Messages By: derevna33

Quote From: shadycat1

 First off if the SURGERY ITSELF is housed in a Strip Mall, personally I wouldn't CARE how MANY DIPLOMAS, CERTIFACATIONS or whatever he had on his wall, SURGERY is the DOMAIN of Hospitals, maybe some private clinics, personally though I would INSIST on touring the facilities, everything from the surgery itself to the recovery area, then talk to the employees from the receptionist to the Head Nurse, and if ANYTHING, ANYTHING makes you feel uncomfortable, or uneasy at all, find another Doctor or facility.  Any Doctor who tries to Bully or talk you into ANYTHING isn't much of a Doctor, any DOCTOR who dosen't take your concerns seriously, isn't much of a Doctor.  I know too many people, even now who take the Doctors word as law, some ended up having to face some serious consequences, personally I respect a Doctor MORE if they can admit they DON'T KNOW (as frustrating as that can be for the patient) and will recommend another Doc, then one that sees me as a Lab Experiment.
Did any of these other women go to the Media with their stories ?  It breaks my heart to see things like this, MOST people who have plastic surgery, really have no disfigurements that may make it NECESSARY, they do it in an attempt to fix something in order to make them feel better mentally, some get so Obsessed and desparate that they DON'T CARE or don't THINK about the consequences, EVERY TIME a scalpel cuts into the human body, EVERY TIME you go under anasthetic, you are at risk of any number of complications.  What breaks my heart, is NOW these women are disfigured WORSE than ANYTHING they could've perceived BEFORE the surgery.
My big problem with Plastic Surgery, is it seems now it is playing to our fears of aging, of trying to make people belive that if you tuck up your stomach, or lift your face, that somehow it will fix any problems you may have in you life.
And ANY Doctor who uses an INFOMERCIAL to advertise himself, I would be VERY suspicious of, their work should be able to speak for its self, I know, you can't get a patient list for referals or opinions, unlike say a contractor, Doctors are NOT allowed to release patient files, so the onus is on the patient to take a step back and learn EVERYTHING they can about the procedure its self and the Doctor BEFORE sighning on, and DON'T EVER be afraid to say "this Doctor isn't right for me"  This is your body, health and in some cases your LIFE.

Quote From: kitten0251

My family has gone through some rough times in the last few yrs.

I can't understand why my husband can't get through it and go on.

Our daughter had just divoriced her husband of 9 yrs and he shot himself in the head while on the phone with her in 2000.

You can imagine what that has done to us all cause we loved him like he was our own son. They have 2 children now 15 and 11.

She has remarried  and my husband, her daddy does not want to be in the same room with the new husband. It has really hurt all of our family members. We have always gotten together with  for all holidays and now he will not go and it puts me in the middle and hurts my daughter and the children. They all want their grand father with them.

I don't know what to do about this it justs makes me hate holidays.

This yr we are to go to our daughters house and he will not go because the son in law will be there. At Thanksgiving he went cause the son in law worked and was not there.

THis is so unfair to all of us ...What can I do to get him through this and be a part of the family get togethers

and accept the son in law. They have been married 5 yrs now and I think he should get over it.

Thanks

 

Quote From: ramair

 Worship on the first day of the week didn't originate with Constantine. It originated in the New Testament. As a command. Gathering together. Bringing tithes and offerings. Other than that, I whole-heartedly agree with you. The incorporation of unscriptural beliefs and practices, many of them pagan based, into the "church" did orginate with Constantiner.

Quote From: housewife52

My oldest dog Sammie is 13 (Sept.9). He is blind,mostly deaf, and has trouble walking. But, on the other hand, he is still eating well, and still responds to our love. So, what I've been doing is, since he can't get around well, I carry him out to do his business. I take him outside, set him down, he does his thing. I pick him up and bring him back into the house. If he was a big dog, I would not have this option. He has been our bud for 13 years, I cannot stand the thought of having him put down because he is old and blind and arthritic.  I know he may get to a point where he might NEED to be put down. I'm praying that he will just die a natural death. Time will tell. I realize that we have the responsibility as his people to figure out just when enough is enough. But, for now, I think what I'm doing is reasonable.

 

I have never thought of any of my pets as human. But, they ARE a big part of our everyday life. And when you get attached to them, you don't get unattached.

