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Posted by: tae19711
Posted on: 2003-12-19 09:43:13
I really can relate to Dr.Phils guest that gets depressed during the Holidays.A few short months ago,I lost my job, and things are always going wrong.I wont be able to get my little boy that much at all for Christmas.Im always feeling so LOW at Holiday Time.Im trying very hard to get another job, but in this area its just very hard. Thank-You for listening. LEW
Posted by: tae19711
Posted on: 2003-12-19 09:43:13
I really can relate to Dr.Phils guest that gets depressed during the Holidays.A few short months ago,I lost my job, and things are always going wrong.I wont be able to get my little boy that much at all for Christmas.Im always feeling so LOW at Holiday Time.Im trying very hard to get another job, but in this area its just very hard. Thank-You for listening. LEW
You're not alone
Posted by: sunfox
Posted on: 2003-12-19 15:36:03
I can sympathize with your situation. I too, am unemployed and unable to buy gifts for my family and my fiance. He offered to buy gifts for my family (even though our budget is a little more than shoestring) and sign them from the both of us. I feel terrible that I am unable to buy him a gift but tells me that it's ok and that things will eventually get better. This is the first Christmas I've had without my father (he died of cancer this June) and my fiance is taking me to my hometown to spend Christmas with my remaining family. It is sad and depressing but things are better since I can actually come home this Christmas and that will make this an easier and happier holiday for my family, my fiance, and myself.
You have a son that you share your life with, I can't imagine a blessing better than that.
Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays to all.
Posted by: sunfox
Posted on: 2003-12-19 15:36:03
I can sympathize with your situation. I too, am unemployed and unable to buy gifts for my family and my fiance. He offered to buy gifts for my family (even though our budget is a little more than shoestring) and sign them from the both of us. I feel terrible that I am unable to buy him a gift but tells me that it's ok and that things will eventually get better. This is the first Christmas I've had without my father (he died of cancer this June) and my fiance is taking me to my hometown to spend Christmas with my remaining family. It is sad and depressing but things are better since I can actually come home this Christmas and that will make this an easier and happier holiday for my family, my fiance, and myself.
You have a son that you share your life with, I can't imagine a blessing better than that.
Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays to all.
To Lew
Posted by: profderien
Posted on: 2003-12-19 18:55:53
Dear Lew,
I hope you won't be too proud to use the resources of Toys for Tots or the Salvation Army -- plus maybe a local church's Food Pantry. That is why they are there -- to be used by good people [and bad, for that matter!] in time of need. When you get back on your feet, take some time and give back... but until then, allow someone else the joy of giving to you and your children.
Posted by: profderien
Posted on: 2003-12-19 18:55:53
Dear Lew,
I hope you won't be too proud to use the resources of Toys for Tots or the Salvation Army -- plus maybe a local church's Food Pantry. That is why they are there -- to be used by good people [and bad, for that matter!] in time of need. When you get back on your feet, take some time and give back... but until then, allow someone else the joy of giving to you and your children.
To LEW
Posted by: kuddles4u
Posted on: 2003-12-19 19:20:08
I can also relate to the many struggles that life has to offer, I am a single mother of 3 girls ages 11 yrs, 3 years, and 21 months old. There are lots of pressures with the television ads that children want this and that, and most children as they get older want the brand name things and is it wrong for them to ask for that when they see their friends getting this stuff and school mates having these things, the best we can do is try to explain to our children what Christmas is all about and it isn't really about the giving but the Birth of Christ Jesus, and that being together as a family should be the most important thing there is. Well I wish you a Very Merry Christmas and Happy New Years and wish you luck in finding a job, and Also Merry Christmas and Happy New Year to all that read this!!!
Posted by: kuddles4u
Posted on: 2003-12-19 19:20:08
I can also relate to the many struggles that life has to offer, I am a single mother of 3 girls ages 11 yrs, 3 years, and 21 months old. There are lots of pressures with the television ads that children want this and that, and most children as they get older want the brand name things and is it wrong for them to ask for that when they see their friends getting this stuff and school mates having these things, the best we can do is try to explain to our children what Christmas is all about and it isn't really about the giving but the Birth of Christ Jesus, and that being together as a family should be the most important thing there is. Well I wish you a Very Merry Christmas and Happy New Years and wish you luck in finding a job, and Also Merry Christmas and Happy New Year to all that read this!!!
