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Posted by: bevbeck
Posted on: 2003-11-25 09:43:39
It's amazing to me how many teens are so grossly obese. But not only teens, little children as well. As parents we are responsible for what our children eat and how much activity they get. (I understand that teens have more control over this) but, how do we allow our children to be so overweight? I became overweight in my early twenties...after the birth of my firstborn, and I hated it immensely. I decided to monitor how much exercise my son got, what he ate...I was determined to keep him from being overweight. At home, we ate good nutritious meals (I,however, would sneak and eat the "other" stuff).
Although I did not always do the right thing for myself, I did so for my child because he couldn't do so for himself. Don't parents realize the torment they are putting their children through?
The cruelest people are the children's peers at school. They bully the "fat" kids, call them names and don't associate with them. Why would a parent not do all they can to keep their children from enduring that kind of pain? When a thirteen year old is over 200 pounds, you know that she had to be overweight as a child when the parent was solely responsible for her eating habits...what's going on? When I was little, I loved to play outside. Now, you have to practically bribe kids to go out. They would rather sit in front of the tv or video game...and the parents allow this? It's time for parents to be parents again.
Posted by: bevbeck
Posted on: 2003-11-25 09:43:39
It's amazing to me how many teens are so grossly obese. But not only teens, little children as well. As parents we are responsible for what our children eat and how much activity they get. (I understand that teens have more control over this) but, how do we allow our children to be so overweight? I became overweight in my early twenties...after the birth of my firstborn, and I hated it immensely. I decided to monitor how much exercise my son got, what he ate...I was determined to keep him from being overweight. At home, we ate good nutritious meals (I,however, would sneak and eat the "other" stuff).
Although I did not always do the right thing for myself, I did so for my child because he couldn't do so for himself. Don't parents realize the torment they are putting their children through?
The cruelest people are the children's peers at school. They bully the "fat" kids, call them names and don't associate with them. Why would a parent not do all they can to keep their children from enduring that kind of pain? When a thirteen year old is over 200 pounds, you know that she had to be overweight as a child when the parent was solely responsible for her eating habits...what's going on? When I was little, I loved to play outside. Now, you have to practically bribe kids to go out. They would rather sit in front of the tv or video game...and the parents allow this? It's time for parents to be parents again.
I agree
Posted by: k_smiley
Posted on: 2003-11-25 20:06:59
I don't really know what else to say, other than I agree w/everything you said. I think I started to be mainly be overweight in 5th grade, then more in middle school. I had virtually no friends the whole 3 years in middle school because I was overweight. I don't ever remember my parents saying anything to me or trying to help me lose weight. I think around that time my Mom lost about 50 pounds on a certain diet, but she never ever suggested I do the diet or anything. I get so very upset when I see very obese children-not teens, but children. To me, that is child neglect and the parents should get some kind of punishment because their kids are going to be punished for it for the rest of their lives if they keep the weight on.
Posted by: k_smiley
Posted on: 2003-11-25 20:06:59
I don't really know what else to say, other than I agree w/everything you said. I think I started to be mainly be overweight in 5th grade, then more in middle school. I had virtually no friends the whole 3 years in middle school because I was overweight. I don't ever remember my parents saying anything to me or trying to help me lose weight. I think around that time my Mom lost about 50 pounds on a certain diet, but she never ever suggested I do the diet or anything. I get so very upset when I see very obese children-not teens, but children. To me, that is child neglect and the parents should get some kind of punishment because their kids are going to be punished for it for the rest of their lives if they keep the weight on.
You are so WRONG
Posted by: shoveoff
Posted on: 2003-11-25 20:28:18
while parents have control over that small children eat, they have no control what so ever of what their teens eat or don't eat. Both my parents work, and have since I can remember. My mom and grandmother both think their fat (their not!!) and have been dieting all calling each other fat since I was 6. As a result, I was drawn into it, and I can remember being in grade 2 in gym and looking at my tighs and comparing them to the girls beside mine. I've had in my head that i'm fat since then. Grade 4, went thu bunch of stuff, which I helped solve with food, which has got me to where I am now. in high school and over weight. My mom would give me money, and i'd spend it on candy at lunch. She'd try and put me on diets, but ... they never work and would only lessen my self respect. Whose on a diet in grade 6?
