Messages By: jtfjmjr

Jeff from the show would like to say…. Thank you to all his family and friends who are pulling in our corner.  To my family who I may have hurt, I am sorry and can understand how you feel.  I love my wife, we were in real trouble and we were willing to risk airing it out on national TV in the hopes of getting help.  First I want to try and paint the picture fuller.  We were friends for a year before we said I do.  But as friends we knew we were heading for a life together, just not as fast as it happened.  My babies, Psalm and Sadie, are not trinkets or objects to keep our marriage together. Our girls are living breathing little people that make this world a better.  It hurts to hear Psalm and Sadie referred to as mistakes should have never been born in an unstable marriage, or how ever you put it.  Well let me say you should thank God that they’re here.  I know they’re going to make a difference in the world. We also did wait two years before we had Psalm.  She was planed and wanted.  Heather and I were doing well.  Trouble started right before Psalm was born when I lost my job due to my short comings.  Then it snowballed little by little.  Though I did go to school for 4 years as a union carpenter and make a good living as my wife would say. Unfortunately, I overshadowed that accomplishment by renovating our home and got severely overwhelmed.  To boot I went against my wife’s wishes and bet out marriage on the success of the project.  I lost.  We’ve been homeless for over 3 years (living with family in one room) it’s my fault.  I love my wife through all this.  She is a great woman.  Put yourself in her place during the homeless time going to college and graduating with First honors top of your class.  Oh and raise two kids that have her fight and passion.  I only wanted to make a great place for them to live.  

My wife comes to me with a hope in her voice for us.  She tells me she wrote to Dr. Phil and they want to help us.  I did not like the idea but a shot is a shot never say no to a free throw.  We left Dr. Phil feeling beaten and no new knowledge that we did not come with.  Well now we are in therapy and we found out some great insight into our lives.  It so happens right now we both are doing much better and today the day of this airing it’s our anniversary.  I am looking at my baby right now and can’t help to think she will never be unhappy that she was born even though we were “unstable” at the time she was born(especially when we get through this).  I know this cause Heather and I love them with all of our heart and suck up all their smiles like its holy water for our soul.   

Also I will finish the house. 

                                                            Jeff 

  I have been reading the message boards and am really saddened that some of you think so low of me . If you have never felt the loss of a child then you don't know the anger or the frustration that comes with it . 

 As to where I was for 5 years I was in my son's life he lived with his father because I moved alot because of the business that I and my husband now run. But I spoke often with my children on the phone and saw them as often as I could. And please remember  Daniel was 18  at thew time she took his life. Daniel was raised to respect others and alot of you seem to think he came from a bad background you don't know our family you are only going by what a convicted murderer and her family are saying . remember we didn't convict her the courts did. 

And as for how I was on the show you only saw the taping you didn't see the finger pointing or hear the lies that were coming out of their mouths oonoor did you see the photos for the first time of the crime scene of my son in a fetal position covered in blood his arm bent awkward or the hole on the back of his head . i got to see those pictures 1 hour before the show aired and i had never seen them before . So walk in my shoes before you pass judgement on my son.  

After reading serval pages, I'm completely dicussed. What is wrong with you people. Accient or no accient. this girl was seventeen years old. Rage? Maybe, maybe not. The only good point is that two families loss someone dear to them. As far as Daniel's family. Anger gets you no where. Live your life for Daniel and stop living hate for him. I bet he would think a lot different, if he could be here now. PEACE that is what you need. Be happy that you were able to know him for the time you do instead of not ever knowing him. Daniel's family seemed very unstable. I wonder what he was raised in. While Brandi seemed to come from a good loving family. Whatever happened out there that night seems very obivious that both parties were at fault and could have acted differently. I think Brandi  has done her time and needs to be with her family. For God sakes people do you not remember what it was like to seventeen and a relationship that was not to your best interest and did not know what to do about it. Don't tell me that you'v never acted out in rage and done something that affected you and other people around you. She's learned her lesson. Let her go home!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 

This is Rob Nickel the Guest on the show who did the Undercover work and I encourage any parent to watch this show to see just how predator's and pedophile think and act.  It is a real eye opener, and I want to thank Dr. Phil for having such a show to help show parents the dangers that lurk online.  

I appreciate that Dr. Phil cares about these issues and I was so impressed with his staff.  I cannot say enough good things about the producers and other staff that work on the Dr. Phil show... Thank you so much.  

All the best - and Surf Safe!  

Rob Nickel  

Obviously this mother is not ready to undertake the responsibility as a parent or wife.  If she suffers from arthritis as she alleges, she should be seeking medical treatment for her ailment as opposed to going out "clubbing" constantly. 

To leave your children with a 16 year old while you are out partying is irresponsible. 

I come from the old school that if a husband is the sole bread winner, then it is the wife's responsibility to greet him when he comes home with a clean house and a hot meal on the table. 

The husband need to wake up, divorce her and file for full custody of the children.

Once the Infedelity Virus enters the relationship, both parties must agree on one of only two choices;  ACCEPT THE SITUATION or LEAVE THE SITUATION!

In order to forgive, work things out and continue the relationship, you MUST AGREE WITH YOURSELF, that you will ACCEPT, put up with, and endure your travel on a whole, new road of a relationship and ALL kinds of new obstacles, that WILL spring up along the way!

The offended will become more angry and struggle with suspicion and jelousy, while the offender will be more passive and struggle to tolerate their partner's new behavior.  Bless you, if you are strong enough to handle that struggle and Bless you if you are wise to LEAVE IT!

A friend of mine once told me, "Their was one infidelity in our marriage, when my husband had an affair with my cousin, who is a model in Europe.  We've worked through it and I struggled with forgiveness for the following two years, but our relationship has gotten better."  I then asked her, "Are you absolutely sure that things are better?  And, are you sure that he's not fooling around anymore?"  Needless to say, those questions did, pretty much end our friendship.  But, I heard from another, that the couple did divorce for unknown reasons.