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Posted by: mommybell
Posted on: 2002-11-13 10:29:05
after watching the show today i am truley upset on how these moms can honestly think its ok to dress these girls up aith all this makeup is ok? And at thirteen years old why is it that you have no control over your daughter and where is she getting all the money to get these clothes..... i thank goodness that i am a mom of two boys because if i was to have a lil girl i think she would be very upset with me because i wouldnt be a mom that wwould allow her to wear all those clothes to show half there body ...the girls that dress like that at a young age will be in for a rude awakening when they are 15.COME on moms get a grip on your girls ! Also lil boys aren't the easiest to raise only because of moms out there that dont have control over what there girls wear. i have to teach my boys to not look whats on the outside but whats on the inside that counts!!!!! Also how can a 11 year walk out of the house wearing thongs!!!! i didnt even know what they were when i was that age i was wanting the newest barbie doll and i never thought like these girls and my mom would have ripped me bald if i walk out of the house like these girls.... and moms were is the disclipline dont you have control ???????
Posted by: mommybell
Posted on: 2002-11-13 10:29:05
after watching the show today i am truley upset on how these moms can honestly think its ok to dress these girls up aith all this makeup is ok? And at thirteen years old why is it that you have no control over your daughter and where is she getting all the money to get these clothes..... i thank goodness that i am a mom of two boys because if i was to have a lil girl i think she would be very upset with me because i wouldnt be a mom that wwould allow her to wear all those clothes to show half there body ...the girls that dress like that at a young age will be in for a rude awakening when they are 15.COME on moms get a grip on your girls ! Also lil boys aren't the easiest to raise only because of moms out there that dont have control over what there girls wear. i have to teach my boys to not look whats on the outside but whats on the inside that counts!!!!! Also how can a 11 year walk out of the house wearing thongs!!!! i didnt even know what they were when i was that age i was wanting the newest barbie doll and i never thought like these girls and my mom would have ripped me bald if i walk out of the house like these girls.... and moms were is the disclipline dont you have control ???????
momwith3girls
Posted by: dmazur
Posted on: 2002-11-13 11:28:32
To mom of boys- I question who is running their house too! I have girls teenagers. Not all mom's are clueless. Yes it can be a battle. You need to have non-negotiated ground rules on all clothing. Mine are -nothing with writing, turning down waistband only once, no borrowing clothes from friends, etc...Lets discuss the concept of the manufactoring companies and their lack of responsible designs. Clothes are made NOt To Cover!!!Try spending the day at the mall shopping with girls for school. It is tough!!Watch tv at any given night these High school girls are wearing the thongs in the family sitcom!!!! These mom's are exhausted from fighting all the media display of half dressed girls. This depicts to children what is in fashion. Schools, media, clothing manufacture comp., and families need to be responsible for appopriate ground rules.Most of all!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
After watching Dr. Phil today i am upset most of all with the mom who has jessica.com.What is she thinking I hope someone from social services or the child's school was watching!!!!!!!!!! Make a home visit! To the mom's who put their girls in beauty shows for self esteem should consider putting them in sports!!!!! Let them build confidence from being part of a team, learning to work with a coach, attending practices and becoming physically active to build a healty mind and body. It is about feeling good not just looking good!!! All these traits will be useful when they grow up, go off to college and enter the
Posted by: dmazur
Posted on: 2002-11-13 11:28:32
To mom of boys- I question who is running their house too! I have girls teenagers. Not all mom's are clueless. Yes it can be a battle. You need to have non-negotiated ground rules on all clothing. Mine are -nothing with writing, turning down waistband only once, no borrowing clothes from friends, etc...Lets discuss the concept of the manufactoring companies and their lack of responsible designs. Clothes are made NOt To Cover!!!Try spending the day at the mall shopping with girls for school. It is tough!!Watch tv at any given night these High school girls are wearing the thongs in the family sitcom!!!! These mom's are exhausted from fighting all the media display of half dressed girls. This depicts to children what is in fashion. Schools, media, clothing manufacture comp., and families need to be responsible for appopriate ground rules.Most of all!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
After watching Dr. Phil today i am upset most of all with the mom who has jessica.com.What is she thinking I hope someone from social services or the child's school was watching!!!!!!!!!! Make a home visit! To the mom's who put their girls in beauty shows for self esteem should consider putting them in sports!!!!! Let them build confidence from being part of a team, learning to work with a coach, attending practices and becoming physically active to build a healty mind and body. It is about feeling good not just looking good!!! All these traits will be useful when they grow up, go off to college and enter the
to mom with girls
Posted by: my3tjs
Posted on: 2002-11-13 11:44:33
I agree with you one hundred percent. I have an eight year old girl. The manufacturers are even making clothes for girls this young that are way to much for their age.It is almost impossible to go somewhere or even to watch tv with out seeing little girls in clothes that they shouldn't be wearing. The "idols" of these girls do not take resposiblitiy for their actions either. What is this world coming to when we have to argue with our children over the clothes that are available for them to wear. It is time to change things in this upside sown society of today.
