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Quote From: matinaris

I really understand what you have gone through. Betrayed, abandoned, lost, angry, and feeling pissed off. 13 years ago, I too felt so depressed I couldn't go on. I was left to raise a son by myself, without any direction on how I was going to manage, during such anger and depression. I lost everything, even the compassion from those I cared about. I really realized I was on my own, and my problems were not going away. One day I stopped thinking about how screwed over I was and decided I was going to do something about it. I had no car and no food. I felt like a laughing stock and I was clothed in shame. I had no where to go but up. So I purchased a pair of rollerblades and a jogging stroller. I decided I was going to make more money than I had ever made before, and my son would never know we were doing without. I rollerbladed 30 miles a day to work and with him in the jogging stroller to the sitter. I lost a ton of weight. And he thought it was fun. People started recognizing me and waving daily on my route, and thought I was a work out fanatic. They were inspired. I was able to gain my dignity back and it felt good to be independent and strong. In two years I made three times more money and bought a junker of a car. But it was mine. My son and I were elated. I found God, or should I say He found me. I also found out how strong I was and no one will ever be able to take that away from me. It is my story and triumph. Praise God for the days I cried because I was starving and I just couldn't put my blades on, I felt a little push and peace would come. It was alright. My son only knows me as strong. And that is pricless. God Bless You on your journey. Matina

Quote From: mommy2426

I have left my children in the car when I need to run into the gas station, get mail out of my mail box (that is a block from my house), and other times when I know that I can see my children and  I can tell what they are doing.  I don't think this is wrong.  Should someone come up to the car then I would be able to run out and be at the car in seconds.  I don' t think the mom on todays show did anything wrong.  If I were in her shoes I would've done the same thing.  It is easier to leave a baby, toddler in the car for a couple of minutes if you have to run a quick errand and can see the car at all times. 

I think society has gotten so paranoid and we all have heard about the bad things that happen when parents leave their children in the car.  However, if it's hot out, or too cold then yeah I'm not going to leave my child in the car.  If I'm downtown in a rough neighborhood, no I'm not going to leave my children in the car.  If I'm in my neighborhood, a small town, where it's safe then yes I will leave my children in the car.  I think it's stupid to take a toddler and an infant out of the car to run in and pay for gas just to come back and strap them back in again.  People need to stop freaking out!  

As far as parents who have had children die in their cars and weren't prosecuted something is very wrong with that.  Especially when some Pd's are so quick to charge a mother when she is only 30 feet away from the car.  Come on people!! 

Quote From: tjw1963

I had a similar experience 22 years ago leaving children in a car.  I learned a lesson the hard way.  I am very embarrassed and ashamed of what I did and take full responsibility for being an irresponsibile parent at the time. Hopefully someone else will learn from my lack of judgement.  Four months prior to the accident, I had a baby boy that died from anencephaly at birth (1986).  Husband at the time was in the military, Fort Ord California, so I thought I could get involved with some volunteer work delivering welcome packets to try to get my mind off the death of my son.  I had two little kids at the time, 4 and 2 years old.  I thought they would like riding in the car with me and getting out of the house.  I had only 2 packets to deliver.  I stop at the first house.  I park the car in front of the house, which was on a hill and shut the car off.  Both kids always rode in a carseat and were securely buckled in as usual.  I went about the same distance as Treffley, only to the front door of where I was delivering the welcome packet.  I knock on the door,  I hear a noise, turn around and next thing I realize is that the car is rolling down the hill with both of my kids in it.  My son had unbuckled himself from his carseat, jumped over the driverseat and was messing with the steering wheel. It all happened so fast but that 30 feet put me to far away to prevent what happened next.  The car rolled about 60 feet down the hill into the back of another car.  My son was in the driver seat and my daughter was still in her carseat.  All I could think was that my two remaining children were both dead.  I ran down the hill to find two crying and very alive children.  They had some bruises but nothing serious.  I learned from that experience, it does not matter how close you think you are to the car, you can't react fast enough to the unpredictable of what can  and does happen.  After that I always took my kids with me no matter what I was doing. 

Quote From: threekiddos

I have so many issues with some of the people posting here.

 

First off I have a 1 year old, 3 year old and a 5 year old.  Last year when my daughter was only 10 days old I broke my foot.  Trying figuring that out.  The lady today that said she would take her 1 toddler out to go to the curb to put a piece of mail in is crazy.  Try taking three kids out that are all in 5pt harnesses with a broken foot and on cruches.  Try that for size. 

 

I have gone to bank.   There is a parking spot right in front of the atm.  Probably less than 10 feet from the car.  You honestly think I am going unbuckle three small kids less than 10 feet to atm where Its more likey one will run off and get hit by a car.

 

Some of you all need a reality check.  Until the day you have more than one child and all in five pt harnesses.

 

Are you telling me I am not allowed to load my groceries and return the cart and bring three kids 20 feet to return the cart. 

 

And one person said it was a firezone.  ARe you crazy its a loading and unloading zone.  Don't you ever go to best buy or walmart and see people loading there trucks with big electronics.  How is her putting the change in the donationa can any different.  I  will remember the next time I go to best buy and buy a huge tv and the come up to the car to load it that I need to take all of my kids out of the car.

 

You all need a reality check.

 

 

Quote From: carollewis

I have been a CPS social worker for 10 years.  Leaving a child unattended in a car is definately neglect.  Parents always say that the child was never out of sight.  The reality is, while they are walking away from the car, doing whatever it is they feel they need to do (in this case putting the change in the Salvation Army pot), they are NOT watching the child.  It takes someone with experience less than 10 seconds to break into a locked car.  A sleeping toddler is a pediphile's dream.  Most of the time, nothing would happen.  But how would Treffly feel if this was the one time when her child was abducted?  She would never forgive herself.  It is simply not worth taking the chance.  In San Diego it is unlikely that she would be arrested.  If she returned to the car before the police removed the child, she probably would have gotten a lecture and a referral would be made to CPS for a child abuse/ neglect investigation.  This mother needs to be checking the Megan's law websight to get a reality check about how many sex offenders live in every neighborhood.  I hope this incident was annoying enough that she will never leave a child unattended again.

Quote From: gypsyjt

and if you got back to your car and it wasn't  there?  How could you stop a moving car?