-husband. I have always been EXTREMELY careful about where and when my boyfriend and I had sex. I made sure the kids were gone from our home or completely asleep before we EVER even thought about doing anything. Normally, my kids would sleep until at least 10:00am, sometimes 11:00am on the weekends. We would have a fun friday or saturday night and stay up late doing fun things as a family. One early saturday morning, I went and checked on the kids around 7:00am, and they were still very much asleep. I went back upstairs, and we thought the coast was clear. The kids were asleep and my boyfriend and I figured we had a little time by ourselves. I shut AND locked the door to our bedroom, and we had sex, very QUIETLY (and quick). Afterwards, we were just laying in bed when we heard the kids giggling around the corner. To my shock and utter disbelief, they had somehow pried the door open ( the lock, I found out was not working properly). They thought it was funny. I was throughly embarrassed, and still am. I think about it often, and I feel so ashamed. I tried to be soooo sooooo sooooo careful, and protect them from seeing or even knowing what sex was. I would never let them watch bad things on T.V., but my daughter was with me when I had gone and seen my Doctor. He had sexually assulted me in front of her. I went to the police and we both told our stories, and I think that my 8 year old daughter thinks that sex is dirty or a bad thing. Number one, she shouldn't even know what sex is. Number two, I dont know what to say to explain what me and my boyfriend were doing. ( She called it "kissing", which is what she mainly sawI dont think that she saw anything elseor understood anything else) Number three, I can't change what happened. As much as I wish I could, I can never go back and not make them see it! If I could change it, I would but I can't. I learned a BIG lession. Kids are smarter than we think. I feel so bad that they even saw anything, but I think that my daughter is now traumitized by what she saw. My son seems unaffected, he's only 4. My daughter thinks that I love my boyfriend more than her, or that I want to be with him more than her. She hates when we are alone, and will not allow it! She screams and cries to get attention. I dont know what to do. I have sat her down and told her the 2 different kinds of love, and explained that I will always love her NO MATTER WHAT, and that she is MY CHILD FOREVER. and most of all I will always care for her and never let her down. I don't know if she needs therapy or how or what I'm supposed to say or explain what happened. I love my children with every cell in my body, and I regret what happened along with feeling soooo guilty! What should I say or do? any advice would be greatly apprecieated! God Bless!!!! 
 I have a 4 year old daughter and a 6 year old son. I am not sure when the right time to have the "sex talk" with them is, but I think that after your daughter saw what she did that it would be a good time to explain things a little. I don't know how much they will grasp at 8, but it will open that door for when she is 10 or 11 and curious. I am dreading the time when my children come to me and ask me about sex because my mom never had the talk with me. All she told me was don't do it! Great talk!!  I just don't think you should ignore it or her feelings about this.
 
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September 15, 2006, 2:42 pm PDT

Balancing Marriage and Family

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Check out  "MOMS" club. I wish I had the address but I'm not sure where it is right now. There are groups all over the country. There is probably one in your area. I have met so many nice people through the club. As a stay at home mom you can be so isolated. This will help. Good luck.
 I actually have joined a MOPs group this past week. It was an amazing experience for me to just go and talk to other moms. I knew my 2 youngest children were being cared for and I was doing something for me... something that I haven't done in over 6 years!! My going made my husband happy because I met alot of moms from the area that I live in.  I also noticed that my husband and I haven't argued about the little things as much. I guess talking to other people that can relate to what you are going through makes it not seem so bad!

I am very thankful for everyones help in letting me know about these groups for moms.
 
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September 22, 2006, 1:16 pm PDT

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 I am not sure how to handle this. My husband and I have been married for 2 years. I was 4 months pregnant when we got married. Before we got married sex was often and amazing. The futher along I got in my pregnancy the less frequent the sex became. I thought it was just because of my swelling mid section. After our son was born he stayed in the bedroom with us, so we had to be careful not to make any noises that might wake him up. He was in our room for almost the 2 years. We just recently moved into a house and he is now in his own room. Well sex has not gotten any better. If we have sex once a month I concider it lucky. Its not from lack of my asking him for it, I feel like I am always asking for it. Then he gets upset because he is always saying no or saying he is too tired. Last night I tried to get things started and when I started kissing him, he asked if I have weighted myself lately!! When I asked why he said because it looks like you have gained some weight. Of course I was crushed that he would choose that moment to ask me that. I now feel that the reason he hasn't wanted to have sex with me is because I gained so much weight when I was pregnant and the weight has not come off despite my efforts. He says that is not the case but how can I not feel like my weight is the reason he won't touch me??
 
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September 22, 2006, 1:21 pm PDT

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I watch and listen to dr phil every day and still have troubles understanding why i have so much trouble making friends. i feel that i am a very good friend, i am happy, caring and would be very supportive if anyone needed me the problem is i have only met one person that has got to see that and she moved away about 2 years ago. i have a lovely marriage and my husband is my best friend but i long for a friend that we could go and have coffee with or just sit and talk, i see others out having coffee and it makes me feel even more lonelier than ever. i miss my friend very much we still talk and visit but it is not the same as she lives 11 hours away. I am not sure what to do. My husband is very understanding and wishes the same for me. Tracie

 I know exactly what you mean. I moved about 2 years ago, leaving everything behind and all of the people I knew to make a fresh start. I am very shy and I get anxious around people. I wish I could just find someone that gets me. My husband wishes that I would meet people, because then I wouldn't make such a big deal about him going out with his friends. I feel that I am a very loyal friend and always there when someone needs me.. so why is it so hard to get out there and make some friends?? By the way.. where do you live?
 
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