Posted by: my3tjs
Posted on: 2002-11-13 11:44:33
I agree with you one hundred percent. I have an eight year old girl. The manufacturers are even making clothes for girls this young that are way to much for their age.It is almost impossible to go somewhere or even to watch tv with out seeing little girls in clothes that they shouldn't be wearing. The "idols" of these girls do not take resposiblitiy for their actions either. What is this world coming to when we have to argue with our children over the clothes that are available for them to wear. It is time to change things in this upside sown society of today.
Idols are not the prob.!
Posted by: lancerbabe
Posted on: 2002-11-13 13:33:49
I feel very storngly about this topic and I always have. Im 15 years old almost 16 and I do not dress like the people i like! For example Britney Spears! I know she dress sexy but Im also old enough to understand that the way she dresses help sell music end of story and also i know that is not the way she dress when she is just hanging out in the normal part of her life. I have been a fan of britney and other pop singers from the age of 11 years old! and I never wanted to dress like them. I had a good mother who taught me at a very early age that what you see on tv and in magazines is not the way life really is. and i think its no ones fault that teens and pre teens what to dress sexy then the MOTHER AND FATHERs! they should explain it to their kids! britney is 20 year old and has every right to ware what she does but a 11 year old does not! and child models are sooooo stuipd and sluty! I hate websites like the jessi one the promote like kids being slut! end of story!
Posted by: lancerbabe
Posted on: 2002-11-13 13:33:49
I feel very storngly about this topic and I always have. Im 15 years old almost 16 and I do not dress like the people i like! For example Britney Spears! I know she dress sexy but Im also old enough to understand that the way she dresses help sell music end of story and also i know that is not the way she dress when she is just hanging out in the normal part of her life. I have been a fan of britney and other pop singers from the age of 11 years old! and I never wanted to dress like them. I had a good mother who taught me at a very early age that what you see on tv and in magazines is not the way life really is. and i think its no ones fault that teens and pre teens what to dress sexy then the MOTHER AND FATHERs! they should explain it to their kids! britney is 20 year old and has every right to ware what she does but a 11 year old does not! and child models are sooooo stuipd and sluty! I hate websites like the jessi one the promote like kids being slut! end of story!
i am not a problem
Posted by: smiling4ev
Posted on: 2002-11-13 15:10:28
I am 13 myself and I see no reason to look "sexy". ALl the girls on that show where already prett without the junk. I mean I don't look nast I do not see a reason for other girls to do it. Kids should not be dressing that way! My god! Jessi site was not the way 11 year old should look. Bikinis are not for a website they are for a pool.
Posted by: smiling4ev
Posted on: 2002-11-13 15:10:28
I am 13 myself and I see no reason to look "sexy". ALl the girls on that show where already prett without the junk. I mean I don't look nast I do not see a reason for other girls to do it. Kids should not be dressing that way! My god! Jessi site was not the way 11 year old should look. Bikinis are not for a website they are for a pool.
what are you talking about!!!!!????????!!!!
Posted by: banning5
Posted on: 2003-03-26 19:43:19
i am 13 and i kno if a girl like that were to walk in to my jr high she would be called more names behind her bac the carter has pills ok so if your saying yay good for you that they are expressing them selves or what ever YOU ARE SOOOO WRONG!
