03/07 Shocking Headlines
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Posted by: ferling8
Posted on: 2003-03-07 11:14:35
Why do bad things happen to good people? It seems that there are some things that we are just not privy to understanding while on this earth. The thing is, I CHOOSE to believe with my entire heart, that there are certain situations where injustices are allowed to happen for the higher good. Amber, you obviously are an intune, caring, smart as a whip woman and the kind of person the ideal parent is formed from. The fact that this happened to you and your children is a powerful statement of how insidious and unpredictable the viscious act of child abuse is. You have the ability to make a difference, you are making a difference already. Moving on is NOT saying this was okay with you. Moving forward is not not saying your heart isn't broken and your breath will not forever catch in your throat each and every time you allow your thoughts to "go there." But please do not allow that to cause you to flounder. For some unknown reason, you have been handed this challenge and it's up to you to turn it into opportunity to serve as an educator, and an angel of mercy for so many people who are unwittingly in the same situation you were in, but do not yet know it! How scary is that! You are gallant and strong it's written all over you and women like you are just what is needed in fighting this cultural sickness. Dr. Phil is so right... You will only find freedom from this by jumping in and letting your passionate feelings rip from your heart. Good luck & God Bless...
Posted by: ferling8
Posted on: 2003-03-07 11:14:35
Why do bad things happen to good people? It seems that there are some things that we are just not privy to understanding while on this earth. The thing is, I CHOOSE to believe with my entire heart, that there are certain situations where injustices are allowed to happen for the higher good. Amber, you obviously are an intune, caring, smart as a whip woman and the kind of person the ideal parent is formed from. The fact that this happened to you and your children is a powerful statement of how insidious and unpredictable the viscious act of child abuse is. You have the ability to make a difference, you are making a difference already. Moving on is NOT saying this was okay with you. Moving forward is not not saying your heart isn't broken and your breath will not forever catch in your throat each and every time you allow your thoughts to "go there." But please do not allow that to cause you to flounder. For some unknown reason, you have been handed this challenge and it's up to you to turn it into opportunity to serve as an educator, and an angel of mercy for so many people who are unwittingly in the same situation you were in, but do not yet know it! How scary is that! You are gallant and strong it's written all over you and women like you are just what is needed in fighting this cultural sickness. Dr. Phil is so right... You will only find freedom from this by jumping in and letting your passionate feelings rip from your heart. Good luck & God Bless...
For Amber
Posted by: smk4450
Posted on: 2003-03-07 17:35:27
Hello, just watched your story on Dr Phil. I am the Grandmother of neglected grands. My advice is to watch the tape of the show many times and pick up on the small things. One, children are more durable than we are; they live and learn and can decide their own path if given love and guidance. They will always love all their parents/family no matter what. So what do we do? Lead them, protect them, but, do not speak evil as they take it to mean they did something wrong-not my thoughts-Dr Phil and others. Keep your home a calm one, an oasis from any storm. Some states have a newborn giveaway program to keep these babies safe; others have a program to talk to at risk parents.
Continue to maintain your quietness. Your quest for personal forgiveness will come with time, not that you did anything wrong. But,for me I knew something was terribly wrong as spelled out in court in the next months, but, I called everyone I could and did everything I could- including breaking into their home to find my Grand due to the school calling due to absence. Good luck, Sheila
Posted by: smk4450
Posted on: 2003-03-07 17:35:27
Hello, just watched your story on Dr Phil. I am the Grandmother of neglected grands. My advice is to watch the tape of the show many times and pick up on the small things. One, children are more durable than we are; they live and learn and can decide their own path if given love and guidance. They will always love all their parents/family no matter what. So what do we do? Lead them, protect them, but, do not speak evil as they take it to mean they did something wrong-not my thoughts-Dr Phil and others. Keep your home a calm one, an oasis from any storm. Some states have a newborn giveaway program to keep these babies safe; others have a program to talk to at risk parents.