I can relate!
Posted by: blueflies
Posted on: 2003-12-19 20:47:02
Hi there!
I to am unemployed, and so was my husband up until november.But I hate to quit my job because of illness, so it has been extremely tough getting ready for the holidays when we are $thoundsands of dollars for the bills let alone Christmas. I have 3 childen, aged 16,14,9. My nine year old daughter asked me if Santa is going to come to our house this year? I told her that he wouldnt forget her, and that santa always gives them a great stocking, so that has been my focus to keep her belief alive for just 1 more year.:o)) So my goal is to try to get through this week as best as I can, and find away to keep her dream alive. And I know that it will happen. Something has to happen, and its going to be great, maybe its a learning, of being happy together, and enjoy each other as much as we can. I know I will have a special gift on Christmas night,my husband will be done work for a few days and we will be together.
Posted by: blueflies
Posted on: 2003-12-19 20:47:02
Hi there!
I to am unemployed, and so was my husband up until november.But I hate to quit my job because of illness, so it has been extremely tough getting ready for the holidays when we are $thoundsands of dollars for the bills let alone Christmas. I have 3 childen, aged 16,14,9. My nine year old daughter asked me if Santa is going to come to our house this year? I told her that he wouldnt forget her, and that santa always gives them a great stocking, so that has been my focus to keep her belief alive for just 1 more year.:o)) So my goal is to try to get through this week as best as I can, and find away to keep her dream alive. And I know that it will happen. Something has to happen, and its going to be great, maybe its a learning, of being happy together, and enjoy each other as much as we can. I know I will have a special gift on Christmas night,my husband will be done work for a few days and we will be together.
job lose/no presents
Posted by: linkylkay
Posted on: 2003-12-20 00:58:02
Dear tae19711,
I'm sorry to hear about your situation but what we all need to remember is that christmas is about spending time with that one relative that you never remember otherwise and to think of someone other than our selves.We have all lost the spirit and the meaning of christmas and this happened even before 9-11.We need to stop using excuses for why we are grumps.We all just sit hear and complain and expect stuff to be handed over to us and thats not how life is. All though it hurt when we were kids not to get everything we wanted it ended up being better for us in the long run. We cant give our children all the luxuries that we didnt have we will only create unappreciated monsters
Posted by: linkylkay
Posted on: 2003-12-20 00:58:02
Dear tae19711,
I'm sorry to hear about your situation but what we all need to remember is that christmas is about spending time with that one relative that you never remember otherwise and to think of someone other than our selves.We have all lost the spirit and the meaning of christmas and this happened even before 9-11.We need to stop using excuses for why we are grumps.We all just sit hear and complain and expect stuff to be handed over to us and thats not how life is. All though it hurt when we were kids not to get everything we wanted it ended up being better for us in the long run. We cant give our children all the luxuries that we didnt have we will only create unappreciated monsters
hard holidays!
Posted by: nicki72
Posted on: 2003-12-22 01:16:56
I can realy relate to you tae19711
I live in australia, we moved right accross the country for a job advancement for my husband. Finally found a rental home, enrolled my son in school, and then a week before christmas he has been dismissed!
We have tried getting legal advice but no-one seems able to help. I have no family here for support. We were broke from the move, so no money for gifts.
Its so hard not to be depressed! My son is 13 and I have been honest about our situation, we have said that when my husband finds a job we will have a late xmas.But I had to tell him we cant pay the rent so we cant buy toys!
I have made handmade items for table, sent hand made cards to family. I plan to have a simple meal, and try to remember that the most important thing is we are all here together and safe.Take care, try to see the positives no matter how small they are. Also a friend of mine visits the elderly during holiday times, because you would be suprised how uplifting "giving" can be! Even if its just a friendly chat! Nicki
Posted by: nicki72
Posted on: 2003-12-22 01:16:56
I can realy relate to you tae19711
I live in australia, we moved right accross the country for a job advancement for my husband. Finally found a rental home, enrolled my son in school, and then a week before christmas he has been dismissed!