Posted by: banning5
Posted on: 2003-03-26 19:43:19
i am 13 and i kno if a girl like that were to walk in to my jr high she would be called more names behind her bac the carter has pills ok so if your saying yay good for you that they are expressing them selves or what ever YOU ARE SOOOO WRONG!
reply misunderstood
Posted by: chickadees
Posted on: 2003-03-30 19:45:51
you're right about what you said but you misunderstood the reply from smilesformesq (YAY!) I think it was in reponse to the message from smiling4ev. She is a very smart teen. You sound like you are too. It is appreciated that you have self respect and it will be an attractive quality throughout your life. I say Hooray for teen girls who are smart enough to not dress like the girls on the show!!!!!! Boys really do like smart, self respecting girls more.... they only use the trashy ones. just wanted to clear that up about the replies.
Posted by: chickadees
Posted on: 2003-03-30 19:45:51
you're right about what you said but you misunderstood the reply from smilesformesq (YAY!) I think it was in reponse to the message from smiling4ev. She is a very smart teen. You sound like you are too. It is appreciated that you have self respect and it will be an attractive quality throughout your life. I say Hooray for teen girls who are smart enough to not dress like the girls on the show!!!!!! Boys really do like smart, self respecting girls more.... they only use the trashy ones. just wanted to clear that up about the replies.
Nana
Posted by: taffygurl
Posted on: 2002-11-13 19:36:46
I feel it is wrong to have little girls dress up with all that makeup etc to enter beauuty pageants, come on it is the mothers of these children who want the attention and kudos, I know a girl who hated going to Beauty Pageants as a child but her parents insisted on it. These children are only children once and should be playing with their friends and involved is Sports for self esteem. Mygrandaughter is 11 and I would die if I saw her in the clothes the little girl on your show wore. Thank God my daughter has more sense than to allow it.
Posted by: taffygurl
Posted on: 2002-11-13 19:36:46
I feel it is wrong to have little girls dress up with all that makeup etc to enter beauuty pageants, come on it is the mothers of these children who want the attention and kudos, I know a girl who hated going to Beauty Pageants as a child but her parents insisted on it. These children are only children once and should be playing with their friends and involved is Sports for self esteem. Mygrandaughter is 11 and I would die if I saw her in the clothes the little girl on your show wore. Thank God my daughter has more sense than to allow it.
WRONG!
Posted by: bridgesmom
Posted on: 2002-11-13 20:03:00
Does your granddaughter take dance? I have been to many dance recitals that the girls have twice as much make-up as the pageant girls. Yes there are some children who are forced into pageants but not the majority. I wanted to get out of pageants and my daughter cried! She's 4. As for playing with friends she has two sets of friends her friends at home who she plays with daily, and her pageant buddies who are like big sisters to her. My daughter also plays soccer is an accopmlished gymnastist and will play softball in the spring. The clothes that Sealy had on were fine! Nothing showed, it was a jumpsuit. She is also an actress who is going to LA in Jan for 2 movies. Just because she does pageants doesn't mean her life is nothing but pageants!
Posted by: bridgesmom
Posted on: 2002-11-13 20:03:00
Does your granddaughter take dance? I have been to many dance recitals that the girls have twice as much make-up as the pageant girls. Yes there are some children who are forced into pageants but not the majority. I wanted to get out of pageants and my daughter cried! She's 4. As for playing with friends she has two sets of friends her friends at home who she plays with daily, and her pageant buddies who are like big sisters to her. My daughter also plays soccer is an accopmlished gymnastist and will play softball in the spring. The clothes that Sealy had on were fine! Nothing showed, it was a jumpsuit. She is also an actress who is going to LA in Jan for 2 movies. Just because she does pageants doesn't mean her life is nothing but pageants!
Praised for What???
Posted by: heydemiche
Posted on: 2002-11-14 00:53:13
Do you believe you're daughters feel that everyone out in the audience at the pageant is praising them just because of who they are or do you think they might believe everyone is praising them because they look so pretty with all their hair and make-up and outfits on. It is not a self-esteem booster if they feel the praise is coming to them because of things that are not really them. I believe that they do understand that this is just dress up, but look at the reaction they're learning to love for it. I keep hearing that phrase well my children do other things. Well great, then why continue to push the pageants? Let them be fullfilled with these other things that are real instead of something that is so questionable and controversial. There has to be a reason why it is still so highly debated right. Why would you even take a risk?