I just wanted to say that, parents can't control it. They can't kick us out and make us work out. They can't feed us properly. We have jobs, we eat out with friends. And if your hardly at home, how can they enforce anyting?
Posted by: shoveoff
Posted on: 2003-11-25 20:28:18
while parents have control over that small children eat, they have no control what so ever of what their teens eat or don't eat. Both my parents work, and have since I can remember. My mom and grandmother both think their fat (their not!!) and have been dieting all calling each other fat since I was 6. As a result, I was drawn into it, and I can remember being in grade 2 in gym and looking at my tighs and comparing them to the girls beside mine. I've had in my head that i'm fat since then. Grade 4, went thu bunch of stuff, which I helped solve with food, which has got me to where I am now. in high school and over weight. My mom would give me money, and i'd spend it on candy at lunch. She'd try and put me on diets, but ... they never work and would only lessen my self respect. Whose on a diet in grade 6?
I just wanted to say that, parents can't control it. They can't kick us out and make us work out. They can't feed us properly. We have jobs, we eat out with friends. And if your hardly at home, how can they enforce anyting?
your choices
Posted by: links4
Posted on: 2003-11-26 06:37:59
quit blaming some one else and start taking responability for the choices YOU make. you put it into your mouth,they don't.
Posted by: links4
Posted on: 2003-11-26 06:37:59
quit blaming some one else and start taking responability for the choices YOU make. you put it into your mouth,they don't.
No, you're wrong
Posted by: ramair
Posted on: 2003-11-26 15:24:26
Parents do have control over what their teens eat. A teen can't eat what isn't in the house. A teen can't buy junk food with money they don't have. If parents don't want their kids eating junk food, they shouldn't buy it and they shouldn't give them money to buy it with.
Posted by: ramair
Posted on: 2003-11-26 15:24:26
Parents do have control over what their teens eat. A teen can't eat what isn't in the house. A teen can't buy junk food with money they don't have. If parents don't want their kids eating junk food, they shouldn't buy it and they shouldn't give them money to buy it with.
You have no idea..
Posted by: newmommy04
Posted on: 2003-11-26 15:51:57
Do you have idea what it is like to be overweight. When I was in Jr. High I was 210lbs and not because just because of what I ate. Right before I got pregnant I was 135 and it took me years to lose that weight. Not all overweight people are like that because of what they eat. There are certain genes,certain medicines, diseases that cause it, sometimes even metabolism rates. Yes I agree that parents have alot to do with what food is being eaten in the house but there are alot of people out there, for example, my boyfriend who can eat whatever he wants and never exercise and not gain a pound but me I can eat a piece of bread and gain a pound. Daily habits is also a factor. Exercise regularly, eat healthy, and chew your food. I know i have a tendency to eat fast and that causes your digestive system to digest your food slower. If you chew your food and take your time your food is broken down more easily. Anyway the point is that maybe you should give a little more thought about what you say. You saw the tears rolling down those teens faces and how bad it hurt them inside. They really need some support. You honestly have no idea how it feels unless you have been there. I am glad both Dr. Phil and Jay are helping them.
Posted by: newmommy04
Posted on: 2003-11-26 15:51:57
Do you have idea what it is like to be overweight. When I was in Jr. High I was 210lbs and not because just because of what I ate. Right before I got pregnant I was 135 and it took me years to lose that weight. Not all overweight people are like that because of what they eat. There are certain genes,certain medicines, diseases that cause it, sometimes even metabolism rates. Yes I agree that parents have alot to do with what food is being eaten in the house but there are alot of people out there, for example, my boyfriend who can eat whatever he wants and never exercise and not gain a pound but me I can eat a piece of bread and gain a pound. Daily habits is also a factor. Exercise regularly, eat healthy, and chew your food. I know i have a tendency to eat fast and that causes your digestive system to digest your food slower. If you chew your food and take your time your food is broken down more easily. Anyway the point is that maybe you should give a little more thought about what you say. You saw the tears rolling down those teens faces and how bad it hurt them inside. They really need some support. You honestly have no idea how it feels unless you have been there. I am glad both Dr. Phil and Jay are helping them.
the 60's
Posted by: ramair
Posted on: 2003-11-26 16:46:37
Back in the 60's, obesity in children was very rare. When I was in elementary school, most of my classmates were of average weight, a few maybe five or ten pounds overweight, and only one girl was really fat, maybe 40 or 50 pounds overweight. Of course, the only fast-food chain was Mcdonald's and we didn't even have one in our town. And, because most mothers didn't work, families usually ate together. Eating out was usually a once or twice-a-month deal.