We have tried getting legal advice but no-one seems able to help. I have no family here for support. We were broke from the move, so no money for gifts.
Its so hard not to be depressed! My son is 13 and I have been honest about our situation, we have said that when my husband finds a job we will have a late xmas.But I had to tell him we cant pay the rent so we cant buy toys!
I have made handmade items for table, sent hand made cards to family. I plan to have a simple meal, and try to remember that the most important thing is we are all here together and safe.Take care, try to see the positives no matter how small they are. Also a friend of mine visits the elderly during holiday times, because you would be suprised how uplifting "giving" can be! Even if its just a friendly chat! Nicki
Wonderful Kiki
Posted by: cancerstic
Posted on: 2003-12-19 09:51:25
I wish Kiki's mother would realize what an intelligent, innovative little girl she has. Kiki is ambitious and creative. She has real dreams and goals. The problem with being a "pink princess" is that she would be defined by her looks when she is so much more.
I see great things in the future for Kiki and I hope her parents continue to encourage her strengths.
Posted by: cancerstic
Posted on: 2003-12-19 09:51:25
I wish Kiki's mother would realize what an intelligent, innovative little girl she has. Kiki is ambitious and creative. She has real dreams and goals. The problem with being a "pink princess" is that she would be defined by her looks when she is so much more.
I see great things in the future for Kiki and I hope her parents continue to encourage her strengths.
Re: Wonderful Kiki
Posted by: phil3kazoo
Posted on: 2003-12-19 11:32:47
I agree with your comments on Kiki 100%. That girl will probably never put that guitar down.It appears that she is an intellegent 11 year old and can handle this great gift. I don't get emotional over talk shows but when Dr. Phil gave her that guitar and those little tears came out I couldn't help but shed a tear and think that this girl WILL make it in the music world.
Posted by: phil3kazoo
Posted on: 2003-12-19 11:32:47
I agree with your comments on Kiki 100%. That girl will probably never put that guitar down.It appears that she is an intellegent 11 year old and can handle this great gift. I don't get emotional over talk shows but when Dr. Phil gave her that guitar and those little tears came out I couldn't help but shed a tear and think that this girl WILL make it in the music world.
On the other hand....
Posted by: danko7r
Posted on: 2003-12-19 18:15:55
Yes, music is a wonderful thing. I have had music in most of my 60+ years. However, I am afraid that what little Kiki is excited about is not music, but a lifestyle, a look, a trend, and the world of Rock is a dangerous place, especially for impressionable teenagers. Let's face it, a huge percentage of "music" in that genre isn't really music at all, but essentially beat and noise. Now that she has a guitar, her parents have the responsibility to get her a real music teacher for that instrument, and investigate to see if she really wants to make music with it, or just jump around on a stage. If it is the latter, then, since she doesn't seem to take to the piano, perhaps they should investigate other areas of interest. Not everyone is a musical creature. But almost every 11 year-old is a naive, impressionable creature, desperately in need of careful parenting and protection from a very nasty world.
Posted by: danko7r
Posted on: 2003-12-19 18:15:55
Yes, music is a wonderful thing. I have had music in most of my 60+ years. However, I am afraid that what little Kiki is excited about is not music, but a lifestyle, a look, a trend, and the world of Rock is a dangerous place, especially for impressionable teenagers. Let's face it, a huge percentage of "music" in that genre isn't really music at all, but essentially beat and noise. Now that she has a guitar, her parents have the responsibility to get her a real music teacher for that instrument, and investigate to see if she really wants to make music with it, or just jump around on a stage. If it is the latter, then, since she doesn't seem to take to the piano, perhaps they should investigate other areas of interest. Not everyone is a musical creature. But almost every 11 year-old is a naive, impressionable creature, desperately in need of careful parenting and protection from a very nasty world.
Ahem, one... two... three...
