Messages By: bmcbbreed

Hello,  

I have a question, My son is 6 and in the first grade. He is a very smart little boy, does fine in his school work. Brings home good grades. His teacher tells me, he is one of the nice, hard working little boys she seen. He is not hurtful to others, and love to lean and work on school things. But then it comes to free time, sitting still, hands to him self, or trying to be center of attention. It all falls apart. They have a program, a dime a day, or cash out. You can cash out up to 3 times. You guessed it he cashes out 2 to 3 times a day. For things like making noise when they are to be quit, jumping up and down in line, and a lot of other things like this. Not hurtful to other, just distracting to others. 

We have cleaned out his room, then let him work to get it back, had him write many times over what he did wrong, Taken him out of football games and other things, grounded over a day or weekend, so many things. It does not seem to get better. It just stays the same. He tells me, he just can not stop, or does not know why. He will do something get in touble, then 5mins later do it again.I do not want to medicate my son, I believe that is what it is leading to. What is left....... 

Hope someone can help,,,,,, 

Hello,   

I have a question, My son is 6 and in the first grade. He is a very smart little boy, does fine in his school work. Brings home good grades. His teacher tells me, he is one of the nice, hard working little boys she seen. He is not hurtful to others, and love to lean and work on school things. But then it comes to free time, sitting still, hands to him self, or trying to be center of attention. It all falls apart. They have a program, a dime a day, or cash out. You can cash out up to 3 times. You guessed it he cashes out 2 to 3 times a day. For things like making noise when they are to be quit, jumping up and down in line, and a lot of other things like this. Not hurtful to other, just distracting to others.  

We have cleaned out his room, then let him work to get it back, had him write many times over what he did wrong, Taken him out of football games and other things, grounded over a day or weekend, so many things. It does not seem to get better. It just stays the same. He tells me, he just can not stop, or does not know why. He will do something get in touble, then 5mins later do it again.I do not want to medicate my son, I believe that is what it is leading to. What is left.......  

Hope someone can help,,,,,,  

Thank-you 

Anything is worth looking in too, I've never heard of this. 

Who knows it may help. 

Thanks, 

Michelle
 

Hi,  

   I have not been on here in a long time, So I just read your message.  Thank-you, Thank-you, I was so glad to read that you understand the whole "boy thing". No I don't want to live by "Boys will be Boy", but in some ways this is true to me.  I'm happy to say, I bought that book, before I read your message. So I'm reading it now, "I'm a slow reader, but seem like a good book"   I can say we have worked on other ways, talking more, showing him how to choose the right "road".  Plus I have been working on my self too, (I'm a yeller, but that is getting better. But just like him it's a long road).That had been working, he was doing so well, almost 12 days with out cashing out. Then he started to go down hill again, then the phone call to day. He was sent to the P-office 2 time, and on the 2 time he had to finish his day there. Both times for pushing, (he says he was just playing around, who knows)  

 As for the medicine thing, I have read to many bad things about it, and to me it does not fix a problem, it covers up who they are.  But if he is anything like me, there is no medicine in the world to fix (talking) Ha,Ha. 

   I'm sorry that they made you feel that your son needed meds, maybe someone in that school will come to understand him.  

   And Thanks again, so times I feel all a lone when it comes to my sons. 

There for you too, sometimes we just need to vent..... 

Michelle 

About a month ago, I found about 50 phone calls to my husband cell phone from this woman, and the same from him to her. They would talk from 10mins to 1hour, (he don't not have time to talk to me at work for more then 10 or so) when I confronted him about it, he want to know why I was looking at his "business phone" bill.  He told me they were just friends and they talk about weather, the kids, work and just about everything. But the funny thing is that before I found this out, I had confronted him about her just the night before. See he is self -employed and must park his trucks at this yard, and she is there to for a another business, and for the longest time he liked it when I would call, so he did not have too stay and talk to everyone so long. But 2 weeks before all this, he would make up so reason to go over to the yard or stay for a 1hour or 2 talking. When I got the phone bill, and confronted him I also confronted her, she had this blank "dumb like on her face", then looked  at my husband, (like for answer) he reply "please  tell my wife we talk about weather, and of course that is what she said. Later that night I made him call her from our home phone, to tell her he would not be calling, and she is not to call him. I was on the other end, he was talking so fast, she could not get a word in, and then she asked if he was at home, he told her yes that ended the call. Later that week he told me He just likes the attention he was getting.

  I guess my question is, my gut is telling me there is something more and it still going on, but he tells me there is nothing, and he would do nothing to lose his family. But he has lied before about other things, (little things) why not this. 

Michelle