Posted by: ramair
Posted on: 2003-11-26 16:46:37
Back in the 60's, obesity in children was very rare. When I was in elementary school, most of my classmates were of average weight, a few maybe five or ten pounds overweight, and only one girl was really fat, maybe 40 or 50 pounds overweight. Of course, the only fast-food chain was Mcdonald's and we didn't even have one in our town. And, because most mothers didn't work, families usually ate together. Eating out was usually a once or twice-a-month deal.
No, YOUR wrong!
Posted by: jbchcka
Posted on: 2003-12-03 18:59:51
Although parents do have control over if they give their teens money or not, you have to also consider, that Teens are old enough to get a job! They can earn their money and buy their own food, get it from friends, or find other ways. There are more ways of getting money than asking their parents.
Posted by: jbchcka
Posted on: 2003-12-03 18:59:51
Although parents do have control over if they give their teens money or not, you have to also consider, that Teens are old enough to get a job! They can earn their money and buy their own food, get it from friends, or find other ways. There are more ways of getting money than asking their parents.
It's a parent's job to EDUCATE!
Posted by: vanessa324
Posted on: 2003-11-26 21:16:25
Parent's need to educate their children on making healthy choices!! If you raise your child on healthy foods, they will be more likely to choose those types of food even when they're away from home. I feel like this was true growing up myself. I have a 10 year old stepdaughter, and while she's not fat, she is LAZY. I stress the importance of eating fruits and vegetables every day. During the summer, I had to tell her we're going to the park, or playing basketball outside whether she likes it or not. Of course, she enjoyed it once she got out there, but I agree that most kids just want to sit and watch TV or play video games.
Posted by: vanessa324
Posted on: 2003-11-26 21:16:25
Parent's need to educate their children on making healthy choices!! If you raise your child on healthy foods, they will be more likely to choose those types of food even when they're away from home. I feel like this was true growing up myself. I have a 10 year old stepdaughter, and while she's not fat, she is LAZY. I stress the importance of eating fruits and vegetables every day. During the summer, I had to tell her we're going to the park, or playing basketball outside whether she likes it or not. Of course, she enjoyed it once she got out there, but I agree that most kids just want to sit and watch TV or play video games.
yup, Yup
Posted by: xmandyx
Posted on: 2003-12-06 14:37:03
I agree 100% with that. I hate when people say "it's the parents fault" I'm 17 years old, My parents aren't putting the food in my face and forcing me to eat it. it's my own fault that i'm fat. I hate it, yes, But, i did it to myself.
Posted by: xmandyx
Posted on: 2003-12-06 14:37:03
I agree 100% with that. I hate when people say "it's the parents fault" I'm 17 years old, My parents aren't putting the food in my face and forcing me to eat it. it's my own fault that i'm fat. I hate it, yes, But, i did it to myself.
IT's all in the head
Posted by: phat_1
Posted on: 2003-12-09 18:39:02
Ok listen i'm just like you always thinking your fat even since a super young age!Ok yeah i did start working out and dieting like in grade6. i don't ever think theres been a time where i haven't thought i was fat! But the thing is i am super active i run a hour everyday and then i am a competative figure skater so i then skate about two hours a day! But i don't think it matters what i do because no matter how hard i work out i will always see myself as FAT! I will go to school or anywhere and you just can't help commparing yourself to all the other pretty and skinny girls out there. or those models, and i donno i have even some model friends so looking at my own self just makes me feel inadequate and well yeah FAT! it has gotten to a point for me where i am addicted to diet and excercise and it seems to be the only thing i think about anymore i let it control me! Being thin matters most to me! it's stupid i no but i can't help it! i am constanstly picking apart myself insalting every possible flaw that i have! it seems that i will just never be happy with myself and that i will never reach my ideal image!