Posted by: profderien
Posted on: 2003-12-19 19:02:51
I can't resist asking, without wanting to establish a whole new thread: What constitutes music, and what a "musical nature"? "Essentially beat and noise" -- yes, absolutely! The shame is that it seems a whole lot of people want to predetermine the choices of a completely normal 11 year old girl... It strikes me as bizarre and presumptuous. Certainly some of the reality you refer to exists... but isn't there room for an equally acceptable alternate reality?
Posted by: profderien
Posted on: 2003-12-19 19:02:51
I can't resist asking, without wanting to establish a whole new thread: What constitutes music, and what a "musical nature"? "Essentially beat and noise" -- yes, absolutely! The shame is that it seems a whole lot of people want to predetermine the choices of a completely normal 11 year old girl... It strikes me as bizarre and presumptuous. Certainly some of the reality you refer to exists... but isn't there room for an equally acceptable alternate reality?
Food For Thought
Posted by: ibanezgax
Posted on: 2003-12-22 00:26:13
Let me start off by saying that I am an 18-year-old high school student. I bought a guitar (an Ibanez GAX30) and amp with my own money, which I worked for, a few weeks ago and have been playing ever since. Why am I playing guitar? When I go off to college next year I want to be in a band and play local gigs. I don’t want to be a big rock star; I want to make music that puts a smile on people’s faces. That’s not what Kiki wants to do. She wants to play guitar because she saw it in a movie. Not only that, she quit piano because she couldn’t play hard music without practicing. I’ve been playing for 3 weeks and trust me; you can’t pick up a guitar and start playing like Jimi Hendrix. But she apparently thinks she can. Learning guitar is an extremely frustrating process. When your fingers are weak and slow and you can’t seem to coordinate your two hands it’s very tempting to quit and to tell you the truth, I almost have. I mean, if it’s hard enough for an 18 year old to play then I’m sure it will be hard, if not harder, for an 11 year old. I can almost guarantee you that guitar will be sitting in her closet after a week. Not only was it any guitar, it was a Gibson Melody Maker. She’s playing on $1000 worth of equipment and I’m playing on $200. Now I know the world isn’t fair and I’m not bitter about the whole thing, I just hope that this whole rant was a little food for thought.
Posted by: ibanezgax
Posted on: 2003-12-22 00:26:13
Let me start off by saying that I am an 18-year-old high school student. I bought a guitar (an Ibanez GAX30) and amp with my own money, which I worked for, a few weeks ago and have been playing ever since. Why am I playing guitar? When I go off to college next year I want to be in a band and play local gigs. I don’t want to be a big rock star; I want to make music that puts a smile on people’s faces. That’s not what Kiki wants to do. She wants to play guitar because she saw it in a movie. Not only that, she quit piano because she couldn’t play hard music without practicing. I’ve been playing for 3 weeks and trust me; you can’t pick up a guitar and start playing like Jimi Hendrix. But she apparently thinks she can. Learning guitar is an extremely frustrating process. When your fingers are weak and slow and you can’t seem to coordinate your two hands it’s very tempting to quit and to tell you the truth, I almost have. I mean, if it’s hard enough for an 18 year old to play then I’m sure it will be hard, if not harder, for an 11 year old. I can almost guarantee you that guitar will be sitting in her closet after a week. Not only was it any guitar, it was a Gibson Melody Maker. She’s playing on $1000 worth of equipment and I’m playing on $200. Now I know the world isn’t fair and I’m not bitter about the whole thing, I just hope that this whole rant was a little food for thought.
