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I JUST WANT TO SAY THAT I HAVE SEEN BOTH CIRCUMSTANCES WITH THE ONE THAT THE MOTHER INLAW WOULD NOT ACCEPT HER SHOULD GET OUT NOW. MY FRIEND DID THIS TO HER SON WHO DID BREAK OFF EVEN THOUGH THEY HAD A BABY. HE PROCEEDED TO MAKE ANOTHER GIRL PREGNANT WHO DRAGGED HIM DOWN THE AISLE WITHOUT HIS MOTHERS OK. THEY DID NOT LAST. WHILE THEY WERE MARRIED HIS MOTHER KEPT SAYING SHE WISHED HE HAD MARRIED THE FIRST GIRL BECAUSE SHE DID NOT LIKE THE 2ND GIRL. SHE MADE HER LIFE A LIVING HELL. THIS MOTHER ALSO CONTROLED HER DAUGHTERS RELATIONSHIPS AND BECAUSE OF THIS THE DAUGHTER IS NOW IN HER 40'S AND HAS NOBODY. SAD TO SAY THE MOTHER DIED AND SINCE THEN THE SON HAS ANOTHER BABY BY ANOTHER WOMEN AND IS LIVING WITH HIS FATHER. AS FAR AS THE CASE WITH THE 2 FIGHTING IN FRONT OF THE BABY,SHE SHOULD LEAVE HIM. MY DAUGHTER WENT WITH A GUY LIKE HIM FOR 12 YEARS. THEY ALSO HAD A BABY WHEN THEY WERE IN THERE LATE TWENTYS. HE LASTED LIVING WITH MY DAUGHTER AFTER THE BABY FOR 2 YEARS AND THEN SHE THREW HIM OUT WHICH SHE HAD DONE MANY TIME IN THERE RELATIONSHIP FOR THE SAME REASON THIS GIRL IS GETTING UPSET. THEY ARE LAZY AND DO NOT WANT TO GO TO WORK. I DON'T KNOW ABOUT THE GUY ON THE SHOW BUT MY DAUGHTERS BOYFRIEND WAS AN ALCOHOLIC THAT SHE TRIED FOR 12 YEARS TO MAKE A BETTER PERSON OF HIMSELF. I STILL BELIEVE THAT SHE WOULD STILL BE WITH HIM IF HE HAD NOT GONE OUT AND GOT ANOTHER GIRL PREGNANT. I BEGGED HER NOT TO MARRY HIM BECAUSE I KNEW HE WOULD NOT CHANGE. THE ONLY GOOD THING OUT OF THE RELATIONSHIP IS MY BEAUTIFUL GRANDAUGHTER WHO ALSO HAS A GREAT RELATIONSHIP WITH HER OTHER GRANDPARENTS AND AUNTS AND UNCLES. THE FATHER DOES SEE HER OFF AND ON. SHE IS NOW 8. THE MOTHER OF THE SON SHOULD STOP LETTING HIM COME HOME AND LET HIM GROW UP. THEY WILL NOT CHANGE AS LONG AS THEY HAVE SOMEONE TO TAKE CARE OF THEM.