Posted by: phat_1
Posted on: 2003-12-09 18:39:02
Ok listen i'm just like you always thinking your fat even since a super young age!Ok yeah i did start working out and dieting like in grade6. i don't ever think theres been a time where i haven't thought i was fat! But the thing is i am super active i run a hour everyday and then i am a competative figure skater so i then skate about two hours a day! But i don't think it matters what i do because no matter how hard i work out i will always see myself as FAT! I will go to school or anywhere and you just can't help commparing yourself to all the other pretty and skinny girls out there. or those models, and i donno i have even some model friends so looking at my own self just makes me feel inadequate and well yeah FAT! it has gotten to a point for me where i am addicted to diet and excercise and it seems to be the only thing i think about anymore i let it control me! Being thin matters most to me! it's stupid i no but i can't help it! i am constanstly picking apart myself insalting every possible flaw that i have! it seems that i will just never be happy with myself and that i will never reach my ideal image!
I know what it's like
Posted by: buffy290
Posted on: 2004-01-02 16:50:18
Well, you are eating right and working out everyday then that's really good and something that you should be proud of because you will see the results if you have not seen them now. The other thing is I am starting to workout again but this time I am going to eat right. I am 5'4 and 153 now. But I do know what it's like to go to school with my friends who are my age 19 that are beautiful. For example, my best friend Kristin is gorgeous and very thin but I am starting to realize that the both of us have good qualities that make us who we are. So now I am trying my best not to compare myself to her because I know that no matter how much I workout my bones will never be that small. Like I said you should really be proud of yourself that you are working out and eating right that's awesome. That's something right there that you could brag about.
Posted by: buffy290
Posted on: 2004-01-02 16:50:18
Well, you are eating right and working out everyday then that's really good and something that you should be proud of because you will see the results if you have not seen them now. The other thing is I am starting to workout again but this time I am going to eat right. I am 5'4 and 153 now. But I do know what it's like to go to school with my friends who are my age 19 that are beautiful. For example, my best friend Kristin is gorgeous and very thin but I am starting to realize that the both of us have good qualities that make us who we are. So now I am trying my best not to compare myself to her because I know that no matter how much I workout my bones will never be that small. Like I said you should really be proud of yourself that you are working out and eating right that's awesome. That's something right there that you could brag about.
I DISAGREE
Posted by: setsuna
Posted on: 2003-11-26 02:09:38
I also disgree. Parents are not to blame for their teens eating habits. My mom has been trying to help me loose for such a long time now. I'm the one who cant do it.My moms spent hundreds of dollars on diet food and meal plans and WWatchers and she's even done the diets with me for motivation. But She's not to blame when i go astray.
Posted by: setsuna
Posted on: 2003-11-26 02:09:38
I also disgree. Parents are not to blame for their teens eating habits. My mom has been trying to help me loose for such a long time now. I'm the one who cant do it.My moms spent hundreds of dollars on diet food and meal plans and WWatchers and she's even done the diets with me for motivation. But She's not to blame when i go astray.
well, that's sweet.
Posted by: xmandyx
Posted on: 2003-12-06 14:34:07
quite hypocritical, aren't we?
I'm 17, I'm over weight. it wasn't till I was in 4th grade that I Became overweight. But I still Loved to play outside. you blame parents for their children for being overweight. But pushing them to NOT be overweight, and and feeding them apples, may just be leading them into an eating disorder. most parents now a days dont know how to deal with their childrens wants, so they feed into them (literally). it's sad, yes. But who are we to judge others? I don't find the cruelest people to be the peers at school, but people like yourself. you get teased in School for being the fatest, skinnies, ugliest, prettiest. There's no way around it. Kids will be kids. the worst is hearing it from an adult.
Posted by: xmandyx
Posted on: 2003-12-06 14:34:07
quite hypocritical, aren't we?
