Messages By: kennyllc

My brother-in-law adopted two children in his last marriage. When the marriage didn't work out, he was forced to pay child-support, however, the children are now turned against him by the mother and do not want to see him. He still pays child-support.

Where does "the best thing for the children" come in to play here?

Is it truly the "best thing for the child" for the mother to be enabled with backdoor alimony payments just so she can party and keep the children hating the "father"?

I don't think so.

I think that child-support was good in the hands of responsible mothers, such as my own. But responsible mothers are getting harder to come by these days. People don't play fair like she did.

 There should be a ruling though as to guilt in divorce court to determine how much and who should receive it. In some cases, I believe that it should be paid into a trust fund only to be drawn on BY the child upon adulthood, and stipulated for such things as education, housing, food, or other necessities for them to start their own life.

In my adulthood I learned that my dad was a total jerk who cheated on my mother throughout their marriage, but he only paid $75/month for us three boys, while also claiming us as dependents. Cha-ching!

But that was back in the 1970's.

Why does it all have to swing so wildly to the extreme without the variables of guilt and responsibility being required in family court?

Your biggest problem is that the states hire certain people through affirmative action to handle all this. I believe the IRS does the same thing.

Sue the state for harassment and fraud; other than that, I think your only option is to move to another state that doesn't extradite dad's, like maybe Iran, and keep your identity and whereabouts entirely anonymous.

I think you guys should go on the show with this because there is a lot of this ineptitude going on in government offices.

...meanwhile the state and it's professionals continue to claim that they are doing "what's best for the children."

These idiots need to be taken to task, and I think Dr.Phil should do an expose' on this in a very public manner.

Children are bad at criticising others in their ignorance on account of differences in others, and always have been. Discipline should remove this trait far from them.

However, such experimental differences in behavior are not a sign of permanent traits, as children become curious about their bodies. We all know this as a fact if we are honest about childhood. Weren't we all children at one time in our lives?

No, seriously, now. What gives?

The first child doesn't know what sexual identity is yet, and without the coaching of adults they wouldn' t even know the vocabulary.

The second child, being mocked by girls who obviously are undisciplined intheir own households, is a shame. However, what is the alternative for protecting them from the ridicule of others? Perhaps home-schooling and confinement to other interests?

To identify a child as "trans-gendered" or "gay" at those early stages in life is a mockery and a further insult to their innocent though strange behavior, and to recommend such a lifestyle to them as an alternative would be the bain of dangerous stupidity and yet another wound to their psyche.

It would be like telling your son:

"Sorry to tell you this, but girls don't like you and you act effeminate, so you are doomed to a life of pedaresty and perversion that will eventually cause diseases of which you cannot cure, behavior that is unacceptable to nature, and ridicule that you will not be able to bear."  

I mean, what is the alternative for them? Will recommending a gay lifestyle or trans-genderism relieve them of the public ridicule that accompanies their strange childhood behavior?

Certainly not ! In many ways it will only accentuate it, and especially so in their view toward their parents who should have protected them from a life of perversion and mental abuse that accompanies the homosexual lifestyle.

Homosexuality starts in the sandbox, and the big funny guy that convinces other children to try things is the same one that says "Here. Eat this, it's just a tootsie roll."

In their adulthood they will then say "I was born that way" as an excuse for their guilty and morbid pleasures. Then we have these whacko professionals who say that it is scientifically so.

If they can bully your child into experimenting with them, then their social skills will be broken and melded back into a mentality that is corrupt and dangerous for their future, essentially becoming a slave to a group of very abusive and sadistic people with a flair for looking sweet and wonderful.

If your child has cross-gendered traits, they are a target for these abusers who tell them they have no choice but to become "gay", just like them.

Go to the end of the line and let us experts tell you what's what.

Many children could have ended up gay, even myself because of the interference of cultural identity stamps and adult interference in molding my psychological makeup. But my mother was a Christian woman with a good head on her shoulders who taught me better.

I didn't persist in childhood gender experimentalism, although I was even molested by an older teenage boy once due to my own childhood curiosities and vulnerability. I learned to view it as unnatural and disgusting, just as it truly is, and also that I was taken advantage of, although my mother didn't know about the instance until I told her in my 40's. 

I am totally heterosexual, and vehemently opposed to homosexuality for what it truly is:

Sexually deviant abuse.

...and science says so.

What a crock!

To identify a child as "trans-gendered" or "gay" at those early stages in life is a mockery and a further insult to their innocent though strange behavior, and to recommend such a lifestyle to them as an alternative would be the bain of dangerous stupidity and yet another wound to their psyche.

It would be like telling your son:

"Sorry to tell you this, but girls don't like you and you act effeminate, so you are doomed to a life of pedaresty and perversion that will eventually cause diseases of which you cannot cure, behavior that is unacceptable to nature, and ridicule that you will not be able to bear."  

I mean, what is the alternative for them? Will recommending a gay lifestyle or trans-genderism relieve them of the public ridicule that accompanies their strange childhood behavior?

Certainly not ! In many ways it will only accentuate it, and especially so in their view toward their parents who should have protected them from a life of perversion and mental abuse that accompanies the homosexual lifestyle.

... I will let you go on and sympathize with the teenager that molested me when I was a boy, and who claims that he "was born that way".  He was simply a predator.

He was left alone with his step-brother and sister one night and their home caught on fire. When he reached through the window to pull little Charlie out into the yard, Charlie pulled away and stayed in the house, only to be burned to death.

Poor guy. I feel sorry for the pervert.

He is obviously kind of fruity himself, but managed to sit there on the show all smug and silent while nobody took him to task for any accounting in this.

Whatever happened to Dr. Phil's old adage about the same-sex parent and their great influence on your personality? 

I bet he is bi-sexual and the mother is covering for him.

Has he been molesting that little boy and messing with his head?