Messages By: jlhz03

     

  

  i have a 15 1/2 daughter and she lost weight walking and riding her bike this summer and sure she complains about her weight, however, i tell her she looks fine but, if she wants to tone up or loose a little more than go for it. she weighs what i weighed in high school and it isn't a bad weight. i was a size 3 until i got pregnant with her and went from 120 - 186 in 9 months.  

  

today people expect people to look a certian way, teenagers are very critial now days and it isnt a good thing either. i thought it was horrible the way they compete. now, my daughter and i want to work out and go walking together and we have, but, not as a competition thing just for spending time together and for the exercise its self. things are hard enough on teenagers at this age don't make the pressure more. the way the step mom feels is what the daughter has grown up to  and this is what she sees and thinks it should be. i mean the mom admited that she always got by on her looks. looks are not everything in  life. its the kind of person you are in side and how you treat people. i feel like the mom has put some of this in the daughters head and its kinda scarey.  i think maybe they need to watch some of the modles that have overdosed, commited suicide because of the weight they thought they had on them. they all thought they were to fat and to be honest drugs is something some kids will turn to if they think are to fat. they already take diet pills and that isnt good. i agree with dr. phil but, there is to much peer pressure. 

I don't believe in letting a child go to bed hungry or picking up rocks in the heat either. I do however believe in grounding a child if need be. My mother grounded us and even spanked us. we all (4 of us) turned out just fine.  Sure we all had our share of teen problems but, my mom fought and yes, we thought she was completely nuts!! Our friends thought she was also!! My mother also went up against drug dealers and lord knows what else. I myself have had to deal with a child with the wrong crowd syndrome and she went to a girls home, for a while anyway. she is grown now and what she does from this point on is her doing. It is out of my hands as far as her choices in life.  If she can't stand on her own to  feet then she can move back home, show respect and live by our rules to a point. My son is going to be 11 in a couple of months and he gets grounded for grades, not cleaning his room and other things. as soon as he cleans his room he is ungrounded, his grades come up he is allowed to go ride his bike, play the play station ect. but, as far as abuse, no i don't believe in that. my husband is the easy one in our house. He does to much for our kids and it drives me nuts. I beleive you can also do to much for a child and they turn out to be kids in the world that are lost, and confused and have no idea on how to get a long in the world. they can't even support themselves because some one has always done it for them. If kids do not have some sort of good disapline just remember who will be making the desicions on our lives in the future!! these kids without a clue on life.