I CANNOT STRESS ENOUGH TO YOU THAT HE IS A TIME BOMB WAITING TO GO OFF. HE KNOWS SHE IS GETTING READY TO LEAVE THAT IS WHY HE IS ON YOUR SHOW TELLING EVERYONE WHAT HE HAS DONE HE WILL DEFINTELY KILL HER  AND MAYBE THE KIDS WHEN HE GETS THE CHANCE AND CRY INSANITY WITH YOUR TAPE. MY SISTER LIVED WITH HER OBSESSIVE HUSBAND FOR 30 YEARS AND FINALLY GOT OUT WHEN HER DAUGHTER CAME HOME FROM WORK AHEAD OF HER BY CHANCE AND FOUND GUNS LAYING ALL OVER HER BED. SHE CALLED THE POLICE AND THEY TOOK THE GUNS OUT OF THE HOUSE. HE COULD NO LONGER THREATEN HER AS THE POLICE HAD THIS ON FILE. HER 4 DOUGHTERS WHO WERE AFRAID OF THERE DAD ALL THERE LIVES HELPED HER GET THROUGH EVERYTHING. SHE ALSO MARRIED VERY YOUNG AND HE WAS OLDER. WE HAD A FAMILY OF ALCAHOLICS SO SHE THOUGHT GETTING MARRIED WOULD BE BETTER FOR HER. OUR DAD WAS NOT IN THE PICTURE WHEN WE WERE YOUNG AND OUR MOTHER DIED WHEN MY SISTER WAS 16. I WAS LUCKY AS I WENT INTO A ORPHANAGE MY SISTER DID NOT HAVE TO GO AS SHE HAD A JOB AND WAS WORKING FULL TIME. SO YOU CAN IMAGINE HOW SCARED SHE WAS TO BE ALONE. SHE STAYED AWAY FROM HIM AFTER GETTING DIVORCED FOR 10 YEARS. THEN HER YOUNGEST DAUGHTER CONVINCED HER TO BE FRIENDS WITH AGAIN. SHE DID AND THEN ANOTHER FEW YEARS LATER HE BECAME ABUSIVE AGAIN SO SHE DOES NOT HAVE ANYTHING TO DO WITH HIM. HE HAS 4 DUGHTERS AND ONLY 2 OF THEM TALK TO HIM ON THE PHONE. SOMETHING WILL HAPPEN TO THIS GIRL ON THE SHOW IF YOU DON'T GET HER OUT OF THIS SITUATION. SHE IS ONLY STAYING BECAUSE HE CONTROLS ALL THE MONEY AND SHE HAS NO MONEY OR PLACE TO GO IF SHE RUNS WITH THE KIDS. MY SISTERS HUSBAND ALSO CONTROLLED ALL LTHE MONEY AND SHE WOKED A FULL TIME JOB ALL HER LIFE AND LIKE THIS GIRL SHE FELT SHE COULD NOT GET OUT BECAUSE SHE HAD NO FAMILY OR MONEY TO GO TO. I WOULD THINK THIS GUY COULD BE ARRESTED OFF YOUR SHOW AS HE ADMITTED TO DRUGGING HER AND RAPING HER ON NATIONAL TV. HE HAS COMMITED MORE CRIMES THEN ONE PERSON CAN DO. I REALIZE HE MAY BE SICK BUT YOU MUST GET HER AWAY BEFORE SHE GOES HOME WITH HIM. I DON'T THINK HE CARES AT THIS POINT WHAT HE DOES. ANY MAN THAT WOULD LOCK HIS WIFE IN A CELLAR WHILE THE KIDS ARE WATCHING IS ALSO CONTROLLING THEM.  YOU SEE PEOPLE LIKE THIS ALL THE TIME IN THE NEWSPAPER AFTER THEY HAVE KILLED THE WIFE AND CHILDREND BECAUSE THEY DON'T WANT ANY ONE ELSE TO HAVE THEM AND THEY CAN'T LIVE WITHOUT THEM.I AM GOING TO DIALYSIS TODAY SO I WILL WATCH YOUR SHOW FROM THERE.

THE REASON IT ONLY APPLIED TO MEN WAS BECAUSE IN THE 60,S MOST WOMENT STAYED HOME TO RAISE THE FAMILY AND TAKE CARE OF THE HOUSE. IF THE HUSBAND LEFT HER WHEN SHE WAS 45 OR 50 SHE HAD NO CAREER TO FALL BACK ON AS THEY DO TODAY. ALSO IN THE 60,S WOMEN GOT MARRIED YOUNG. TODAY THE WOMEN DO NOT GET MARRIED UNTIL THEY ARE IN THERE 30'S. THIS IS GOOD BECAUSE A WOMEN DOES NOT FEEL LIKE SHE HAS TO STAY IN A MARRIAGE WHICH SHE IS NOT HAPPY IN BECAUSE SHE HAS A CAREER TO FALL ON. I AM A WOMEN WHO GO MARRIED IN THE LATE 60'S AND BELIEVE ME I NEVER FELT I WAS TRAPPED BECAUSE I HAD WORKED 10 YEARS BEFORE GETTING MARRIED AND DID MY TRAVELING AND HAVING FUN. I WAS 26 WHEN I GOT MARRIED AND NEVER WENT BAR HOPPING AFTER MARRIAGE. I DID GO OUT WITH MY FRIENDS BUT WE WENT TO EACH OTHERS HOUSE OR OUT TO BINGO. I THINK MARRIED MEN AND WOMEN SHOULD STAY AWAY FROM BARS . MY HUSBAND NEVER WENT TO A BAR AFTER GETTING MARRIED AND HE ALWAYS DID BEFORE THAT. IT WAS NOT BECAUSE I DID NOT WANT HIM TO GO HE WAS HAPPY TO STAY HOME AFTER WORK.

 I feel that if a mother can no longer take care of the child or children she should let them go to some agency that can take care of them The agencies are not all bad. My mother was an alcoholic and very sickly. I was put in an orphange at the age of 10 when my mother got sick and stayed there for 5 years. Then went to a Foster Home that I lived in until I got married at the age of 25. I was very happy at the orphange and Foster Home. I do know that all Homes and Foster Homes are not great. My mother died when I was 11 and I thank her today for putting me in the home. I was taught a lot of good values and how to live on my own. As I tell my husband of 40 years I was a woman libber long before it was in style. I think every person should stand on there own. Not every person is made to raise children.