Messages By: appsas

As a mother who breastfed her first child, and will do so again when my second is born next month, I cannot understand these women who insist that all breastfeeding women feel as they do, that it is their right anytime anywhere, don't care what anyone else thinks.  I COULDN'T DISAGREE MORE!!   

Why are they making this such an issue?  What is wrong with being discreet?  Want to breastfeed in public?  Fine, but please be discreet about it.  Cover your breast, please.  

You argue it's a natural thing, and a bonding moment.  I agree.  But guess what?  Not everyone is bonding with you, and it's a PRIVATE MOMENT between yourself and your child.  I think it's quite selfish to assume that everyone around you wants to share in your bonding moment.  AND, I don't need to look at your boobs!  Look away you say?  Where do I look?  I don't walk into Olive Garden or Starbucks and expect nor want to see a woman breastfeeding in the middle of the room.   

I am always still amazed when I see a woman breastfeeding in a very public place, and it still makes me mad.  I feel some of these women need something to argue about, they need to make a statement, and it's more about that then actually about how natural or nurturing it is. 

Ladies, it can be done discreetly in public, so why don't you just cover yourself?  Seems to me it is an attention issue for many.  That is what makes me so angry, not the act itself, but the mother's insistance that everyone be comfortable with her choice and her body.  Very selfish. 

If you have young children needing to breast feed I have two suggestions for you. 

1) LEAVE THE PUBLIC PLACE YOU ARE IN, no one wants a free peep show with some kid attached. If you can't leave than..... 

2)USE A BREAST PUMP AND BOTTLE FEED IN PUBLIC 

Part of having a child is being prepared to take on responsibilites. If you are not prepared to take other's feelings, regarding this subject, into consideration then I don't think you are prepared to take on motherhood.  

If you go out to a nice meal or head to the shopping mall and you know your child is going to be hungry....BE PREPARED.  

I was at a local restuarunt with my boyfriend, when the lady at the table next to us pops out her boob and little Johnny starts sucking away. I was SO offended! I AM EATING!!! It's disguiting!! If you need to go out to eat with the family again....BE PREPARED. Or go to a child friendly restaraunt or get a sitter!!! 

I am sick of seeing it and there is no reason to have to do it in public. Thats what breast pumps are for....Stop making others uncomfortable. 

Since everyone keeps calling me that girl, although my name is Shelly. I figured I better post here because my point if view is being seriously corrupted ny other other posters on this board. My very first sentence when I spoke was "I am not against breastfeeding at all". Therefore, I do not long lectures on the benefits of breastfeeding, or how natural it is. I have a full education and I am totally aware. The point I very clearly made, and Saynorra did not, was have some basic consideration for other human beings feelings. She said point blank that she does not care, and I am sorry to say that that is a very prominant attitude here in American- it's all about me, and the rest of you be damned. Very sad. 

Someone here made the point of public displays of affection. Ok, if you were in a restaurant and a couple was getting carried away at a table, wouldn't you at least wish they had the consideration to respect the feelings of other people around them rather than make everyone uncomfortable? Braver souls might even send a host over to ask them to stop, or speak up themselves.  

The simple fact is that you don't HAVE TO make a public display out of yourself. I know that there are times in life that you would like people to be more considerate of you (for whatever reason), but if your attitude is that you never have to, then don't ever expect anything in return.  

For your information I am the PROUD mother of three very smart, beautiful healthy children, and guess what?? they WERE NOT BREASTFEED!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  So if you dont like what i have to say then DONT READ IT!   

Oh by the way, look harder, it is not that expensive to buy a pump!  I did my research for you!   

I have plenty of friends that have pumped, and they seem to say the total opposite of what your saying!  It is not brain surgery!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 

Why, because I made an acurate statement that you have no appropriate response for? Or, because rather than speaking like grown ups I have been called ugly, stupid, a sexual deviant, pervert, uneducated, inhuman, ......etc?  

Even Dr. Phil didn't like Synorra saying it was her right to impose her will on to everybody else, and he had nothing to say to me. I am sorry you are all having issue with that. Maybe it is something you should think on, though.