Continue to maintain your quietness. Your quest for personal forgiveness will come with time, not that you did anything wrong. But,for me I knew something was terribly wrong as spelled out in court in the next months, but, I called everyone I could and did everything I could- including breaking into their home to find my Grand due to the school calling due to absence. Good luck, Sheila
Posted by: canadabob
Posted on: 2003-03-12 01:49:35
The Love of a Grand can mean so much. Babies know the heartstrings are there. As children get older they yearn for it. Children feel love all the time.
Our Grandcihldren
Posted by: drfills
Posted on: 2003-03-25 05:24:58
Is it ever unhealthy to love your Grandchildren. For example, wanting to call them each day,(they live out of state)?
When is enough enough?
Posted by: drfills
Posted on: 2003-03-25 05:24:58
Is it ever unhealthy to love your Grandchildren. For example, wanting to call them each day,(they live out of state)?
When is enough enough?
branding
Posted by: diana_rose
Posted on: 2003-03-07 17:40:52
As it turned out, by the end of the show........ Dr. Phill with his legal background, flat out asked her, if it was about money;..she agreed to drop the suit. But this guy must not do it again without prior notice to the patient. I'll say one thing for sure, Doctor's will learn to discuss things with their patients before doing any thing on them, that in itself is the good that came from her pain. I believe she was right in the sense that alot of women are sensive when it come to the organ considered female.
Posted by: diana_rose
Posted on: 2003-03-07 17:40:52
As it turned out, by the end of the show........ Dr. Phill with his legal background, flat out asked her, if it was about money;..she agreed to drop the suit. But this guy must not do it again without prior notice to the patient. I'll say one thing for sure, Doctor's will learn to discuss things with their patients before doing any thing on them, that in itself is the good that came from her pain. I believe she was right in the sense that alot of women are sensive when it come to the organ considered female.
branding incidents harm trust
Posted by: mjgunden
Posted on: 2003-03-09 15:53:06
Situations like Dr. Guiler's branding "UK" on the uterus he was about to remove do great damage to trust between patients and the medical profession. While he may not be the only physician who does it, it would be best for EVERYONE - patients, their loved ones, physicians, their support staffs, the legal system, the malpractice insurance system, taxpayers (perhaps NOT malpractice attorneys...unless they're patients!)if physicians just stopped all the monkey business! If all it took was a dot or small line to make sure he was oriented during the surgery, just do a dot or a line. It's simple if you just think about what would solve the problem. The people who have the ability to solve the problems are the people who perform the act in the first place. If they just stop doing it, it's no longer a problem! Isn't that what Dr. Phil teaches us to look for - a solution to the problem rather than picking an issue to death?
Physicians should just make sure that they treat all patients with respect and dignity, instead of pretending they're a character on the TV show "Scrubs", and that would go a long way to solving the immediate problem, reducing likelihood or need for future lawsuits, not contribute to the cost of malpractice insurance, not cause additional emotional or physical pain to patients. IT'S THE PHYSICIANS WHO NEED TO JUST SAY "NO" IN ADVANCE OF DOING SOMETHING NEEDLESS AND STUPID. If they don't have enough self-control to do that, they shouldn't be practicing.
Posted by: mjgunden
Posted on: 2003-03-09 15:53:06
Situations like Dr. Guiler's branding "UK" on the uterus he was about to remove do great damage to trust between patients and the medical profession. While he may not be the only physician who does it, it would be best for EVERYONE - patients, their loved ones, physicians, their support staffs, the legal system, the malpractice insurance system, taxpayers (perhaps NOT malpractice attorneys...unless they're patients!)if physicians just stopped all the monkey business! If all it took was a dot or small line to make sure he was oriented during the surgery, just do a dot or a line. It's simple if you just think about what would solve the problem. The people who have the ability to solve the problems are the people who perform the act in the first place. If they just stop doing it, it's no longer a problem! Isn't that what Dr. Phil teaches us to look for - a solution to the problem rather than picking an issue to death?