Posted by: heydemiche
Posted on: 2002-11-14 00:53:13
Do you believe you're daughters feel that everyone out in the audience at the pageant is praising them just because of who they are or do you think they might believe everyone is praising them because they look so pretty with all their hair and make-up and outfits on. It is not a self-esteem booster if they feel the praise is coming to them because of things that are not really them. I believe that they do understand that this is just dress up, but look at the reaction they're learning to love for it. I keep hearing that phrase well my children do other things. Well great, then why continue to push the pageants? Let them be fullfilled with these other things that are real instead of something that is so questionable and controversial. There has to be a reason why it is still so highly debated right. Why would you even take a risk?
physical beauty is not an achievement
Posted by: sbyork
Posted on: 2002-11-20 09:42:11
I agree with your comments regarding praise for these young girls. Physical beauty is more a matter of simple luck than something that can be achieved. We relegate women to superficial roles when we place such emphasis on being beautiful. WHat about being smart, funny or kind? Where are the pegents that reward good behavior or intellect - what are we telling these girls at such an early age?
Posted by: sbyork
Posted on: 2002-11-20 09:42:11
I agree with your comments regarding praise for these young girls. Physical beauty is more a matter of simple luck than something that can be achieved. We relegate women to superficial roles when we place such emphasis on being beautiful. WHat about being smart, funny or kind? Where are the pegents that reward good behavior or intellect - what are we telling these girls at such an early age?
PHYSICAL BEAUTY IS NOT AN ACHIEVEMENT
Posted by: picadillo
Posted on: 2002-11-26 01:06:58
You voiced my sentiments! Self worth, self respect & self esteem don't come from being promoted like Dresden dolls at pagents!
Posted by: picadillo
Posted on: 2002-11-26 01:06:58
You voiced my sentiments! Self worth, self respect & self esteem don't come from being promoted like Dresden dolls at pagents!
Youre wrong :(
Posted by: calliealys
Posted on: 2003-04-02 01:20:20
One of the main things these kids are praised for when they get up on stage is how well they preform their well rehursed routines. Some of these kids are MAJORLY talented and practice daily. They should be rewarded for their efforts. It isnt all about looks. Yes pageants are highly debated mostly by people who have never been to one or know nothing about them. You hear my children do other things because they do. Theyre fun, but the majority of people whos kids participate in them have lives. Why would someone who enjoys them give them up just because some people dont like them? Are you hearing yourself? Should I also be a vegetarian because some people dont like me eating meat? Or should I give up my dog because he is part pitbull and I get nasty looks when I walk him? I do what I feel is best for my daughter and she loves pageants. My husband and I enjoy them as well. I certainly wont let other people dictate what I do. I know that there are pushy stage moms out there, but there are damn pushy soccer and hockey moms too. I have an ECE have been a teacher for years. I love kids and would certainly never do anything to jeopardize the well being of my child or promote anything that I felt was not in the best interest of a child. Its up to the parents to keep it fun and use every opportunity to encourage their kids, teach good sportsmanship and focus on the positive.
Posted by: calliealys
Posted on: 2003-04-02 01:20:20
One of the main things these kids are praised for when they get up on stage is how well they preform their well rehursed routines. Some of these kids are MAJORLY talented and practice daily. They should be rewarded for their efforts. It isnt all about looks. Yes pageants are highly debated mostly by people who have never been to one or know nothing about them. You hear my children do other things because they do. Theyre fun, but the majority of people whos kids participate in them have lives. Why would someone who enjoys them give them up just because some people dont like them? Are you hearing yourself? Should I also be a vegetarian because some people dont like me eating meat? Or should I give up my dog because he is part pitbull and I get nasty looks when I walk him? I do what I feel is best for my daughter and she loves pageants. My husband and I enjoy them as well. I certainly wont let other people dictate what I do. I know that there are pushy stage moms out there, but there are damn pushy soccer and hockey moms too. I have an ECE have been a teacher for years. I love kids and would certainly never do anything to jeopardize the well being of my child or promote anything that I felt was not in the best interest of a child. Its up to the parents to keep it fun and use every opportunity to encourage their kids, teach good sportsmanship and focus on the positive.
