02/14 Project Single Girls, Part II
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Posted by: omnium2
Posted on: 2003-02-14 11:51:42
Project? Why is being single, and free, and in control of your own life, freedom, finances and destiny a "Project" requiring some "fixing?" STAY SINGLE!!! You don't know how lucky you are.
Posted by: omnium2
Posted on: 2003-02-14 11:51:42
Project? Why is being single, and free, and in control of your own life, freedom, finances and destiny a "Project" requiring some "fixing?" STAY SINGLE!!! You don't know how lucky you are.
companions
Posted by: loriaann
Posted on: 2003-02-14 12:16:41
that is all true, and sometimes i miss the freedoms of being single...however, there is a point in many people's lives that they decide that they're ready to move to another stage, to find a companion. these women have reached this point and that's why they're on the show. some people stay single forever, and that's their choice...these women were not pulled off the streets and told they needed a mate, they came to Dr. Phil for help in their transition to this new stage of their lives.
Posted by: loriaann
Posted on: 2003-02-14 12:16:41
that is all true, and sometimes i miss the freedoms of being single...however, there is a point in many people's lives that they decide that they're ready to move to another stage, to find a companion. these women have reached this point and that's why they're on the show. some people stay single forever, and that's their choice...these women were not pulled off the streets and told they needed a mate, they came to Dr. Phil for help in their transition to this new stage of their lives.
Yes they came for help
Posted by: shawnamari
Posted on: 2003-02-15 15:00:07
and don't you think that the happily married women gave great advice?
i Especially the first one that said you should be yourself and forget the rules!!
The only way to find a true mate is to be yourself otherwise you are just finding someone else's mate.
Posted by: shawnamari
Posted on: 2003-02-15 15:00:07
and don't you think that the happily married women gave great advice?
i Especially the first one that said you should be yourself and forget the rules!!
The only way to find a true mate is to be yourself otherwise you are just finding someone else's mate.
online dating????
Posted by: nshaddock
Posted on: 2003-02-14 17:20:18
I am sick of the games that go along with dating, I've given up trying to meet Mr. Right at bars, my friend convinced me to try online dating, seemed harmles enough at the time, but it seems like all the guys are looking for is sex right off that bat, even the ones that are supposed to be looking for a relationship also, I seem to always go for the bad boys, and pass right by the "nice guys" does anyone have this same problem, and if so, how do you stop and where do you meet Mr. Right???
Posted by: nshaddock
Posted on: 2003-02-14 17:20:18
I am sick of the games that go along with dating, I've given up trying to meet Mr. Right at bars, my friend convinced me to try online dating, seemed harmles enough at the time, but it seems like all the guys are looking for is sex right off that bat, even the ones that are supposed to be looking for a relationship also, I seem to always go for the bad boys, and pass right by the "nice guys" does anyone have this same problem, and if so, how do you stop and where do you meet Mr. Right???
on line dating
Posted by: tinamungo
Posted on: 2003-02-14 20:40:11
I think your friend gave you some bad advice.(on line dating) it is only harmless until you finally decide to meet in person and you disappear without a trace. Try going to church and ask God to send you that special guy, who won't hide behind a computer screen and lie through his fingertips
Posted by: tinamungo
Posted on: 2003-02-14 20:40:11
I think your friend gave you some bad advice.(on line dating) it is only harmless until you finally decide to meet in person and you disappear without a trace. Try going to church and ask God to send you that special guy, who won't hide behind a computer screen and lie through his fingertips
not what was meant
Posted by: siannan_m
Posted on: 2003-02-15 10:36:32
Although it is paritally good advice to go to church and pray for a man, I don't think that's what God meant when he said "Ask and it will be given". You should try being thankful for what you already have. Your home, your car, your family, friends, your health, the health and safety of your family and friends, your spirituality. I think you'll find that when you go to Him in thanksgiving, life seems to work out better. (and I know the thanksgiving is the reason)
Posted by: siannan_m
Posted on: 2003-02-15 10:36:32
Although it is paritally good advice to go to church and pray for a man, I don't think that's what God meant when he said "Ask and it will be given". You should try being thankful for what you already have. Your home, your car, your family, friends, your health, the health and safety of your family and friends, your spirituality. I think you'll find that when you go to Him in thanksgiving, life seems to work out better. (and I know the thanksgiving is the reason)
agree but disagree
Posted by: b_u_tee
Posted on: 2003-07-12 12:30:04
I agree that it is not Gods job to go out and diliberately hook people up. What is meant by someone praying to God is to ask for help and get the support needed when facing the difficult task in finding a suitable mate. God loves us all and wants us to be happy,not to say that things will get served on a big silver platter. But there is no doubt in my mind that he not would hesitate in helping those who seek him.