I'm 17, I'm over weight. it wasn't till I was in 4th grade that I Became overweight. But I still Loved to play outside. you blame parents for their children for being overweight. But pushing them to NOT be overweight, and and feeding them apples, may just be leading them into an eating disorder. most parents now a days dont know how to deal with their childrens wants, so they feed into them (literally). it's sad, yes. But who are we to judge others? I don't find the cruelest people to be the peers at school, but people like yourself. you get teased in School for being the fatest, skinnies, ugliest, prettiest. There's no way around it. Kids will be kids. the worst is hearing it from an adult.
they dont know what to do
Posted by: ryan_neil
Posted on: 2003-12-16 21:33:44
I am a teenager; i'm 17. I weigh over what i should and i'm very upset about it. I was over 200 lbs. When i was growing up my mother and father were not telling me that i was over weight;until it was too late. I think that parents dont really notice it until it becomes a problem. When i was really young i alwayse had to clear my plate before i was excused, their wasnt a choice. And now beacuse of it i'm struggling.
Posted by: ryan_neil
Posted on: 2003-12-16 21:33:44
I am a teenager; i'm 17. I weigh over what i should and i'm very upset about it. I was over 200 lbs. When i was growing up my mother and father were not telling me that i was over weight;until it was too late. I think that parents dont really notice it until it becomes a problem. When i was really young i alwayse had to clear my plate before i was excused, their wasnt a choice. And now beacuse of it i'm struggling.
Katy Sue
Posted by: fmbrooks
Posted on: 2003-11-25 09:51:09
What's up with these kids? Do they have nothing worthwhile to do? If they would get out and do something, baby sit, mow the lawn, wash Mom's car, join scouts or a 4-H club, learn to sew, learn to cook, plant a garden, they would not only get some exercise but could stop sitting around trying to find personal flaws. Katy Sue is NOT overweight. She needs to join the real world, volunteer at a soup kitchen, visit a nursing home, help slow learners with their home work. If she sees people with real problems, she might realize how fortunate she is and stop making up problems for herself.
Posted by: fmbrooks
Posted on: 2003-11-25 09:51:09
What's up with these kids? Do they have nothing worthwhile to do? If they would get out and do something, baby sit, mow the lawn, wash Mom's car, join scouts or a 4-H club, learn to sew, learn to cook, plant a garden, they would not only get some exercise but could stop sitting around trying to find personal flaws. Katy Sue is NOT overweight. She needs to join the real world, volunteer at a soup kitchen, visit a nursing home, help slow learners with their home work. If she sees people with real problems, she might realize how fortunate she is and stop making up problems for herself.
Posted by: klea04
Posted on: 2003-11-25 11:16:42
I can't say that your 100% right. It's not the fact that she isn't helping others in needs they didn't even talk about her life as to weather or not she helps others in need so you can not assume that she doesn't. Further more, even if she did that does not mean she wouldn't look at her self and say "I hate what I see" I'm almost 18 and I've been helping people out in my life as much as I can. Weather its walking an elderly womans dogs, or baby sitting for free for neighbors who have to work, but cannot afford day care. I've done walks for life and many other things. And I'm still over weight, I see my self as un-Beautiful and I know i need to lose the extra pounds. I also know that in the world around me alot more people have it worse off then me. But that is not going to change my mind about what I think of my self.
You've got it right
Posted by: akasha59
Posted on: 2003-11-25 16:26:10
I am twenty and I have been overweight most of my life. It has nothing to do with whether I do I do things. I started out becoming overweight because I was depressed and then I would get teased at school and became more depressed. I still got out as much as possible but the weight stayed. I currently volunteer at a local charity house, and I do a lot of babysitting, and I've gained weight. So the idea that doing those things is gonna take the weight off is very inaccurate.
I have been where you are (being overweight while in highschool) and I am still overweight. I understand the struggles that you go through with it everyday and I understand how hard it is and how much it hurts. The fact that I can't lose the weight makes me question everything else about myself and I can't even put my full faith in my fiance's love for me because I worry that one day he will decide he doesn't want a "fat woman" even though he's given me no reason to feel that way. Unless they have truly been there, people can't understand how hard it is and what it does to a person. I applaud you for being willing to admit what is going on in your mind and I will keep you in my prayers that you can find the strenght to get mind on the right track and take back control of your life. My heart is with you! I feel your pain. You have a long road, but admitting what's going on is the first step and it seems to me that you've made it through that part.