Add a few years of experience
Posted by: zannalee
Posted on: 2003-12-22 05:32:09
Well, I'm 25 and I've been playing guitar for a lot of years...and I don't think it matters what Kiki's intentions are. If she wants to be a rock star...what's wrong with that. I want to be a rock star and I'm currently playing guitar in a dirty LA rock band trying hard to make that happen. I also have my Master's degree in English, I'm a published poet, and I've taught university level writing classes. But, learning to play guitar has been the single-most important thing I've done in my life. It has made me smarter, stronger, happier. And when I started I wanted to be the biggest rock star in the land...the girl guitar player who disproved the theory that girls can't play. Playing guitar, or any musical instrument for that matter is never only about the music...it's about the possibility for community, contact, fun, attention, glamour, power...and any number of other things. All these things are valid. And to suggest that her reasons for playing are inferior to yours or anyone else's is simply...well, wrong. As for the quitting thing...I quit the trumpet before picking up guitar. As for the cost of her guitar, a good guitar is easier to play, and thus easier to learn on. Maybe she will quit...but who cares. It's good to try and while I may be biased, I think a girl picking up electric guitar and wanting to rock is one of the greatest examples of gender advancement in our culture. Rock & roll is very male-dominated, moreso than sports even...and girls who are
Posted by: zannalee
Posted on: 2003-12-22 05:32:09
Well, I'm 25 and I've been playing guitar for a lot of years...and I don't think it matters what Kiki's intentions are. If she wants to be a rock star...what's wrong with that. I want to be a rock star and I'm currently playing guitar in a dirty LA rock band trying hard to make that happen. I also have my Master's degree in English, I'm a published poet, and I've taught university level writing classes. But, learning to play guitar has been the single-most important thing I've done in my life. It has made me smarter, stronger, happier. And when I started I wanted to be the biggest rock star in the land...the girl guitar player who disproved the theory that girls can't play. Playing guitar, or any musical instrument for that matter is never only about the music...it's about the possibility for community, contact, fun, attention, glamour, power...and any number of other things. All these things are valid. And to suggest that her reasons for playing are inferior to yours or anyone else's is simply...well, wrong. As for the quitting thing...I quit the trumpet before picking up guitar. As for the cost of her guitar, a good guitar is easier to play, and thus easier to learn on. Maybe she will quit...but who cares. It's good to try and while I may be biased, I think a girl picking up electric guitar and wanting to rock is one of the greatest examples of gender advancement in our culture. Rock & roll is very male-dominated, moreso than sports even...and girls who are
I agree
Posted by: rwmetro
Posted on: 2003-12-22 22:46:41
I agree with you ibanezqax, I have dated and have several friends who play guitar and most if not all of them WISHED they had learned or stuck with the piano because they feel it would have made their guitar playing easier and better.
Keep practicing, it helps to find someone who plays too, so you can teach each other. BTW, I am told "Stairway to Heaven" is must learn, something about the ease of learning chords. Good luck!
Posted by: rwmetro
Posted on: 2003-12-22 22:46:41
I agree with you ibanezqax, I have dated and have several friends who play guitar and most if not all of them WISHED they had learned or stuck with the piano because they feel it would have made their guitar playing easier and better.
Keep practicing, it helps to find someone who plays too, so you can teach each other. BTW, I am told "Stairway to Heaven" is must learn, something about the ease of learning chords. Good luck!
Kiki, please read!
Posted by: mollysdad
Posted on: 2003-12-29 14:22:29
Thing is it may start as an attraction to the whole rock star thing, but as she gets older and develops her talent and emotional self, she may very well find herself going in different directions creatively. That's the way it was for me and I've been a guitar player since I was 13. A lot of people take piano lessons and lose interest. It hasn't got so much to do with music or the instrument as it has to do with the way it's taught. Struggling through learning to read music and play what someone else wants you to play can be a recipe for hating music. My advice to Kiki is pick out a particular player or two you love and learn everything you can about who they loved and what their history was. Go to a local music store or Amazon and find books of their music done in what's called tablature which are guitar chord diagrams. Kiddo - even if you don't become famous or professional you'll have a lifetime of enjoyment ahead of you doing something that most people dream they could do. My little girl is three years old right now and I have two dusty Fender guitars, two well worn Martins, a fiddle, and a banjo waiting for her little fingers to get big enough!,
Posted by: mollysdad
Posted on: 2003-12-29 14:22:29
Thing is it may start as an attraction to the whole rock star thing, but as she gets older and develops her talent and emotional self, she may very well find herself going in different directions creatively. That's the way it was for me and I've been a guitar player since I was 13. A lot of people take piano lessons and lose interest. It hasn't got so much to do with music or the instrument as it has to do with the way it's taught. Struggling through learning to read music and play what someone else wants you to play can be a recipe for hating music. My advice to Kiki is pick out a particular player or two you love and learn everything you can about who they loved and what their history was. Go to a local music store or Amazon and find books of their music done in what's called tablature which are guitar chord diagrams. Kiddo - even if you don't become famous or professional you'll have a lifetime of enjoyment ahead of you doing something that most people dream they could do. My little girl is three years old right now and I have two dusty Fender guitars, two well worn Martins, a fiddle, and a banjo waiting for her little fingers to get big enough!,
Special Christmas
Posted by: trump68
Posted on: 2003-12-19 09:51:50
Christmas is very special to this family this year we have a new granddaughter born on the fifth of November.When you have been married to the same person for thirty-five years, who not only is a federal employee, National Guardmans and also plays with another band on the side. My husband knows how blessed each Christmas is because he can be a little slack in the romance department, but the same woman has stuck by him raising four wonderful children and now raising a grandson. The only gift I never received that I wanted for Christmas was BB gun.Just because I was born in the forties and was southern ministers daughter.