Posted by: b_u_tee
Posted on: 2003-07-12 12:30:04
I agree that it is not Gods job to go out and diliberately hook people up. What is meant by someone praying to God is to ask for help and get the support needed when facing the difficult task in finding a suitable mate. God loves us all and wants us to be happy,not to say that things will get served on a big silver platter. But there is no doubt in my mind that he not would hesitate in helping those who seek him.
On line dating!
Posted by: whitedove
Posted on: 2003-02-14 21:37:28
I agree with your friend about being able to find a successful partner online. But you have to be smart in going about it. #1 Don't go looking for a mate. Look for a friend, then be a friend. #2 Don't be in a rush. Take time to get to know each other well. Remember, this is the internet! #3 Hone your communication skills and learn to talk with the person. #4 Remember when you encounter a person who you can't communicate with, then you're wasting your time. Get out! #5 You don't have to go to church to pray for what you want. God is with you no matter where you are! He's heard me many times! #6 Also keep in mind that all things happen for a reason. Sometimes when you really look and think hard enough, you can see that good things do come out of bad things, even when you don't think they're good at the time.
I've been in my on-line relationship, slow and steady and progressing for 2 1/2 years now. It's the best relationship I've EVER had! My partner started out as my friend and things progressed thru different levels. He is STILL my friend, but also now, my BEST FRIEND.
Posted by: whitedove
Posted on: 2003-02-14 21:37:28
I agree with your friend about being able to find a successful partner online. But you have to be smart in going about it. #1 Don't go looking for a mate. Look for a friend, then be a friend. #2 Don't be in a rush. Take time to get to know each other well. Remember, this is the internet! #3 Hone your communication skills and learn to talk with the person. #4 Remember when you encounter a person who you can't communicate with, then you're wasting your time. Get out! #5 You don't have to go to church to pray for what you want. God is with you no matter where you are! He's heard me many times! #6 Also keep in mind that all things happen for a reason. Sometimes when you really look and think hard enough, you can see that good things do come out of bad things, even when you don't think they're good at the time.
I've been in my on-line relationship, slow and steady and progressing for 2 1/2 years now. It's the best relationship I've EVER had! My partner started out as my friend and things progressed thru different levels. He is STILL my friend, but also now, my BEST FRIEND.
I met my husband online
Posted by: mrwn23
Posted on: 2003-02-16 23:39:40
I agree with what you had to say. I met my husband online and he is the greatest. Our communication skills are in good shape because we taled everynight for about 6mos . Then we got married I was lucky, but for other reasons we could not live together until Sept. of last year. My kids love him and things are great, but you do have to be careful and things can work..
Posted by: mrwn23
Posted on: 2003-02-16 23:39:40
I agree with what you had to say. I met my husband online and he is the greatest. Our communication skills are in good shape because we taled everynight for about 6mos . Then we got married I was lucky, but for other reasons we could not live together until Sept. of last year. My kids love him and things are great, but you do have to be careful and things can work..
8minuteDating
Posted by: 8mindate
Posted on: 2003-02-14 22:16:24
The concept of 8minuteDating is great. You can meet 8 people on one on one conversation and also meet everyone at the event.
The events are held in upscale restaurants and the seating is done by random before the guests arrive. Everyone moves for every 8minuteDate. You are assigned a dating card (for date list )and seating assignment card
(to know which table to go to each date).
After the event you log on the web sight and enter your matches. Then the main office send out the contact information if you have a match.
People only see your first name and a number and can not contact you if you are not interested in them.
Advance registration is required on the web sight
Posted by: 8mindate
Posted on: 2003-02-14 22:16:24
The concept of 8minuteDating is great. You can meet 8 people on one on one conversation and also meet everyone at the event.
The events are held in upscale restaurants and the seating is done by random before the guests arrive. Everyone moves for every 8minuteDate. You are assigned a dating card (for date list )and seating assignment card
(to know which table to go to each date).
After the event you log on the web sight and enter your matches. Then the main office send out the contact information if you have a match.
People only see your first name and a number and can not contact you if you are not interested in them.
Advance registration is required on the web sight
Posted by: joanlv42
Posted on: 2003-02-15 12:04:12
I KNOW how you feel. A friend convinced (ok, practically forced) me to try online dating. I was pretty nervous, but it was easier than I thought. I have been talking to someone quite regularly. It's funny because I have been really unsure whether I was interested- he wasn't necessarily fitting the "list". And then just yesterday there's Dr. Phil talking about the list, and cleaning up the list to get rid of the frivolous stuff. So now I'm trying to decide what I can live with and what I can't, before this relationship goes much further. I don't want to settle, but I am trying to decide what really matters. I talked to "internet boyfriend" (as my roommate and I call him) for 3 hours last night, and it was so easy- I don't talk to anyone on the phone that long. So I guess what I'm trying to say in a very indirect way is to give it a try- it's no guarantee, but honestly, it's kind of fun. And who knows where things will lead!!! I'll let you know about my own progress.....