MOM HAS THE INSECURITY PROBLEM
Posted by: gigi16
Posted on: 2002-11-14 05:53:24
Mom is reliving her youth through her daughter. Let the child be a child.
Signed, A Teacher!
Posted by: gigi16
Posted on: 2002-11-14 05:53:24
Mom is reliving her youth through her daughter. Let the child be a child.
Signed, A Teacher!
daughters &insecureties
Posted by: kittykat01
Posted on: 2002-11-14 10:53:25
It don't always have anything to do with the looks of the child. I have two daughters (and 3 sons). My oldest daughter is 9 years old; she is my step daughter. Her real mom was always made fun of when she was young so, now she is trying to make her "pay" for what she went through. She makes fun of her, calling her fat and ugly (she's not fat and not ugly). She dresses her in awful clothes. She does not try to make her feel good about herself in anyway. I am only glad that me and my husband have custody of her. We try to encourage her but, she stills struggles because she sees her mom once a week.
Posted by: kittykat01
Posted on: 2002-11-14 10:53:25
It don't always have anything to do with the looks of the child. I have two daughters (and 3 sons). My oldest daughter is 9 years old; she is my step daughter. Her real mom was always made fun of when she was young so, now she is trying to make her "pay" for what she went through. She makes fun of her, calling her fat and ugly (she's not fat and not ugly). She dresses her in awful clothes. She does not try to make her feel good about herself in anyway. I am only glad that me and my husband have custody of her. We try to encourage her but, she stills struggles because she sees her mom once a week.
You GO!
Posted by: sheri67
Posted on: 2002-11-17 18:23:50
Amazingly children get hurt by what people say even when they know it is wrong. Thank goodness for people who care enough to help a child know the difference. Blessed be.
Posted by: sheri67
Posted on: 2002-11-17 18:23:50
Amazingly children get hurt by what people say even when they know it is wrong. Thank goodness for people who care enough to help a child know the difference. Blessed be.
Way to go teach
Posted by: magsgem
Posted on: 2003-03-26 15:35:04
Exactly how I feel the mom's need to keep their daughters out of the pageants to relive their youth. You go teach!!!!!!!
Posted by: magsgem
Posted on: 2003-03-26 15:35:04
Exactly how I feel the mom's need to keep their daughters out of the pageants to relive their youth. You go teach!!!!!!!
Dance Recitals
Posted by: bjbugs
Posted on: 2002-11-14 13:16:51
Couldn't agree with you more. My 13 yr once joined a dance company 7 years ago. She was 6 and come time to take pictures that - parents paid for - the owner insisted the girls all wear bright blue eye shadow and red lipstick. Since I was paying for a solo shot, I refused. Prior to the year end dance show the owner ordered sleezy little costumes and once again insisted the girls all wear clown makeup due to the lighting. To top it all off the 5, 6 & & yr olds learned dances that should've been choreographed for poll dancers in bars. The moves were outgagous and disgusting. Changed dance companies asap. That owner was a little better but still insisted on baring the belly. Would be wonderful to see Dr. Phil address this topic because I feel some dance companies are just as guilty as pageants.
Posted by: bjbugs
Posted on: 2002-11-14 13:16:51
Couldn't agree with you more. My 13 yr once joined a dance company 7 years ago. She was 6 and come time to take pictures that - parents paid for - the owner insisted the girls all wear bright blue eye shadow and red lipstick. Since I was paying for a solo shot, I refused. Prior to the year end dance show the owner ordered sleezy little costumes and once again insisted the girls all wear clown makeup due to the lighting. To top it all off the 5, 6 & & yr olds learned dances that should've been choreographed for poll dancers in bars. The moves were outgagous and disgusting. Changed dance companies asap. That owner was a little better but still insisted on baring the belly. Would be wonderful to see Dr. Phil address this topic because I feel some dance companies are just as guilty as pageants.
