Quote From: moosesDr. Phil,
You missed two very important points today.
#1 Aileen, her husband, Aileen's daughter and granddaughter had an understanding that if he passed away first, Aileen would put the land in Aileen and her daughter's name. Aileen has refused to do that in any form. Aileen could establish a trust that would protect her and possibly put her daughter in a better position tax wise. Aileen has showed the nation that she did not honor her husband's wishes or her own commitment to her daughter.
#2 Aileen made a Power of Attorney, but refused to show it to her daughter. Why? What did she have to hide? The daughter did not care who had the power of attorney, she just wanted to make sure that one was in place. Often, when people won't show you documents, it is because they don't have them. Dr. Phil, when you asked Aileen why she didn't show her daughter the Power of Attorney, she said that the attorney said that she didn't have to. The real answer is Aileen did not want to, she was being ornery. Dr. Phil, you allowed Aileen to put the responsibility on the lawyer. If Aileen was trying to get along, she would have gladly showed it to her daughter without having to be asked. What a slap in the face that she would show it to you, Dr. Phil, and not her own daughter! More orneryiness!
Aileen has showed herself to be someone who can't be trusted. She does not honor her husband's wishes or her own commitments. She purposely hides information for no good reason knowing that it will hurt her daughter's feelings and foster a lack of trust. All of this could have been avoided if Aileen had simply established a trust and shown her daughter a copy of the Power of Attorney.
Aileen's daughter and granddaughter don't trust her with good reason. Aileen has destroyed their respect for her. Aileen's daughter is smart to ask that she have a Power of Attorney. She needs to go one step further and ask that she not be made the executor. What a headache that will be! Pay someone to do that. It will be worth every penny.
Dr. Phil, I'm surprised that you let that little old lady sucker you! Aileen's daughter and granddaughter don't want to pay anymore taxes they have to and want a smooth transition when the time comes. That is not unreasonable. Aileen doesn't care about that and refuses to establish a trust, purposely causing hard feelings. Aileen's daughter and granddaughter described her as controlling. Aileen is in control and has no consideration for anyone but herself. This is probably her normal for her, but now that the husband is gone and not able to moderate her behavior, the intensity of her controlling, selfish behavior has increased.
Dr. Phil, please rethink this show and your responses. Give the daughter and granddaughter the support they deserve. Tell Aileen to show her love for her family by drawing up a trust. Stop doing things calculated to hurt feeling and to show that Aileen is in control. Aileen can be in control and loving! Challenge her to that.
Dr. Phil, thanks for listening.
Mooses
The "understanding" that Aileen's daugther had with her late father could have taken place or it could have been made up by Davene and her daugther to "guilt" Aileen into signing away her property. We don't really know if this "understanding" really existed. Furthermore, it is not "onery" for someone to not allow the heirs to see their Will and/or Power of Attorney. They are not entitled to see any documentation regarding an estate. The only time they become entitled to see this documentation is when the estate is being probated. I am glad Dr. Phil stood up to those two dreadful individuals. They simply want something for nothing. They need to earn their way in life just like Aileen and her husband did... with hard work! Maybe then they can earn enough where their heirs can fight over them while they are still alive!
