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November 6, 2006, 9:27 am PST

Jeremy is typical

As a clinical social worker who works with sex offenders (males & females), Jeremy's denial, defenses, distortions, effort to align with Dr. Phil, needing time to "think about" answers, etc. are typical of an offender who has not yet come to accept what he has done. I honestly would have been surprised if he had passed the polygraph. This guy needs to be prosecuted and go into an intense treatment program. It often takes months for these fellows to acknowledge the big picture, and even then it most likely done  in baby steps.

As for the safety of the yet unborn child, Jeremy should not be allowed near this child in an unsupervised situation, nor should he touch this child. This child does not need physical contact with Jeremy to thrive. As part of the assessment for amenability to treatment, a plethysmograph needs to be done to uncover his victim pool's ages and sex.

One statement that stood out for me was made by Jeremy's wife, I'm sorry I don't remember her name. She commented that Jeremy could not have offended the child because he was too busy, people were around etc. She is very wrong!!! Jeremy likely was offending Kaylee when he was "tickling" her on camera, or having he sit on his lap. Offending can take many forms and quite easily can be done in front of others who are supposed to advocate for the child. These guys are very sneaky.

Bravo, Dr. Phil for tackling this issue. More people need to know about the issues of offending.

 
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November 7, 2006, 12:30 pm PST

I agree...

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I also have worked with prisoners and agree

with you except that 'they have not accepted

what they have done yet'?

 

Umm no they know what they did, the fact is

there is a society and family that they wish to

keep on thier side as much as possible so

denial is for their own self serving needs!

Actually, I do not work with prisoners. The majority of our clients are on federal or state probation. It takes a lot of work and usually a lot of time before an offender can take responsibility for his actions. And you are correct, they know what they did, but are masters at manipulation, lying etc. That is why in our treatment program, each person is given only a certain amount of time to pass a full disclosure polygraph before he or she is accepted into treatment. Even if they are able to say "I did it", there are tons of deceptions, distortions, lies still floating around in their heads. Just look at the way Jeremy reacted despite failing the polygraph. One of our tasks is to get these guys to feel empathy - most of them don't have a clue and therefore can not see and don't want to recognize the harm they've done.

I also feel that if investigating is done, it will reveal that Jeremy has been involved in computer pornography to a much greater degree then he has alluded to.

 
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May 17, 2008, 9:39 am PDT

wedding blues

'Sounds to me like too much emphasis on the "event" rather than the marriage. My husband and I were married 38  years ago and it rained all day. Get real! The bad weather had no bearing on the success or failure of our marriage. Young people today seem so spoiled and used to having Mommy or Daddy make everything "perfect" throughout their lives, that they have often  not had to face a disappointment or a challenge.

PS:  The idea of young people having "trial marriages" etc. is disturbing to me. If both parties don't go into a marriage with commitment and the determination to work through problems and issues, it's doomed from the beginning.

 

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