Posted by: akasha59
Posted on: 2003-11-25 16:26:10
I am twenty and I have been overweight most of my life. It has nothing to do with whether I do I do things. I started out becoming overweight because I was depressed and then I would get teased at school and became more depressed. I still got out as much as possible but the weight stayed. I currently volunteer at a local charity house, and I do a lot of babysitting, and I've gained weight. So the idea that doing those things is gonna take the weight off is very inaccurate.
I have been where you are (being overweight while in highschool) and I am still overweight. I understand the struggles that you go through with it everyday and I understand how hard it is and how much it hurts. The fact that I can't lose the weight makes me question everything else about myself and I can't even put my full faith in my fiance's love for me because I worry that one day he will decide he doesn't want a "fat woman" even though he's given me no reason to feel that way. Unless they have truly been there, people can't understand how hard it is and what it does to a person. I applaud you for being willing to admit what is going on in your mind and I will keep you in my prayers that you can find the strenght to get mind on the right track and take back control of your life. My heart is with you! I feel your pain. You have a long road, but admitting what's going on is the first step and it seems to me that you've made it through that part.
Overweight teens
Posted by: untornangl
Posted on: 2003-11-25 20:20:06
OK I think that everyone needs to step back and stop what they are doing. Didn't you hear him say that most of the parents were overweight too. Most people don't want to be hypocrites if parents can't help themselves what makes you think that they can help their children? I think that many people who have been posting in here about the parents are totally assuming things about the overweight person and their life. How do you know their parents didn't try. Or that their parents couldn't try because of disabilities they had. It makes me really mad to hear you talking about overweight people like objects same as with Dr.Phil. I'm a kid who is overweight I do not blame my parents for anything except not having a bigger backyard. Some things are the kids choices and somethings are just happening because of the way your body burns off food. As you put on more you get more and more depressed and people like you guys who say that "I don't know how these kids are getting so grossly obese" its because of people like you judging them and their lives just step back and start being their friends just watch how much better they feel. I'm still waiting for weightloss and I'm still working on it day after day but people like you are not help, worrying about our parents. You just come across as snobish.
Posted by: untornangl
Posted on: 2003-11-25 20:20:06
OK I think that everyone needs to step back and stop what they are doing. Didn't you hear him say that most of the parents were overweight too. Most people don't want to be hypocrites if parents can't help themselves what makes you think that they can help their children? I think that many people who have been posting in here about the parents are totally assuming things about the overweight person and their life. How do you know their parents didn't try. Or that their parents couldn't try because of disabilities they had. It makes me really mad to hear you talking about overweight people like objects same as with Dr.Phil. I'm a kid who is overweight I do not blame my parents for anything except not having a bigger backyard. Some things are the kids choices and somethings are just happening because of the way your body burns off food. As you put on more you get more and more depressed and people like you guys who say that "I don't know how these kids are getting so grossly obese" its because of people like you judging them and their lives just step back and start being their friends just watch how much better they feel. I'm still waiting for weightloss and I'm still working on it day after day but people like you are not help, worrying about our parents. You just come across as snobish.
Catysue
Posted by: puete420
Posted on: 2003-11-25 16:06:21
Catysue is deffinatly not fat or ugly. That girl is slammin. She must be smokin coke or snortin crack to say she thinks that shes fat and ugly. She lucky to look that good. I wish the girls in my school were as good looking as her. As soon as I saw her my jaw dropped to the floor, i couldnt believe this girl was on the show for overweight teens. Catysue you are beautiful and you have a slammin body so stop wasting your time on dr.phil and come to my house.hoho.peace.
Posted by: puete420
Posted on: 2003-11-25 16:06:21
Catysue is deffinatly not fat or ugly. That girl is slammin. She must be smokin coke or snortin crack to say she thinks that shes fat and ugly. She lucky to look that good. I wish the girls in my school were as good looking as her. As soon as I saw her my jaw dropped to the floor, i couldnt believe this girl was on the show for overweight teens. Catysue you are beautiful and you have a slammin body so stop wasting your time on dr.phil and come to my house.hoho.peace.