Brownsugar
Posted by: trump68
Posted on: 2003-12-19 09:51:50
Christmas is very special to this family this year we have a new granddaughter born on the fifth of November.When you have been married to the same person for thirty-five years, who not only is a federal employee, National Guardmans and also plays with another band on the side. My husband knows how blessed each Christmas is because he can be a little slack in the romance department, but the same woman has stuck by him raising four wonderful children and now raising a grandson. The only gift I never received that I wanted for Christmas was BB gun.Just because I was born in the forties and was southern ministers daughter.
Brownsugar
Holidays from Hell
Posted by: neenee2two
Posted on: 2003-12-19 10:37:16
I would like to say that I understand what the person on the show this morning feels like getting used gifts from her mother for X-mas. My mother does the same thing. We have a place called Cerv and she goes there and finds items that have the labels still on them and gives them to me or my daughter for christmas. She thinks that there is nothing wrong with doing this.
Posted by: neenee2two
Posted on: 2003-12-19 10:37:16
I would like to say that I understand what the person on the show this morning feels like getting used gifts from her mother for X-mas. My mother does the same thing. We have a place called Cerv and she goes there and finds items that have the labels still on them and gives them to me or my daughter for christmas. She thinks that there is nothing wrong with doing this.
Re: Holidays from Hell
Posted by: phil3kazoo
Posted on: 2003-12-19 11:37:42
Please don't take Christ out of Christmas, after all if it weren't for Him we wouldn't have this special day.
Posted by: phil3kazoo
Posted on: 2003-12-19 11:37:42
Please don't take Christ out of Christmas, after all if it weren't for Him we wouldn't have this special day.
X-Mas
Posted by: itwill
Posted on: 2003-12-19 18:03:07
Referenced from dictionary.reference.com
Usage Note: Xmas has been used for hundreds of years in religious writing, where the X represents a Greek chi, the first letter of [Greek] “Christ.” In this use it is parallel to other forms like Xtian, “Christian.” But people unaware of the Greek origin of this X often mistakenly interpret Xmas as an informal shortening pronounced (eks'mes). Many therefore frown upon the term Xmas because it seems to them a commercial convenience that omits Christ from Christmas.
Posted by: itwill
Posted on: 2003-12-19 18:03:07
Referenced from dictionary.reference.com
Usage Note: Xmas has been used for hundreds of years in religious writing, where the X represents a Greek chi, the first letter of [Greek] “Christ.” In this use it is parallel to other forms like Xtian, “Christian.” But people unaware of the Greek origin of this X often mistakenly interpret Xmas as an informal shortening pronounced (eks'mes). Many therefore frown upon the term Xmas because it seems to them a commercial convenience that omits Christ from Christmas.
Re: X-mas
Posted by: phil3kazoo
Posted on: 2003-12-19 19:01:55
Sorry, you are so right. I guess that I was never set straight on that, I always thought it was a lazy way of writing Christmas,thanks for enlightening me. And it was right here in my dictionary all the time, Happy Holidays!
Posted by: phil3kazoo
Posted on: 2003-12-19 19:01:55
Sorry, you are so right. I guess that I was never set straight on that, I always thought it was a lazy way of writing Christmas,thanks for enlightening me. And it was right here in my dictionary all the time, Happy Holidays!
