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September 9, 2005, 11:08 pm PDT

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Just got in from work, my feet are killing me.

Hey, please hang in there.  I don't believe there are many on tonight and I'm really in not the best frame of mind tonight to be giving advise. 

  

I am here if you need me, more will be on tomorrow. 

  

I am thinking about you! 
 
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September 9, 2005, 11:12 pm PDT

....sorry should have gone to Contrary

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I have been trying to post Have been having trouble, as usual. 

I guess I don't type fast enough.  

I was abused a child sexual - physicaly - emotionaly. 

I'm getting a little punchy now as the sleep meds are kicking in. 

stick with me if the sleeping misstakes get bad.<g> I've only been tring off and on for 3 hours. 

I use myself as an scapegoat. I barely eat, my meds keep me plump 180's. I'm always dumping on myself. 

I hate my life Pill pack to pill pack that's how I messure my day's 

I am not happy nor am I sad. 

I have a couple of greyhounds that keep me throughout the day. 

oh and a token cat. 

I am part of a video link that will have some people watching me in my apt. go about my everyday duties for a couple of months. Government experiment. 

As usual it didn't work for me and no one has come back to fix it. 

Mary 

  

  

  

  

  

Hey, please hang in there.  I don't believe there are many on tonight and I'm really in not the best frame of mind tonight to be giving advise.  

   

I am here if you need me, more will be on tomorrow.  

   

I am thinking about you!  
 
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September 9, 2005, 11:15 pm PDT

my apologies, last note should have gone to contrary....

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Hey, please hang in there.  I don't believe there are many on tonight and I'm really in not the best frame of mind tonight to be giving advise. 

  

I am here if you need me, more will be on tomorrow. 

  

I am thinking about you! 
 
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September 9, 2005, 11:32 pm PDT

To Kellcat, re; 20 yrs ago I had polyps removed from my bowel

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I don't know if anyone has replied to this since I haven't been on but I wanted to calm your nerves a little bit. My husband hand the same done and they thought he had diverticulitis (?) which are small ulcers in the intestines. He had the colonoscopy procedure and came to find out it was only IBS and he had one polyp. He had the same systems as you described. Have they gotten worse since you went to the DR's. In the meantime until you get the procedure done watch your diet. Do not eat anything with small seeds in them like sesame seeds, poppy seeds, corn, peas, peanuts, raspberries, strawberries. Raw vegetables such as lettuce can aggravate it as well. A High Fiber plan is a good idea in this situation. Either find foods high in Fiber (Beans Have the Most) or get Metamucil and have one glass a day. This is just an idea until you can get into to have the test done. Did they give you any of this information when you went to the Dr's or had this before. 

  

Can you get another referral to go someplace else beside this hospital?  

  

More than likely you are not going to die. My husband had the symptoms on and off as well. When you eat the foods I described above then the polyps get irritated.  

  

I hope this helps some. 

If you do not get an appt in a reasonable amount of time you can phone and enquire to get on a cancellation list, and if that fails after 2 weeks of no notice, I would start to phone local representatives, etc, The hospital administrator a letter w/ cc.to local paper op column. 

  

Sqeaky wheel always gets greased, believe me, I know! 

  

Take action (my sibling works in a large hospital and she tells me that people who complain/voice will get attention). 
 
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September 9, 2005, 11:59 pm PDT

Online CBT course

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Hi everyone,   

   

You have probably noticed several postings I have put up in the last week or so,regarding my son's ability to overcome his generalized anxiety disorder, which had totally devastated his life.  It is my belief, that if I had not bought Dr. Richards social anxiety tape series that he would likely be much worse today, and could have been planing his funeral.  The best that I could see was that he would continue to simply exist in total misery, until he decided it was not worth it.   

   

As A result I have decided to offer a CBT course on-line.  Two years ago I ran a CBT course at our local library.  It was based on Dr. Richards  20 tape series for people suffering from social anxiety (phobia).  It ran for the full 20 weeks, as you cover one tape per week.  Because the first 12 weeks covers the cognitive aspect of the course and it would be impossible to practice the behavioral part on-line, it will be a 12 week course.  As I see there is a desperate need for it for people with limited resources I am offering it free of charge.  It will be limited to 10 people.  You will need access to a computer printer to print off the material.  This material should be put in a loose leaf binder.  I will send out one week's material at a time.  If  there are any questions on the material or questions in general you will be able to e-mail me at any time during the course.  The course will be open to people suffering any anxiety disorder or bipolar disorder (manic depression).   