Quote From: countrytra

Too bad Kim never read what C. S. Lewis' wife, Joy Davidman, said of "Christians": 

 

"One sanctimonious hypocrite makes a hundred unbelievers."  (and she is being seen by millions of viewers.)  Maybe you can forward that quote to her; maybe it will wake her up.  The very first installment, she threw the "f" word and has other very questionable ethics.  Some Christian example...a real testament to God.  She "talks the talk", but she DOES NOT DO THE WALK!  She is actually responsible for turning people AWAY from a saving faith.  How I wish she could wake up and realize that.  I was a counsellor in Billy Graham's '62 and '71 Chicago crusades.  She is doing MAJOR damage to God and how millions see "Christians." 

Quote From: show_fan1

My daughter is 28 years old and has been in and out of rehab since she was 18.  We thought the last time she fell off the wagon that it would be the last time--that was in 2004.   I have always wanted to write Dr. Phil about this to get help, but never could muster up the strength.  I wish I could send you a picture of her--she is a beautiful girl, blonde hair blue eyes.    She went to parochial school through 8th grade and was in public high school.  Her college tuition was paid for 2 years and she threw all of that out for drugs.   She got out of rehab again in 2004, found a job, got married, and subsequently fell off the wagon. Since I am retired, I told her while she had a chance to get help while she was covered by her husbands insurance to get it.   But she sacrificed all of that and ended up on the streets in June of 2007.   Her husband left her and divorced her and took the dog.   It has been 5 months of torture, but she is finally in a halfway house. It wasn't easy getting her there.   Lots of phone calls.  I got her arrested to get her off the streets and get shelter and food for her.   But once again, she was one up on me and she found some "sugar daddy" to post bond for her and she went back out on the streets.  I then still had to get in debt and hire an attorney to help.   One would ask why I just didn't bring her back home.   The answer to that is that when she lived at home, money became missing out of my checking account.   To bring her back home, I would become a prisoner in my own home, having to lock up everything.   I feel like I would have to take the computers away (yes, she used Myspace to find some of her crummy friends), and I would have to be a taxi cab to take her everywhere because I wouldn't trust her to drive my car. 

 

There is a dread that I have, that she will always fall off the wagon and expect Mom to come running financially to get her well.   I found that my helping her financially was merely enabling her to do more drugs.  Some parents can afford this--unfortunately I am not one of them.  My money has to last me until I'm "6 feet under."   Not knowing if a lifetime of drugs is what she end up with I am supporting her emotionally, and am only jump-starting her at this halfway house.   I have done all of the work for her to get her there, now it is her turn, but I will always be there for her emotionally.  These are your kids and you love them; however, drug addiction is one of a parents worst nightmares.   I do love my daughter Amy so much and I pray for her every day.

Quote From: drumbum

I am so sick and tired of doctors and their diseases for everything. Drug abuse is not a disease, it is a life style. people on drugs or booze were not sitting a home one day and the drug or booze disease came calling. Addiction is a character flaw and i am really tired of people putting a sickness label on it. I started drinking and smoking when I was 12 or 13 and had committed myself to a pretty serious cocaine habit by the age of 28 or so. That was a flaw in my character, not a disease. Only when I decided to change that flaw did I kick the drugs, 15 years ago. At the age of 50, I haven't had a cigarette in almost 10 years and I might drink a case of beer in 6 months. So tell me, I took no cure,I attended no AL-ANON , no narcotics anonymous, I was not sent away to some glitzy rehab centre. No, I realized that i had a flaw in my character and I changed it myself  !!!!!!  This little brat with her addictions, needs to look at herself from the outside to see what kind of person she has become, and when she really sees and sees what she is doing to everyone around her, only then will she be ready to change her character and stop thinking only about themselves. That is most of problems with people on this show, they don't think of anyone other than themselves. We boomer's have raised a bunch of weak minded, socially retarded and morally devoid offspring, and we ask ourselves where did it all go wrong. Well people we went wrong and we taught our kids to be wrong, and we look too much to people like Dr. Phil to fix us, we don't need the Dr Phil's of the world, we need only look to ourselves to fix ourselves. PERIOD !!!! 

Quote From: evora_anne

I agree that. this works at 2 and 3...but just wait a few years.  My Daughter was a gem at 2 and 3.  Her behavior did not start going downhill until about 6 and went on a major landslide at 8.  Your Daughters are at a delightful age...hopfully they never have behavior issues, but if they do, realize that you have loved them and have not failed them.

Being strict is not alwyas the best way..and time outs and counting only last for so long...eventually you too will learn the gift of negotiation as I have.  Many of my friends are also using this negotiation process with their tweens....Thanks Dr. Phil and Dr. Lawlis!