lists
Posted by: seniser
Posted on: 2003-02-18 17:45:30
well i've had my "perfect prince" list made since my younger days. last year i met a man who met everything on my checklist by the 2nd date.. we dated for a year and wouldn't you know it.. he's gay LOL throw away the list.. most men perfect for us women are gay.. find someone compatible (compromise, compassion, communication)
Posted by: seniser
Posted on: 2003-02-18 17:45:30
well i've had my "perfect prince" list made since my younger days. last year i met a man who met everything on my checklist by the 2nd date.. we dated for a year and wouldn't you know it.. he's gay LOL throw away the list.. most men perfect for us women are gay.. find someone compatible (compromise, compassion, communication)
Re: On-line dating
Posted by: eurofemme
Posted on: 2003-02-15 17:22:50
Well...they don't call it " CYBER-SPACE" for nothing! I agree with you about on-line dating and had plenty of BAD experiences, so
I CAN'T recommend it! 1. The Men on there all
seem to lie just about everything! Their height, their age, you name it! 2. They DON'T
read the Profile and E-mail you based on your Photo alone. I can tell, because most Guys are not at ALL what I am looking for!
3. I get E-mails with 1 "single word" HI, or a 1 liner, when I specifically mention NO 1
Liners! When asking for a Photo, they have the stupidity to MASS-mail it to other Girls.
I met 3 Males who were NOT the one in the Pic and the last one was 10 years older then what he claimed to be in his Profile. There are also MANY Men in Realtionships, who seek fun on the sly. They all want to meet for coffee, or a drink, have NO plan and DON'T want to put in their 2 cents. And YES...it's all about Sex! They seem to think that Women
on the Net are somehow EASY (like them!)and
they can forgo the dating rituals all
together. Sad but true...A Survey about Cyber-dating has revealed that Guys juggle as many as 7 Prospects at ONE time! No wonder
they are so wishy-washy and flaky! Sorry Girls...generally speaking NOT a good bet,
although there are always exeptions to the rules.
Posted by: eurofemme
Posted on: 2003-02-15 17:22:50
Well...they don't call it " CYBER-SPACE" for nothing! I agree with you about on-line dating and had plenty of BAD experiences, so
I CAN'T recommend it! 1. The Men on there all
seem to lie just about everything! Their height, their age, you name it! 2. They DON'T
read the Profile and E-mail you based on your Photo alone. I can tell, because most Guys are not at ALL what I am looking for!
3. I get E-mails with 1 "single word" HI, or a 1 liner, when I specifically mention NO 1
Liners! When asking for a Photo, they have the stupidity to MASS-mail it to other Girls.
I met 3 Males who were NOT the one in the Pic and the last one was 10 years older then what he claimed to be in his Profile. There are also MANY Men in Realtionships, who seek fun on the sly. They all want to meet for coffee, or a drink, have NO plan and DON'T want to put in their 2 cents. And YES...it's all about Sex! They seem to think that Women
on the Net are somehow EASY (like them!)and
they can forgo the dating rituals all
together. Sad but true...A Survey about Cyber-dating has revealed that Guys juggle as many as 7 Prospects at ONE time! No wonder
they are so wishy-washy and flaky! Sorry Girls...generally speaking NOT a good bet,
although there are always exeptions to the rules.
HMMMMM
Posted by: seniser
Posted on: 2003-02-18 17:47:54
wow that sounds like many men i've met i bars lol.. it's just as easy to lie in person as it is in a bar face to face.. online, well you decide when and if you meet them, not like in a bar when the sleeze ball can just walk up at anytime, hell, he can even try to take you home or hurt ya in the parking lot.. just have fun, relax.. easier to weed thru men online than in a crowded bar anyway..
Posted by: seniser
Posted on: 2003-02-18 17:47:54
wow that sounds like many men i've met i bars lol.. it's just as easy to lie in person as it is in a bar face to face.. online, well you decide when and if you meet them, not like in a bar when the sleeze ball can just walk up at anytime, hell, he can even try to take you home or hurt ya in the parking lot.. just have fun, relax.. easier to weed thru men online than in a crowded bar anyway..
You are not the only one
Posted by: ezaelle
Posted on: 2003-02-15 21:08:59
I had the same experiences. I did try the online dating and so far this is no good either. Why...? because most of those guys have problems (differents kinds). I meet a few of them. It seems that I only connect with those who are having problems.
I asked myself why..it's only that way? Some day, a friend tell me that may be I do have some problems to correct or ameliorate myself. Well, I decided to stop looking but just talk with them by email no pictures, nothing. Just simply talk and at the same time I revise my profile, studying only on me and found that I did have a few things to change. Keep it in mind that nobody is perfect so don't try to find Mr Right, it doesn't exist only in our dream.
take care
a friend
Posted by: ezaelle
Posted on: 2003-02-15 21:08:59
I had the same experiences. I did try the online dating and so far this is no good either. Why...? because most of those guys have problems (differents kinds). I meet a few of them. It seems that I only connect with those who are having problems.