   

The participants will be expected to practice there therapy for 30 minutes per day. This can be split up into two 15 minute sessions if you wish.  You can do more, but cramming does not work.  The mind will not accept, and hold information that is forced. Its like cramming for a test, you may remember the information long enough to pass the test, but the information is soon forgotten.   

Try to pick a time when you are least depressed, and feel relatively calm and relaxed.  If you are upset, the therapy will not likely work very well, if at all.    

   

   

Pat  

I would happily volunteer to engage in this course and would be extremely pleased to participate. 
 
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September 10, 2005, 12:01 am PDT

speaking of new then gone then new....lol

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THANK GOD I was timed out on a post while looking for resources because I was posting to wrong new person or right new person thinking about another new person so my response would have been for other person. At best leaving person I posted to scratching their head and at worst...with hurt feelings... I am so glad I timed out and checked one more time to be sure I had right before I posted. Thank you Lord Jesus... Oh and thanks, Debbie, for such a warm welcome back. I think it is best to leave no room for error since so many misunderstandings. Hugs and prayers, SEA

YYC, so very glad to be back ...   here for now, we'll see.  I've been a 'voyeur' and sorta following what's going on but not really there yet to post.  I'm starting to feel better, thought a hello would be in order! 

  

Cheers! 

  
 
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September 17, 2005, 10:49 am PDT

YYC - You asked about Terry Fox (run)..... here is his story, an amazing one at that!

Terry Fox's legacy of hope
CBC News Online | March 14, 2005

  

 


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Terry Fox has been described by his mother as "a very ordinary young man."

But the "ordinary young man" became a national hero when he ran across the country to raise money for cancer research. To millions of Canadians he represented everything that is good, inspiring, generous, selfless and decent.

June 28, 2001, was the 20th anniversary of the death of Terry Fox. Fox died nine months after his cancer forced him to abandon his cross-country run "The Marathon of Hope." In 10 years, the annual Terry Fox Run raised more than $250 million for cancer research worldwide. By 2004, according to the Terry Fox run website, that had surpassed $360 million.

Terry was born in 1958 in Winnipeg, Man. A few years later his family moved to Port Coquitlam , B.C.

As a kid, Terry was always enthusiastic about sports, even when he was the worst player on his Grade 8 basketball team. A teacher encouraged him to go out for cross-country running, a sport in which he had little interest. But Fox was determined to be better and to please his coach.

In his final year at Port Coquitlam secondary school he shared the Athlete of the Year award with his friend Doug Alward. After that, he went on to study physical education at Simon Fraser University .

Then, in 1977, when a pain in Terry's knee got so bad he could barely stand, he went to the hospital where he was diagnosed as having osteogenic sarcoma, a form of bone cancer. His right leg was amputated six inches above his knee.

He hated the time he spent in hospital and pushed himself to learn to walk again. His determination had him out playing golf only six weeks after the operation. Later, basketball returned to his life when he was invited to play wheelchair basketball with Rick Hansen.

But Terry never forgot his experience in the hospital. He was angry at how little money was spent on cancer research in Canada . He turned his anger into a mission – he would run across the country to raise both awareness and money in his fight against cancer.

When he began training, he kept his dream a secret. He told his family he was training for the Vancouver Marathon. The beginning was tough. He spent most of his time falling down and picking himself off the floor. He kept going, though, and after more than a year, and over 4,800 kilometres of running, he announced his plans to his family. He said his goal was to collect $1 for every person living in the country – at the time Canada had a population of about 24 million.

Support for his cause gradually built. Before his run, he collected donations including the camper van his friend Doug drove during the run. It was given to him by the Ford Motor Co.

Finally, on April 12, 1980, Terry Fox dipped his artificial foot in the Atlantic Ocean off St. John's , Nfld., and began his Marathon of Hope.

Terry ran about 42 kilometres each day no matter the weather – freezing rain, high winds, even snow. Skeptics thought he'd never make it past New Brunswick but he proved them wrong and Terry Fox became a household name.

He ran through Dartmouth , Charlottetown , Montreal , Ottawa , Toronto and a long list of places in between. When he wasn't on the move, he gave speeches that were often emotional, touching the hearts of many Canadians.

When August came along, Terry passed through Sudbury , the halfway mark on his journey west.

But on Sept. 1, chest pains and breathing problems forced him to stop running at a spot along the Trans-Canada Highway northeast of Thunder Bay . After 143 days and 5,373 kilometres, he announced he would have to postpone the rest of the run, saying "I'm gonna do my very best. I'll fight, I promise I won't give up."

Terry was sent to a hospital in B.C. where doctors discovered the source of his chest pains: cancer had spread to his lungs. The Marathon of Hope would have to go on without him. In the months that followed, donations kept coming. A total of $24.17 million was raised, surpassing Terry's initial goal.