Physicians should just make sure that they treat all patients with respect and dignity, instead of pretending they're a character on the TV show "Scrubs", and that would go a long way to solving the immediate problem, reducing likelihood or need for future lawsuits, not contribute to the cost of malpractice insurance, not cause additional emotional or physical pain to patients. IT'S THE PHYSICIANS WHO NEED TO JUST SAY "NO" IN ADVANCE OF DOING SOMETHING NEEDLESS AND STUPID. If they don't have enough self-control to do that, they shouldn't be practicing.
An eye to an eye
Posted by: wooyah
Posted on: 2003-03-07 19:29:57
The guy who abused the children should be treated the same way to see how he feels if someone sticks a finger in his throat. Given his high education, he can still do something so cruel to others, which indicated he is a psycho and should be locked in the jail forever. Shame!
Posted by: wooyah
Posted on: 2003-03-07 19:29:57
The guy who abused the children should be treated the same way to see how he feels if someone sticks a finger in his throat. Given his high education, he can still do something so cruel to others, which indicated he is a psycho and should be locked in the jail forever. Shame!
Shame!
Posted by: mnasmom
Posted on: 2003-03-07 23:06:51
I agree with you 110%! I am the mom of 1 year old twins and I just wanted to jump through the TV and stick my fingers down his throat and throw him around and more! I just can't believe there are people out there that can hurt children. I will never, never be able to comprehend that!
Posted by: mnasmom
Posted on: 2003-03-07 23:06:51
I agree with you 110%! I am the mom of 1 year old twins and I just wanted to jump through the TV and stick my fingers down his throat and throw him around and more! I just can't believe there are people out there that can hurt children. I will never, never be able to comprehend that!
Posted by: zul2cool
Posted on: 2003-03-08 11:05:44
Ok with this guy who abused the babies he should be put up under the jail . but i think dr. phil was wrong to as there are many survivors out here that was triggered by that clip. i had to turn my tv off as it took me back to my childhood abuse.
Dr. PHil your good but you crossed a line onthis viewing.
abusers
Posted by: mickimf
Posted on: 2003-03-10 16:05:29
I e-mailed you once before about people who sexually abuse children. My main comment again is, take a good look at the people who are abusing children that they are related to. I was sexually abused for many years by my grandfather who threatened me in more ways than I can describe about what would happen to me if I told. The prevalence of family-related sexual abuse is beyond belief. It isn't always stranger danger, believe me
Posted by: mickimf
Posted on: 2003-03-10 16:05:29
I e-mailed you once before about people who sexually abuse children. My main comment again is, take a good look at the people who are abusing children that they are related to. I was sexually abused for many years by my grandfather who threatened me in more ways than I can describe about what would happen to me if I told. The prevalence of family-related sexual abuse is beyond belief. It isn't always stranger danger, believe me
For Amber
Posted by: juniorsmom
Posted on: 2003-03-07 19:51:12
Amber, we all feel guilty about something we have done or not done, but I think you have nothing to feel guilty about. You did the right thing in the beginning and it's not your fault the doctors didn't see a problem. You got the proof you needed which ended the abuse. I agree that this guy should get more than 2 or 3 years for what he did because I can't imagine someone sticking their fingers down anyones throat to stop their breathing, especially a defenseless baby.
Now, it is time to put any guilt you feel aside and just be a great Mom to your babies. Find an abuse group that you can work with to help other mothers know what to watch for. I think you will make a great speaker for womens or family groups because we all need to be reminded that these things happen much too often.
Posted by: juniorsmom
Posted on: 2003-03-07 19:51:12
Amber, we all feel guilty about something we have done or not done, but I think you have nothing to feel guilty about. You did the right thing in the beginning and it's not your fault the doctors didn't see a problem. You got the proof you needed which ended the abuse. I agree that this guy should get more than 2 or 3 years for what he did because I can't imagine someone sticking their fingers down anyones throat to stop their breathing, especially a defenseless baby.
