Messages By: aba1969

Hi all,

My ex common law husband for 4 years and me had a 6 yrs. old daughter.  During those time of separation, we were off and on until last time was December 2004.  He had dated here and there and had a girlfriend in 2004 but only lasts 5 months.  He introduced our daughter to this girl only once.  After that girl, he dated another one that only lasts 3 months.  He came back to me and got back together again but only lasts for not even 2 weeks.  After a month he started seeing a new girl and already started exposing our daughter to her.  They are still together and both been spending time with my daughter sometime every other weekend when my daughter is with him. I overheard on his voice mail messages that this girl is already saying I love you to him.  I know it is not illegal for him to expose my daughter to her..but it's making me really angry.  I wanted to know this girl so I know who my daughter is spending time with when she is with her dad but he would not introduce her to me.  He already introduce her to her family but not to me.  Am I entitled to know or for him to introduce to me to his girlfriend or is this out of my business? 

Since I did not get any reply from him I just stay quiet.  I asked because when he dropped our daughter off to me after having her for the weekend, she was with them but did not get out of the car.  They don't live together.  And then the next weekend that he should have our daughter but he asked me a favor to take care of her as he was going to attend a wedding,  the gf woke up early in the morning, went to his place, picked them up only to drive him and my daughter to my place (he has a car too) and she parked far after dropping them both and then waited for him.  I feel like they are both using my daughter to get back at me.  And him to use our daughter to let me know what is going on in his life and his lovelife.  I feel like this girl is not the right girl (but I know it's really not my problem).  I hope I am wrong about how I feel towards her.  I thought that it was just approriate letting know or warn me that he was going to expose our daughter to a girlfriend already.  I hope he is really serious about her so that my daughter's well being will bring good outcome in the future.  Too bad her dad and I could not become friends.  If only we're friends, everything should have been smooth and easy (for me maybe).  We don't communicate, only when he has to talk to his daughter, he will send me a text message.   

Oh thank you all for the reply!  I appreciate it!    

Now I have an update regarding that.  He is still with this girl.   

Today I feel kind of weired regarding a message this morning.  When I got up this morning just after 9:00 am.  I noticed that I had my phone flashing (that means I have a new message)  When I checked the call display it was an unknown number.  When I checked the message, it was him and his girlfriend on the background (I heard the girl said 'bye and Ilove you!' to him).  And then probably a couple of minutes just after the girl or whoever left, someone hung up the phone.  I know they or he or she did it on purpose to dial my number because they block the number for it to appear as unknown.  Now, I wonder why he had to that to me.  I think he is sick!  Undescent.  

Hi, I had posted here before about my ex common law husband.  We have a little girl (she's almost 7). We've been together for 4 years and been separated more than 4 years.  We were on and off during separation.  He now have a girlfriend (the second one he treated as a girlfriend).  I believed they have been together for 8 months now.  Just saying these again for those of you who did not see my post and I believed that post is still in here.  

So, here is the story:  

Last Friday when I got up in the morning just after 9:00 am.  I noticed that I had my phone flashing (that means I have a new message)  When I checked the call display it was an unknown number.  When I checked the message, it was my ex talking on the background and his girlfriend on the background giggling or laughing and said 'bye and I love you! to him.  And then probably a couple of minutes just after the girl or whoever left, someone pick up and hung up the phone.  I don't know which one of them purposely dialed my number because the number was block to appear as private number.  Now, I wonder why he had to that to me.  I think he is sick!  Undescent.    

Thank you for the comment and I appreciate it a lot.