When Terry was in hospital, he received a letter from one of the many people he had inspired along the way. Isadore Sharp, president of the Four Seasons Hotel, wrote Terry saying his dream would continue with an annual fundraising marathon, to be called the Terry Fox Run.

Terry himself laid out many of the guidelines for the Run that are still followed today – probably the most important of which is to keep the event non-competitive – no winners, no awards, just the goal of raising money for cancer research.

Terry Fox died on June 28, 1981, but not before becoming the youngest person ever to be awarded the Order of Canada.

On Sept. 13, 1981, the first Terry Fox Run was held. More than 300,000 Canadians took part in the event at 760 sites across the country. The run raised $3.5 million. The Terry Fox Run is a family affair for the Foxes. It was their idea to create a non-profit organization to run the charity after a family friend calculated that administration costs were eating up 35 per cent of the money raised. Since the Terry Fox Foundation was formed in 1988, those costs have dropped to two per cent.

Terry's brother Darrell is the national director of the run, his brother Fred is in charge of the foundation's provincial office in B.C., his sister Judith often speaks at schools, and his mother Betty spends five to seven months a year travelling across Canada giving presentations.

In 2003, the last year for which official figures are available, Terry Fox events at 1,100 locations in Canada and 50 other countries raised $20 million.

  

 

  

 

Communities in Canada raised $5 million that year, schools raised $6.7 million and corporate events raised $1.9 million.

On March 14, 2005, Terry Fox became the first time the image of a Canadian has appeared on a general-circulation Canadian coin. He is pictured on the reverse of the Terry Fox commemorative one dollar coin, wearing his Marathon of Hope t-shirt. The detail on his face shows his determination and anguish as he ran the equivalent of a full marathon daily.

The Queen occupies her usual place on the other side of the coin.

By September 2005, 20 million of the coins will have been produced. 
 
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September 21, 2005, 9:22 am PDT

To YYC

YesYouCan, 

  

 

You may want to add the following to your resource list.  It’s a bit more specific to Canada : 

  

 

http://www.violetnet.org/info/shelassoc.htm 

(women’s shelter’s organized by Province) 

  

 

http://www.gov.pe.ca/infopei/index.php3?number=1276 

( PEI womens shelter’s) 

  

 

http://www.geocities.com/Wellesley/3059/dv4.html 

(women’s shelter’s organized by country) 

  

 

http://www.safehorizon.org/index.php?nav=nb 

(I believe this is mostly USA , but really good info on all types of abuse) 

  

 

http://www.womenspace.ca/directory/directory.cgi 

(Canadian Women’s internet directory) 

  

 

http://www.womensweb.ca/ 

(Resources to help women find self-esteem and the tools to empower themselves)

  

 

  

 

http://www.mcaws.gov.bc.ca/womens_services/ 

( British Columbia womens site for abuse, etc.,) 

  

 

I don’t post much because I really don’t have much to say.  I don’t think I have the right to be diagnosed as ‘clinically depressed w/ anxiety and panic attacks’.  I oftentimes question my pdoc; ‘do you really think that I am depressed and should be on medication?’  She replies yes I am; but still don’t think I should be entitled to be.   

  

 

I have a great job w/ great salary and benefits, I live alone (by choice) in a house, big garden, I drive my own car; paid in full, great friends, and yet I have this awful, awful emotional turmoil inside when I allow depression (maybe not allow but it happens) to overtake me. 

  

 

I have never taken 1 sick day in 8 years, went through a divorce in 2000, moved 3 times (same city but difficult) and still ‘hung in there’ (thank god for medication and my pdoc and friends).   However, when I read what most of the people on the board have had to endure I feel soooooo selfish!!!  So I don’t chip in.  Upon reading what others have gone through I get mad at myself for allowing the depression and/or anxiety to overwhelm me – kind of ‘what right do I have to be depressed’. 

  

 

So, I’m here, just not often, but I read about all the ‘goingson’ and I (in some kind of way)  do relate.  That is why I went and found the above links, thought it would be my contribution.   

  

 

Thanks for listening YYC, I always count on your posts to brighten me up!

  

 
 
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To: outwithit and MODERATORS...

Mods, might want to add some Canada Resources and links for countries a-z like this peachy link: www.hotpeachpages.net/a/countries.html


Hey, outwithit always GREAT to see you. I've been having chest pains today so since ER thought I might have had a mini heart attack in 2002...just kind of kicking back. I have a huge fever blister on my lip too from stress. Oh well, such is life, and looks like Texas is about to be knocked off the map by Hurricane Rita... Prayers for all in Hurricane Rita's path. Should only be a maximum of a Hurricane 1 by the time it gets to Dallas, and likely just a tropical storm by then... A rare occurrence...spawning tornadoes round abouts Saturday.