Now, it is time to put any guilt you feel aside and just be a great Mom to your babies. Find an abuse group that you can work with to help other mothers know what to watch for. I think you will make a great speaker for womens or family groups because we all need to be reminded that these things happen much too often.
For Amber:
Posted by: anjisboys
Posted on: 2003-05-06 11:24:54
I just saw a tape of your segment and it breaks my heart every time I think about it. I have 19 1/2 month-old twin boys and I think, how could someone do that to a precious baby. I know the difficulties of raising twins and you must be exhausted by just day to day survival. You are such a strong woman! I applause you for being so aware and for trusting your intuition. You saved your babies' lives, no doubt. I regret that "Grant" didn't get more time in jail. The judge had to be stupid. I consider Grant a lucky guy because he's not dead yet! I admire your restraint in not having him tortured. I feel your rage. He will get his, whether on this earth or beyond. I'm sure his inmates would do their part if they saw the video you have. Beyond the feelings of anger, be happy that your children are okay and that even though we all wish that they didn't have to suffer when thay did, and it was sooo horribly wrong, they aren't likely to remember what happened. They seem to be happy and healthy and that has to be attributed to the joy you give and receive from them. Be excited to be able to wake up every morning and see the smiles on their faces when you enter the room. They are truly grateful to you, even if they cant say so. Don't worry about speech, mine aren't talking yet either. God will get you through this and will not allow your precious babies to suffer another moment. Heal your heart and love those babies! Give them all you've got and talk to them about your
Posted by: anjisboys
Posted on: 2003-05-06 11:24:54
I just saw a tape of your segment and it breaks my heart every time I think about it. I have 19 1/2 month-old twin boys and I think, how could someone do that to a precious baby. I know the difficulties of raising twins and you must be exhausted by just day to day survival. You are such a strong woman! I applause you for being so aware and for trusting your intuition. You saved your babies' lives, no doubt. I regret that "Grant" didn't get more time in jail. The judge had to be stupid. I consider Grant a lucky guy because he's not dead yet! I admire your restraint in not having him tortured. I feel your rage. He will get his, whether on this earth or beyond. I'm sure his inmates would do their part if they saw the video you have. Beyond the feelings of anger, be happy that your children are okay and that even though we all wish that they didn't have to suffer when thay did, and it was sooo horribly wrong, they aren't likely to remember what happened. They seem to be happy and healthy and that has to be attributed to the joy you give and receive from them. Be excited to be able to wake up every morning and see the smiles on their faces when you enter the room. They are truly grateful to you, even if they cant say so. Don't worry about speech, mine aren't talking yet either. God will get you through this and will not allow your precious babies to suffer another moment. Heal your heart and love those babies! Give them all you've got and talk to them about your
Uterus Branding
Posted by: semmaw
Posted on: 2003-03-07 11:22:50
I am a 31 year old woman who also has had a vaginal hysterectomy. During the surgery, my bladder was punctured due to the fact that my uterus had fused to it. I had to wear a catheter for 10 days because of this, and believe me, it was humiliating, and I did not leave the house. However, although I could have sued my doctor, I knew that it was not due to negligence on his part that this occurred. The fact that he may or may not have 'written' on my uterus (which was sent to a pathology lab, tested, and then destroyed) was the last thing on my mind. The woman who is sueing her doctor for this reason is one of the people who are costing the medical field so much money, and so many doctors, by sending medical malpractice insurance premiums through the roof. If a doctor is truly negligent, and this results in disability or death, then they should have to pay. These petty lawsuits are the reason we are losing all our best doctors. I think she should get real-this is not about a uterus that she no longer has, this is about money.
