Messages By: lucky35

Hi ya'll, when I'm stressed out I start thinking bad thoughts.  Is this normal?  I have suffered some sexual abuse from my father and physical abuse from an ex-boyfriend.  I am now happily married, but sometimes I think thoughts that I don't want to think and I'm worried about why I am doing this?  I don't want to go on medication though.  I rely on working-out and prayer to help me cope with things in my life I'm not happy with, for instance, my parents have gotten pretty synical and mean to us children since they've gotten older.  They have been married for 45 years, which is admirable, but us kids feel like they didn't raise us the best they could have done.  How do I just let go and not let the bad and very distant relationship I have with my parents affect my life?  I feel like I am a daughter they should be very proud of, but they "don't want to be bothered in their golden years". 

  

Thanks for any insights, I really appreciate it! 

Hi, I am an MBA student with an undergrad in Marketing (Business). I took a job at a large fashion retailer in the local mall. I have sold probably 400 Gap Cards for this company. My dilimia is this: My work schedule is limited (part-time) due to my school commitment, but last week two girls got promoted to keyholders for the store.  They never sale any store cards. They do work in other areas, such as, visual merchandising.  They are younger than me with no education. Should I be mad? First of all, I  know I don't have to go those steps if I want to go into management. i.e. sales associate, key holder, assistant manager, associate manager, head of store. I could easily apply for a management position when one comes availabe whether with this store or another or even another company and totally bypass this keyholder crap, but my feelings are a little hurt.  I did receive a merit raise for exceeding store card sales.  Honestly, I would be a little embarrassed to be a "keyholder" at my age (mid 30s), but the management acts like that's the natural way to move up in the company.  The management is just bitter that it took them years to get into management (6-9 years), but they seem to not understand that having an education is "supposed" to make you move up quicker.  It's like they want to punish me like they were punished and they are sort of jealous of my education.  Not to mention, the head of store gave me this long speech of how she has hit so many road blocks in her career and that a lot of people do not work in the field they studied (she has a early education degree).  Some advice please!  Thank you

How do you teach a husband a lesson who constantly calls you names like Bit*h, and cun*, asshol*, etc..?  He only does this when he's angry or frusterated with me, but I still do not like it and he doesn't seem to learn to stop doing these things even after I've spoken to him about it. Any suggestions, please!! Thanks

Well, I have to say that I don't think my relationship with my husband is nearly as bad as yours. My husband is usually very sweet to me.  He cooks and cleans for me or us and he brings me breakfast in bed a lot of times.  He will usually do whatever I ask him to do and he is very supportive of me.  It's just when we have a disagreement he calls me names. I honestly don't think he can stop. I don't know why, but for some reason it's like he is programmed to call me names when he is mad at me.  We don't have kids and we've only been married for 2 years and my husband is 7 years younger than me. I know there is no excuse for name-calling and it sounds so first grade, but I just keep hoping he'll come around.  He doesn't accuse me of anything really, and he doesn't stalk me. In fact, I just spent the weekend with one of my girlfriends in Florida. Other than he's immature style of fighting with me, he's fine.  He doesn't drink, so I don't have to put up with any drunk or alcoholic either. I'm sorry for your situation especially with kids.  I think my husband needs anger management classes, but those are not that easy to find where we live.  He knows he has an anger problem.  He also breaks things when he gets mad. He just broke our cordless phone and I'm not going to buy a new one.  He's going to have to do so when he gets paid. I refuse to replace items he breaks out of anger, but he doesn't hit me (which is good!).  I don't know.  No one is perfect...

Hello everyone, I have a situation where my husband loves to hold me down and tickle me.  The problem is he won't stop when I ask him to and then it accelerates into wrestling with him to try and get him off of me and/or to stop tickling me. I enjoy being tickled at first, but then I expect him to stop when I ask him to, but he doesn't.  This morning he was tickling me again and holding me down and he wouldn't stop.  Then he started pulling my hair. I finally slapped him really hard on the head and the side of his face.  He then stopped and let me up.  The problem is I feel really bad like I abused him because I could tell I kind of hurt him, but what do you do when someone refuses to stop tickling you, holding you down, and pulling your hair? Who was wrong in this situation?  Me? Him? or both of us?  I keep telling my husband that I'm worried that one day when we're wrestling around and he's tickling me that it is going to get out of hand really quick and either he is going to hurt me or vise versa?  How do I make him understand this? Thanks so much. 

  

Hello everyone, I have a situation where my husband loves to hold me down and tickle me.  The problem is he won't stop when I ask him to and then it accelerates into wrestling with him to try and get him off of me and/or to stop tickling me. I enjoy being tickled at first, but then I expect him to stop when I ask him to, but he doesn't.  This morning he was tickling me again and holding me down and he wouldn't stop.  Then he started pulling my hair. I finally slapped him really hard on the head and the side of his face.  He then stopped and let me up.  The problem is I feel really bad like I abused him because I could tell I kind of hurt him, but what do you do when someone refuses to stop tickling you, holding you down, and pulling your hair? Who was wrong in this situation?  Me? Him? or both of us?  I keep telling my husband that I'm worried that one day when we're wrestling around and he's tickling me that it is going to get out of hand really quick and either he is going to hurt me or vise versa?  How do I make him understand this? Thanks so much. 

  

Hi Please tell me how you deal with people who judge you and think that they are perfect?  For example, some of the girls in my class at the university I attend get on my nerves really bad.  They act so perfect and act like they have never in their lives done anything wrong or anything that they regret.  The problem is, I feel as if they are judging me extremely harshly. I'm a good person, but I was born a sinner and I have done things I regret. My point is, I do not act like I'm better than other people and I know God loves me and forgives me for my sins, but how do you deal with people who act like their sh*t don't stink and they have no skeletons in their closet?!  PLEASE TELL ME HOW TO HANDLE PEOPLE LIKE THIS!  It is really getting on my nerves, because I know that no one is perfect, but yet I seem to go to college with a lot of bitc*es you think they have so much integrity that they could sink a cruise ship. I'm so tired of being made to feel like I'm ashamed of myself and who I am when all I want to do is become a better person in life and to learn from my mistakes.  Any advice please!! Thank you so much!

Sorry, but I did not understand a word you said?

Hi, I work at a large fashion retailer in the mall. I've been there for 6 months and I go to grad school at night. I am only a part-time worker. The problem is this, there are a lot of regular shoppers at this store and they think they are so much better than everybody else. Lately, they have been complaining about me to management. These women think they control the town with their demands. For example, one of these women stopped a manager at the book store in the mall and asked them who I was and how long I had been working there, because she just didn't think "my heart was in it". Can you believe this?! I think these regular shoppers just feel like they can control who works at this store and who doesn't, just because they frequently shop and buy clothes there. I am so sick of these bitc*es I don't know what to do! They are basically trying to get me fired, but I'm not worried about it. My question is: How do you handle local town bitch#* like these women and how can I deal with them in the store in a way which will not get me in trouble but get my revenge?!!

I so needed to hear some positive, uplifting talk. Thanks so much!