I got a disturbing letter today and seems like my dad's brother-in-law and sister and my own sibling have been nabbing the oil royalties my dad left to me... I got a letter to verify one-fourth went to each of them and me and I said, "No, 100% goes to me. I have lost thousands over the years due to family not honoring my dad's Will. They know it'd cost way too much to challenge them all on it and my dad's siblings knew where dad's oil was and wrote in saying they were heirs I just learned today. And...on a class action suit since my sibling's first name is the same as dad's they sent monies to him in error and, of course, he didn't send to me. A judge ordered lawyers of class action suit to remedy and they never did knowing it'd cost me more to pursue than to just let it go. One good thing about having Meniere's Disease from an allergic reaction is I just started to burst into tears from the stress of everything (situational) and caught myself and thought, "Nope, tears and stress cause my Meniere's to flare up." Simply because vertigo is so horrible is why I have learned many techniques for staying up. Actually, I started smiling because I was just about to ball and was like "oops" things can get worse I'll get vertigo if I do." I don't know just a lot of things really hurt my feelings today as if I have zero rights and everybody just walks all over me. Even though things are tough now...I'm still very blessed. Just sometimes really makes me gasp to learn something I wouldn't do not only someone else would do but my own family. Yet such is as old as Cain and Abel in the Bible... Such is life I guess... Mine anyway... My cheering section of the family has passed away: My dad, mother and grandmother. Thank God for people like you who have appreciated my efforts here and for Joel Osteen who is a nice cheerleader for life since I have lost my familial cheering section.

I'm trying to say that it was a tough day and your post to me is a Godsend and gave me a much needed smile today. I'm glad you remembered the resources I did for over two years and found some more to enhance. I hope everybody will make note of date and time of your post and copy these Canadian resources to help others who might need... and so will I. Today, your post has brightened up a VERY tough day, year, life. Oh, have you noticed at top of messages where you see "General and Mental Health Resources"? It is a live link and you can click on for resources now. Isn't that a super perk of new board! Sweet dreams and blessed tomorrows ALWAYS to you, outwithit, and me and All... THANK YOU. Hugs, and prayers, SEA

Little bit 'o sunshine............ guess that's what we all look for.  I am truly sorry for all that is happening down in Louisiana, Texas, Missouri, and the rest.  And I wish that I could help in all that crap you are having to deal with........money, hate it!  It ruins everything, I wish everyone worked equally hard and had the equal basic living necessities; house, food, clothing, education, healthcare, etc.,  Money turns people evil.  I'm rambling, but honestly I so wish I could do something.   

  

I am very appreciative and do feel good that I made you feel better.  I wish I could do more.  No worries, I know what is possible and what is not. 

  

I want you to know how very important a person you are to the 'world'.  You're one of the good ones.  I believe that things happen for a reason and that all things come back - good and bad (karma).  Again, I thank you for all your wisdom and patience! 

  

  

  

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September 21, 2005, 6:45 pm PDT

to MeesaP re; fever blisters

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I get cold sores and fever blisters all the time. From stress, fevers and the sun. The doctor said I ma one of the lucky people that has extra genes for cold sores. I found a miracle lip balm. It is called Carmex and if you use as soon as you feel the cold sore than it will not even emerge. And it will dramatically reduce the length of the healing time if the cold sore is already present. I got 11 of them at one time when my Dad was sick.

They are a form of herpes (no, not genital, another strain) and I have had them since I was 'knee high to a grasshopper'.   

  

I have found the following to be helpful: 

  

Lysine (an amino acid), as soon as you feel the 'tingling' in the lips, take 2 tabs, 500mgs.  Recognized now as being very good for the sores. 

  

Zovirax:  prescription cream, apply as soon as tingling in lips, will stop cold sores from appearing, however, your body will become resistant to this medication and soon will not work.  Different people, different results, but totally worth using! 

  

Erpace:  from France, over the counter in Drug Stores, lip balm using a metal roller to apply the liquid.  I first found in Montreal, now avail in Ontario, don't know about US.  But a good Homeopath one! 

  

Hey! this is one thing I truly suffer from and can provide assistance.  By the way, (as mentioned, by a few others), Sun (too much), citric acid (oranges, tomatoes, etc.,), stress (as the 'bug' lives in our nervous system), kissing with a man who has not shaved in a day...lol (but, really, no roughness, can cause them). 

  

Hope it helps! 

  

G 
 
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