Posted by: semmaw
Posted on: 2003-03-07 11:22:50
I am a 31 year old woman who also has had a vaginal hysterectomy. During the surgery, my bladder was punctured due to the fact that my uterus had fused to it. I had to wear a catheter for 10 days because of this, and believe me, it was humiliating, and I did not leave the house. However, although I could have sued my doctor, I knew that it was not due to negligence on his part that this occurred. The fact that he may or may not have 'written' on my uterus (which was sent to a pathology lab, tested, and then destroyed) was the last thing on my mind. The woman who is sueing her doctor for this reason is one of the people who are costing the medical field so much money, and so many doctors, by sending medical malpractice insurance premiums through the roof. If a doctor is truly negligent, and this results in disability or death, then they should have to pay. These petty lawsuits are the reason we are losing all our best doctors. I think she should get real-this is not about a uterus that she no longer has, this is about money.
The Marked Uterus
Posted by: onsornurse
Posted on: 2003-03-07 17:14:41
Most people do not have any idea that when they sign an operative permit, that they sign permission to such things as photographs, students observing, assistants helping to perform procedures and that parts removed may be used in experiments, not to mention blood, anesthesia etc.
In fact most people do not even know that for a general anesthetic you are totally asleep, paralyzed and on a ventilator.
I agree that it is ridiculous that the surgeon did waste time doing this, but the patient obviously did fine post op and recovered well. And whatever happened to her uterus? Chances are it went to a medical waste facility. So does it really matter? Life is too short! There are alot worse things to have happened and you can't control everything. (like in your case above)
It is scary working in the medical profession, knowing that at any time someone might find fault in your work and sue in such a dynamic, volatile and imperfect field. There are no guarantees about anything. This one publicized case is what makes people not trust physicians, nurses and hospitals plus it makes out health insurance premiums rise with every suit.
I wish people were more in tune to health care in other countries around the globe and they would realize just how lucky we all are. Some poor countries don't have operating rooms, let alone with new state of the art scope and cameras to tape the surgery.
Posted by: onsornurse
Posted on: 2003-03-07 17:14:41
Most people do not have any idea that when they sign an operative permit, that they sign permission to such things as photographs, students observing, assistants helping to perform procedures and that parts removed may be used in experiments, not to mention blood, anesthesia etc.
In fact most people do not even know that for a general anesthetic you are totally asleep, paralyzed and on a ventilator.
I agree that it is ridiculous that the surgeon did waste time doing this, but the patient obviously did fine post op and recovered well. And whatever happened to her uterus? Chances are it went to a medical waste facility. So does it really matter? Life is too short! There are alot worse things to have happened and you can't control everything. (like in your case above)
It is scary working in the medical profession, knowing that at any time someone might find fault in your work and sue in such a dynamic, volatile and imperfect field. There are no guarantees about anything. This one publicized case is what makes people not trust physicians, nurses and hospitals plus it makes out health insurance premiums rise with every suit.
I wish people were more in tune to health care in other countries around the globe and they would realize just how lucky we all are. Some poor countries don't have operating rooms, let alone with new state of the art scope and cameras to tape the surgery.
Total Agreement
Posted by: smkalex
Posted on: 2003-03-07 19:00:53
I couldn't agree more. The Lady in question would do better if she dealt with her feelings of loss related to the hysterectomy, than wasting time and energy on a frivilous law suit. Thank God for your health and the fact that you had a competent doctor. Get counseling and move on.
Posted by: smkalex
Posted on: 2003-03-07 19:00:53
I couldn't agree more. The Lady in question would do better if she dealt with her feelings of loss related to the hysterectomy, than wasting time and energy on a frivilous law suit. Thank God for your health and the fact that you had a competent doctor. Get counseling and move on.
the marked uterus
Posted by: rhrgeri
Posted on: 2003-03-07 19:10:18
U R so right! I had my oof. at a teaching hospital and I am so glad I did. They could have brought every single med student in to see me, to learn, I welcomed it. If they could gain from my disease I was more than willing. Thankfully, my BRANDED parts went to pathology, where my cancer was diagnosed and, hopefully, my old, diseased, branded parts were experimented upon till there was nothing left of them (then dumped in the med waste facility). Maybe something was learned from them.
