Messages By: godskiddj

I have gone thru "empty nest" four times....with one more child still at home who leaves for college in the fall of next year.   Here is my dilemma...she is having such a hard time realizing she will be leaving me and  knowing all her friends will not be  nearby anymore. How can I help her become more excited for her future and not be afraid of being wihthout me.  I have struggled thru major depression in my life and think this plays a part on her fears of leaving.  She wants to go to college to become a Chrisitan teacher and I know she will be fine...any suggestions on how to help her cope and not be so afraid that she is in tears this far from leaving in time?

 I have considered that a possibility.  I am working on lots of crafts, joined a few game site, studying to be a medical transcriptionist, and am getting involved with the church.  My daughter and I talk quite a bit about college, and from what I have heard from her, I think she is afraid to leave because she is the baby and she told me she was being very selfish, but that is was our mommy daughter time together she will highly miss.  After our last child left, daughter and I spend alot of time doing things together. Husband is a long haul truck driver, so he is not home often. Thank you for the vote of confidence, much appreciations.

 I just saw the show today. I have been searching all over as best I know how for my husband's son. I paid a lot of money all to no avail. My husband really wants to connect with his son and to let him know how much he really loved him.  Here is his story.
My husband's name is Chuck. It was Charles Edwin Stringer at the time of his son's birth. The birth mother was a prostitute who had a relationship outside of prostitution with my husband. (At the time we did not know each other.) His name at birht was Edwin Vincent Stringer in Redding California on December 15, 1973. His mother's name was Dawn.
"Bear" was in the custody of my husband in 1979, when my husband went into Oregon to visit friends. He was unaware of a clause in his custody papers saying he could not leave the state. When he got back to redding, "Bear" was taken from him and he was put in jail. My husband was told that the only way to get out of jail was to sign over his son to be adopted. Chuck thinks the adoptive family name was Lemmon, but he is not sure. All of the birth records have been blacked out as to father's name and stuff like that. He just wants to let his son know how much he did love him, and that he had no choice but to sign him over. The last thing he remembers was "Bear" in a car being driven away and he was yelling that he loved him.
We have 5 children and these kids, all ranging in age from 24 down to 17, all know about "Bear" and wish they could meet their "brother".
If there is any way in the world that anyone could help us, God be praised, it would be such a blessing. Thank you.................................Debi