Messages By: marybb2

This is the worst problem I've ever seen between two people.  I cannot believe the damaging things they do to each other and their children.  I never saw such negative behavior.  I do feel sorry for the husband.  He wants to be in control and can't.  He doesn't understand relationship and how two people can work together, and the more he tries the more frustrated he becomes.  The wife plays the "martyr" role to a "T".  Oh, poor me!  Well, sorry, just can't seem to find it in my heart to think she doesn't know what she's doing.  She's pointing the finger (at her husband) and saying, "Look what he makes me do."  What a bunch of hogwash!  She's not only negative, manipulative, but she takes the lowest common denominator and that's where she lives.  Whatever happened to integrity in this union?  The kids have let themselves be dependant.  They're old enough now to get out of it.  For heavens sakes, kids, save yourselves... obviously your parents aren't going to help!   

Dr. Phil is one of the best examples of a popular man who shows his wife how much he cares for her and needs her.  He includes her in his life, and she blossems.  I would imagine Dr. Phil gets "hit" on many times in his life, but I would also imagine he handles it very well.  He is an example to others of a mature male who is happy in his life and lives what he believes.  

That's the way it should be.  That young man who's refused to wear his wedding ring is missing the boat.  The young wife who's jealous can turn it around by supporting his choice of a vocation, and being a helpmate instead of an insecure little girl.   

They should not have any more children until this is worked out.  I wonder why people who are having problems introduce another life into the mess they've created, but it happens.