Messages By: utahgirl79

  Well said!!!!  I 100% agree with you !  NO ONE SHOULD EVER, EVER HAVE TO DO THAT!!!  Especially if they aren't comfortable with it.  Some men just don't get it!   

  I agree that when we have to turn our children over (as far as starting school) it is oh so very hard.  I have been a stay-at-home mom since my son was born and really feel blessed that I have been able to.  My son this September started kindergarten. It was hard to turn him over and to trust that everything would be okay.  I mean, deep down I knew that it would be.  I now find myself thinking, "If only he could be 4 again so that him and I could have just one more year together at home."  I wish that the times that I did stress about the messes or the coloring on the walls that I just would have taken a deep breath and enjoyed the time.  Don't get me wrong I wasn't and still am not the type of parent where I stress about making sure everything is in it's right place every second of the day.  

       It's just that I realize now that children grow too fast and to waste those precious moments with them when their little by stressing out is a complete waste of time.   I'm not saying that I have been able to alleviate all  the stresses that come with being a mother but that my perspective is different now.  Time with our children is so precious and I wouldn't trade it for anything else in the world!! 

  Hello,  wow...sounds like you have a lot on your plate.  I think that it is so neat that you are home with your children.  I too am a stay-at-home mom and love it.   My advice about the potty training for your girls is to not push it if they're not ready.  They say that girls take a little bit longer than boys.  What I did with my son was I made him a potty chart.  I then took him to Wal-Mart and let him choose a package of his favorite stickers.  Everytime he went to the bathroom he was able to place one of his stickers on the chart  and he would recieve MAJOR praise for his success!!  And at the end of the day (even if he did have an accident...because we all know those are bound to happen) he would get a sucker or some kind of reward for his efforts in using the toilet.  It made if fun for him.  He took to that very well and was within 4 to 6 days completely out of diapers.   There are a lot of people who think that their children should be out of diapers at a certain age.  But as we know every child is different.  I would, if I were you, start off by bringing your girls to the bathroom and to go through the whole routine of using the bathroom with them. If that particular day  they don't show any sort of interest. .. would then give it a few days or so and do it all over again until they grab onto it.   

     That's just some of my advice.  Hope it helps! 

      I read your message and although I do understand that it's a person's own choice as to weither or not they have children...I was disturbed by some of your comments.  To me, children and their needs are not distractions.  Raising a child with strong morals, values and self-esteem can be the most rewarding thing a person can ever do.  And hey, if you and your husband just don't want to go there that's fine.  But to me you almost make it sound as though a child places such a burden upon one success and happiness.  Yet my son is how I define my success and happiness!!!  No high dollar bank account, or CEO position, or beautiful house or car for that matter could ever outweigh the love, the happiness and fulfillment that comes through raising a respectable child.  I also thought it was quite strange that you said that you and your husband are healthier and look younger than your counterparts with children.  I beg to differ. There are those people that keep a healthy body and mind even while raising a child or having had one for that matter.   

      Yes, no one ever said that we have to have children and I do agree it's a personal choice that each of us get's to make.  You probably do have more money and time to do things for your community but who's to say that those of us with children don't or can't.  And believe it or not those of us who have chosen to have children can also sustain a strong, healthy bond in our marriages.  We, at times, might be a lil' strapped for time but then it becomes our responsibility to make time for the things that are important to us.  My husband and I have also been through some SERIOUS STORMS in our relationship but have managed to pull through everytime.  And most of the time our trials hit us was when we had already had our son.  I never said that you stated that it's impossible for those with children to do any of these things but I just wanted to show you my proof that with children, or for me...my only child....I am still successful.  Maybe not so much in my wallet but through my life and family.