I asked myself why..it's only that way? Some day, a friend tell me that may be I do have some problems to correct or ameliorate myself. Well, I decided to stop looking but just talk with them by email no pictures, nothing. Just simply talk and at the same time I revise my profile, studying only on me and found that I did have a few things to change. Keep it in mind that nobody is perfect so don't try to find Mr Right, it doesn't exist only in our dream.
take care
a friend
Give Mr. Nice a Chance
Posted by: drsielski
Posted on: 2003-02-16 10:27:57
Well, you said it your self. Not haveing luck with the bad boys.. Stop and take a chance with a nice guy. You have to be willing to accept what is there to be offered and may have to waid through repect and thoughtfullness.... but, once oppened up he'll have been worth the wait. The nice guys usualy have sucessful and estabilished carrers that can take care of the right woman. And read this... GUYS HATE "THE LIST"! This is the other reason you havn't been so successful and the nice guy never makes the list.. The list is a deal breaker with most men.
Posted by: drsielski
Posted on: 2003-02-16 10:27:57
Well, you said it your self. Not haveing luck with the bad boys.. Stop and take a chance with a nice guy. You have to be willing to accept what is there to be offered and may have to waid through repect and thoughtfullness.... but, once oppened up he'll have been worth the wait. The nice guys usualy have sucessful and estabilished carrers that can take care of the right woman. And read this... GUYS HATE "THE LIST"! This is the other reason you havn't been so successful and the nice guy never makes the list.. The list is a deal breaker with most men.
games
Posted by: seniser
Posted on: 2003-02-18 17:39:43
my advice to people sick of games, then don't play them!! be straight up and straight forward. don't lie to yourself or others, be brutally honest in what you want, and go out and get it. i'm 28 and happily engaged to my prince charming. fairytales do come true if you want them to. make it happen!
Posted by: seniser
Posted on: 2003-02-18 17:39:43
my advice to people sick of games, then don't play them!! be straight up and straight forward. don't lie to yourself or others, be brutally honest in what you want, and go out and get it. i'm 28 and happily engaged to my prince charming. fairytales do come true if you want them to. make it happen!
Re:Seniser
Posted by: b_u_tee
Posted on: 2003-07-12 12:56:44
You say go after what you want. But what happens when someone likes you but is not ready to get involved as more then friends? I know I obiviously have to wait and see. But i just don't want to wait and then what if I do wait and he doesn't want anyhting period. I think that it's a lot easier said then done in that respect. Maybe I'll just have to learn to be patient. What do you think?
Posted by: b_u_tee
Posted on: 2003-07-12 12:56:44
You say go after what you want. But what happens when someone likes you but is not ready to get involved as more then friends? I know I obiviously have to wait and see. But i just don't want to wait and then what if I do wait and he doesn't want anyhting period. I think that it's a lot easier said then done in that respect. Maybe I'll just have to learn to be patient. What do you think?
find a date
Posted by: dydygirl
Posted on: 2003-02-19 20:29:35
I also had trouble finding men. Try 8 minute dating in your area. There are some real sincere men there, they are all not perfect. But like the real world, you have to weed the garden of Eden.
or you could try a community college/town activities that you enjoy(photo, cooking, sports)
good luck!
Posted by: dydygirl
Posted on: 2003-02-19 20:29:35
I also had trouble finding men. Try 8 minute dating in your area. There are some real sincere men there, they are all not perfect. But like the real world, you have to weed the garden of Eden.
or you could try a community college/town activities that you enjoy(photo, cooking, sports)
good luck!
a male response
Posted by: paulsuk
Posted on: 2003-03-04 18:03:15
I was intrigued to read your comments, as they are a lot like mine. I think i must be an alien or something but i am a male who experiences similar problems in my quest for Mrs Right. when i meet women whether online or in person they think im too good to be true because i DONT immediately only want sex, because i want to start a family and be normal, enjoy life. the fact im not the ugliest guy in the world means they mistrust me.........but i have tried SOOO hard to convince potential suitors of my integrity and they either take advantage or blow me off before i can prove it. what's your take on that?
Posted by: paulsuk
Posted on: 2003-03-04 18:03:15
I was intrigued to read your comments, as they are a lot like mine. I think i must be an alien or something but i am a male who experiences similar problems in my quest for Mrs Right. when i meet women whether online or in person they think im too good to be true because i DONT immediately only want sex, because i want to start a family and be normal, enjoy life. the fact im not the ugliest guy in the world means they mistrust me.........but i have tried SOOO hard to convince potential suitors of my integrity and they either take advantage or blow me off before i can prove it. what's your take on that?
