Messages By: lucky35

You're peace of mind is more important than any senority at a company or money. You could possibly claim harrassment.  I would document everything being done to you or said to you. Harrassment charges are a long shot because you'll probably be the one fired if you decide to go that route, but since you've been there for so long, you might be able to get an attorney to represent you.  I would talk to an attorney and see what he/she says, too. If you can't find one to back you up then I wouldn't do it, but if these people are this way now, they won't change. So, you might consider looking for another job.  It just isn't worth the stress you're under to continue with a group of unprofessional, mean-spirited people like these and unfortunately these are the type of people that companies usually keep and they let all the good employees go.

I always thought the healthcare industry was such a great industry to get into until I came across the absolute worse job experience I've ever had in my life. I doubt I ever try it again.  There's a lot of background, mean-spiritied things going on in the industry and I feel sorry for anybody having to work under these type of conditions.

Hi, please help with any advice! I argue with my husband almost every day about money and bills.  I mean it is the same thing over and over again. He always comes through with his responsibility of the home expenses, but sometimes it is at the last minute or even late, so I am constantly worried about bills.  I recently purchased a new car (I had to get one, my car broke down!) and I believe this is compounded my worries.  I am a "worrier" by nature, but this fighting is hurting our new marriage and besides I feel ugly constantly barking about the same thing every day.  How can I stop argueing over bills and money?  My husband tells me to just tell him know when the bills come in and he will pay them (or help pay them) then, but until they're due, not to bother him with it, but I feel like in order to prepare for bills you have to be always thinking about when they're due and how you're going to budget  your income to meet the due dates!  If I just waited until they were due to start thinking about paying them, I'd be broke at that moment so that's why I argue that we should plan ahead.  My husband just never seems to have paying bills on his mind ie. What bills are due, how much are they, etc...etc... I'm tired of beating this horse to death, not to mention the stress on me and him is not good.  HELP!  Thank you!

Your husband is just used to your income and nowadays men just expect so much more out of women.  My husband says we did it to ourselves with womens' liberation.  If your husband is giving his money away and needs you to supplement his hand-outs, that isn't right, but if you've always worked then you could at least go back to work part-time.

Hi, sometimes when I get kindof anxious (like last night at class, I became overly anxious for class to end so I could go home) I become very hot and my face becomes really red.  Does anyone know what this means? The room was extremely stuffy, so I don't know if I actually just became hot due to the stuffiness of the room or if it is some underlying health reason. Thank you.

Hi, I'm in my mid 30s and I used to exercise (weights) 3X/week. Then I cut back to 2X/week, now I am exercising (with weights) 1X/week.  The reason being is that for one, I got married and my schedule is jammed packed with school and work. I seriously had to cut-back on something to better balance my life out!  I also figured that my work-out only lasts for 1 day anyways, so I didn't really see the relevance of working out 3x/week. I have a nice upright bike on lay-a-way that I am about to get out and I can't wait!  I figured that I could still exercise with weights 1x/week and then use my bike at home to do intense cardio training (you can adjust your resistence with this bike) to supplement my weight work-out.  I have also been focusing on eating a lot more healthy and I have lost some weight. I still want to lose 10 more pounds. So...what I'm trying to say is that I think it is better to eat healthy and lose weight and get my body in a very good BMI state and do a good cardio work-out at home 2-3x/week (for 15-60 minutes) AND weight-train only once a week at the gym then it is to eat anything I want and work out with weights 3x/week.  Any thoughts would be appreciate?! Thank you.

It is so funny that you suggested deep breathing exercises because I have been doing that lately. Thanks for your input.

What type of medication do you take and is there any type of medication you can take when you are experiencing a panic attack instead of taking something daily to offset them?  I realize you may not be a doctor, but I was just wondering?

Hi, how do ya'll feel about having a gun in your home for protection?  My father-in-law gave my husband a gun for a security job he was going to do and it has been in our home ever since.  On one hand, I feel relieved and really protected (in case I ever needed it!), but on the other hand, it can make me very nervous and anxious just knowing it is here in the house. I don't know whether to keep it or take it back to my father-in-law?!! Any suggestions would be appreciated.  Thank you.

Hi, my immediate family (parents & siblings) are going through a really hard time right now.  We are all kind of separated on some issues.  My mother testified against my sister in her divorce case and sided with her ex-husband.  Me and my brother do not think that a mom should ever do something like that against her daughter.  My family also has some assets in which they are not dividing equally amongst the children (as they told us they would do) and instead are giving it only to one particular sibling and her family and an Uncle.  The holidays are coming and I know my other sister (the one in court) along with my brother are not going to my parents for the holidays.  I keep receiving emails from my Dad starting out with "If you have kids, you've got to read this..", the problem is, I don't have children.  It is just one mess after the next, but even I don't feel comfortable going to my parents for the holidays even though I know that is the one time you are supposed to lay your differences aside. I feel really bad argueing over land and money and things like that, but I do feel like my parents should help us more financially than they do and at least help us as much as they do my other sibling or Uncle.  I don't know, any advice would be greatly appreciated!  Thanks so much!