Messages By: jyakfour

hi there! I am from Calgary Alberta. It is so nice to be able to see a canadian board!!   

As you can see from my picture I have 2 children, actually 3 including my hubby. My kids are ages 10 and 17.   

I am hoping to get some advice in regards to my daughter. She wants to leave home and live on her own. I don't have a problem with the leaving part as kids do have to spread their wings, however, she has difficulties finding a full time job and when she does, partying with her friends and the shopping trips are her priority when it is payday. She has graduated already and wants to take a year off before attending college. My husband and I have talked with her and tried helping her with her money situation by showing her how to budget and save, but she doesn't seem to realize that the world does not evolve around $80.00 shorts and $50.00 runners in order to survive. I know that when talking to teens, we parents end up sounding like broken records and you wonder if after a while all they hear is blah blah blah. I would like to know if there is anyone out there who had a strategy for their teen and that it worked. My husband and I are at wits end and cannot think of anything else to convince her that staying home and saving for college is a better choice for her right now than living on her own. Any suggestions would be great.  

Hi ShortyLock!   

I am jyakfour. I am 38, Married 12 years as of Aug 14, Happy Anniversary by the way!   

I am from Calgary Alberta Canada. This is so cool because I love snow globes too and I think that Vince Gill has the most gorgeous eyelashes ever and he doesn't look bad in a pair of jeans either lol.  

You have no idea how long I have been waiting to see a message board for someone just like me who likes to talk and joke. I do hope that person is you. I have visited the U.S. but not KY, I am sure it is very pretty there as I have seen pictures, and most of the states I have visited were very nice. Well I hope that we can become friends, it sure would be nice to get to know someone from the U.S.  

Hoping to see a reply  

take care.  

wow was todays show ever interesting. That mom who is addicted to pain killers really made me cry. You could tell that she sure was appreciative of the help Dr. Phil and her local church is giving her. I must be really naive, I never knew that there were people out there with problems like that. It sure makes you think sometimes that you may not have it as hard as some others. Then after watching Dr. Phil, I watched Oprah, and she was talking about poop on her show! It was funny.... informative, but funny. Did anyone else see the Oprah show today? 

hi Tina. I couldn't find your email from your profile. My email is available on my profile, so please email me ok. I did reply earlier but I think I took too long and the site automatically bumped me off. Looking forward to hearing from you!!!! Gotta go for now. Take care your friend from up north. jyakfour/Yvonne

hi Tina, I havent received your email yet, but I am checking regularily. It is all good to say my name on the message board. I know it is extremely late but I am home with just my son and we watched movies for most of the evening, mom and son time you know. I didn't even realize the time, holy cow it is 3:15 in the morning! I am usually up this late on Friday evenings anyway, just chillin' to movies and of course typing to you lol. I am really going to enjoy this weekend because it is a long weekend for us in Canada. It is our labor day weekend or also known as the last long weekend of the summer, waaaa. lol. The next long weekend for us is in October 10, Thanksgiving Day, or Columbus day for you. Well I am going to make this short because by rights I should be in bed and there is nothing on t.v. but infomercials, yuk. I hope to get your email soon! Till then, TTFN Yvonne.

I am looking for some advice or for someone who can relate and give me some feedback. I have been married for 12 years and this is my problem. My husband constantly lies and is diceiving towards me and I am at the end of my rope. The lying has been going off and on for a while now and I don't trust him anymore. This past weekend has confirmed all my fears and anxiety. He has been hanging around with an old friend who has a shady past and last night he asked me for my last  bit of money that I had on me. Ended up using it for alcohol or whatever and lied about getting the money back to me. His friend promised the money back to him and that fell through. I already have trust issues with my hubby and his friend and am starting to realize that I am the stupid one for giving the benefit of the doubt. I am at a loss and am not sure where to go from here or what the heck I am supposed to do from now on. If there is anyone out there who has been in this situation I would appreciate any advice you can give. Thanks so much.

Thank you for the words of encouragement! I really appreciate knowing that I am not alone here. We had a family therapist but our sessions were done and she closed the file because she felt we didn't need anymore therapy. I did have a serious talk with him and told him I wasn't going to be used like that anymore. I left the ball in his court to see if he will follow through on what he said he was going to do and that was to get help for himself. I also told him that if it happened again that he was to make sure that the door didn't hit his butt on the way out. I know what to do in terms of getting help if it does happen again. It will hurt still for a while, but I am a strong person and will make it. Thanks again!

I don't know how to go about this, but I am extremely frustrated right now and could use some cheering up and hope there is someone out there who can help. My problem is that I have been thinking of leaving my hubby. This has been on my mind for quite some time and I don't know where to turn for support as family is not really an option and friends are few. I feel like my self worth is being sucked right out of me and I am drained. I do not want to feel like this anymore and I do want to start feeling good about myself again but I cannot do it in this house with my husband. I do not want to come off like I am depressed or anything, I just basically have had enough of the crap I have been dealing with.  I have alot on my mind and it seems like the world on my shoulders. I could use some real honest suggestions on what I can do to move on or feel better about myself. If there is anyone who is willing to share some insight that would be great. Thanks for reading.