Why is it so easy to sue these days ... what a waste of valuable time and resources.
Can we all say, "Thank You, Medical Professionals" I know I sure can!
Posted by: rhrgeri
Posted on: 2003-03-07 19:10:18
U R so right! I had my oof. at a teaching hospital and I am so glad I did. They could have brought every single med student in to see me, to learn, I welcomed it. If they could gain from my disease I was more than willing. Thankfully, my BRANDED parts went to pathology, where my cancer was diagnosed and, hopefully, my old, diseased, branded parts were experimented upon till there was nothing left of them (then dumped in the med waste facility). Maybe something was learned from them.
Why is it so easy to sue these days ... what a waste of valuable time and resources.
Can we all say, "Thank You, Medical Professionals" I know I sure can!
Uterus Branding
Posted by: juniorsmom
Posted on: 2003-03-07 19:28:09
I commend you for not suing your doctor. Adhesions probably caused your uterus to be fused to your bladder and turned a rather simple procedure into one with more chances of complications, which you had. Glad you are better.
As to the branding, I find no problem with a doctor branding a uterus since it is being removed. It is evidently done to help him do the surgery and I think this woman just wants money. My only problem would be that if his type of brand took longer for him to do it may keep her under anesthesia longer.
In my state the malpractice insurance has risen so much that many ob/gyn physicians are retiring or leaving the state. This is leaving a lot of pregnant women without a physician. Evidently just one malpractice case will raise their premium even if there is no guilty charge in the end.
Something must be done about frivolous lawsuits which may get one person and their lawyer a lot of money, but hurts us all in the end.
Posted by: juniorsmom
Posted on: 2003-03-07 19:28:09
I commend you for not suing your doctor. Adhesions probably caused your uterus to be fused to your bladder and turned a rather simple procedure into one with more chances of complications, which you had. Glad you are better.
As to the branding, I find no problem with a doctor branding a uterus since it is being removed. It is evidently done to help him do the surgery and I think this woman just wants money. My only problem would be that if his type of brand took longer for him to do it may keep her under anesthesia longer.
In my state the malpractice insurance has risen so much that many ob/gyn physicians are retiring or leaving the state. This is leaving a lot of pregnant women without a physician. Evidently just one malpractice case will raise their premium even if there is no guilty charge in the end.
Something must be done about frivolous lawsuits which may get one person and their lawyer a lot of money, but hurts us all in the end.
uterus branding
Posted by: hope4kids
Posted on: 2003-03-07 23:14:58
I feel for the woman who feels she was somehow "violated" by this. Personally I would not care what they did with my utereus if it needed to be removed. What concerns me is she seemed to be measuring herself as a woman by the sum of her body parts. That's a shame. The uterus was diseased and needed to be removed. This operation probably saved her life. Other patients were interviewed on one of the morning news shows who had the same thing done and they felt that no wrong had been done and were quite impressed with the level of care the doctor had given them.
This woman needs to realize that the uterus which carried her children was the same one that left diseased and intact would have taken her from them.
Posted by: hope4kids
Posted on: 2003-03-07 23:14:58
I feel for the woman who feels she was somehow "violated" by this. Personally I would not care what they did with my utereus if it needed to be removed. What concerns me is she seemed to be measuring herself as a woman by the sum of her body parts. That's a shame. The uterus was diseased and needed to be removed. This operation probably saved her life. Other patients were interviewed on one of the morning news shows who had the same thing done and they felt that no wrong had been done and were quite impressed with the level of care the doctor had given them.
This woman needs to realize that the uterus which carried her children was the same one that left diseased and intact would have taken her from them.
