Messages By: sueellis35

I want to share my story of forgiveness in hopes that it will touch your life.   

In 1991 I was married to the love of my life.  I was only 21 and we had a brand new baby girl that we had welcomed into the world.  7 weeks after we were married, my love was taken from me in auto collision.  The driver of the other vehicle was 19 and had been up all night drinking and partying with his friends.  He got behind the wheel of the vehicle with little to no sleep in order to pick up his dad for work.  He came flying around a corner and hit my husband head on.  Since, by the time blood tests were taken, there was no alcohol left in his blood stream, the driver of the vehicle said he fell asleep at the wheel.  No charges were ever pressed against him and he never spent anytime behind bars.  I was very angry!  At 21 I was widowed with a little baby to take care, and to be honest I just wanted to die!  I walked around angry, and at one point even considered hiring someone to kill this man that had done this to me. 

In time I realized that the mistake this young man had made was one that I had made several times but I just never had anything terrible happen like this.  I had gotten behind the wheel of a car drunk, I had driven with little to no sleep, I was just lucky enough not to hurt myself or someone else in the process.  I have tried to track down this young man to tell him to his face that he is forgiven, but have been unable to find him.  However, in my heart he is forgiven.  It has given me peace and the ability to be able to move on.  I do not carry anger or resentment around for him, his family or law enforcement. 

Dr Phil said that Daniel's family needs to forgive.  I agree.  The love of my life was taken from me in a terrible tragic accident.  I could have said it was murder, he meant to do it, what was he doing behind the wheel, but really it was a accident.  The same thing with Daniel.  it was a terrible, tragic accident. 

I am going to be praying for both of these families.  I am going to be praying for the health of Brandi's mom.  I am going to be praying for the hearts of Daniels family.   

I know it is hard when you think someone intentionally set out to hurt your family, but accidents do happen.  When a precious life is lost it is so easy to get caught up in the anger and hurt that it prevents you from moving on.  I only hope that Daniels death does not cause a spiritual and physical death to the remaining family members...... 

There is something I must point out that was failed to be pointed out on the show..... 

The Word says I must love and respect everyone.  I have friends that are gay, and even have a favorite Aunt that is gay.  I love them and respect them.  As people as the human beings that they are.  However, the word says that I must hate the sin.  Love the people, hate the sin. 

See, we all have things and desires of the flesh that we struggle with as Christians.  Any Christian that tells you differently is a liar.  Homosexuality is a sin just like gluttony, adultery, fornication, etc.  All sins of the flesh.  We have to struggle and stay in God's face in order to keep from commiting these sins.  I am single I definitely struggle with keeping myself from being involved in fornication, but I do so by staying in the word and praying. 

My friends and my Aunt know my point of view and how I feel about homosexuallity.  They also know that I would be there in a minute to minister at their bedside, pray with them, give them money if they needed it, and that I will always treat them with respect and tons of love. 

Just as I would treat anyone else that was involved in a life of sin.  It is not my job to judge anyone here on earth.  That is for God to do on the day of judgement.  Also, one more thing I want to point out.  The old testament has been quoted on here quite a bit.  Although, we use the old testament in sermons and for teaching purposes in the church, we are no longer bound by the law.  Once Christ died for our sins we were given grace.  We now have a covering because of the blood of the lamb.  In the book of Romans though in the New Testament Paul does speak about homosexuallity being a sin.  Many people believe that Paul was gay.  I do not happen to be one of those people.  But, even he says that it is better to live a single life than to be involved in a life of sin (speaking of homosexuality)   

Leading a life for Christ means denying our flesh. 

Blessed, 

Thanks for coming to my defense.  I believe the only reason someone would have so rudely responded to my post was because it hit a nerve with them.  I do realize that my weight is a sin and it is something I have been in prayer about as well as in counsel with my Pastor on.  You are right, so many people want to call it  "judgement"  when it is a sin they are involved in and a christian tries to point out their sin to them, but when someone else is struggling they have no problem being rude and disrespectul. 

God Bless you and have a wonderful evening...... 

Even on my best day I am not the saint I should be nor would I ever claim that.  As a Christian I am doing the best I can to walk the walk everyday. 

I do not put the sins of others above my own.  I could not be the first or even the last to cast a stone. 

I realize there have been a lot of reports lately about the Catholic church and the altar boys that have been molested.  But, in all actuality, there have been tons of statistics (none that I can recall off the top of my head or links that I could send you to) that have shown that heterosexual men are more commonly the perpetrators of the crime of sexual assault against woman and children than men or women that are homosexual.  If anyone has a link or somewhere that we could find those statistics I would greatly appreciate it.