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Posted by: gwycon2
Posted on: 2003-10-28 09:51:58
With only love and understanding, I must say to Alyce and her family, "be still". Do it now at your own choosing before your body, in spite of your schedule, sits you down.
I have the education, the educated family, the understanding that I need to use the gifts God has given me and I should bring up my children to use their God-given talents. I know I must strive to make the world a better place.
I must try to drive one thing home, however.
It's time to take a "PJ Day" with your children and husband, Alyce. Sit down, for a whole hour or more, eat poptarts from the box and talk with your family. No notes, no schedules, no phone, just people - warm bodies, eyes, hands. They will all tell you that they want you, alone, quiet, still and pleasant.
In the video, you are literally running from your children. They are chasing after you, dragging along behind you. You are running from them.
Please sit down, talk with your pastor, your Mom, your husband and decide whether you want to do the full-time Mom job OR the full-time work thing. Define your role and your needs first, then subtract TWO activities from each day, and schedule one PJ Day a WEEK. If you don't choose now, believe me, God, Life, Reality - will make the decision for you. You will turn around and your little ones will be taller than you and strangers.
I can give you the full details, the ways my body quit, the choices I had to make. I can tell you all about the other side of it. I can tell you how
Posted by: gwycon2
Posted on: 2003-10-28 09:51:58
With only love and understanding, I must say to Alyce and her family, "be still". Do it now at your own choosing before your body, in spite of your schedule, sits you down.
I have the education, the educated family, the understanding that I need to use the gifts God has given me and I should bring up my children to use their God-given talents. I know I must strive to make the world a better place.
I must try to drive one thing home, however.
It's time to take a "PJ Day" with your children and husband, Alyce. Sit down, for a whole hour or more, eat poptarts from the box and talk with your family. No notes, no schedules, no phone, just people - warm bodies, eyes, hands. They will all tell you that they want you, alone, quiet, still and pleasant.
In the video, you are literally running from your children. They are chasing after you, dragging along behind you. You are running from them.
Please sit down, talk with your pastor, your Mom, your husband and decide whether you want to do the full-time Mom job OR the full-time work thing. Define your role and your needs first, then subtract TWO activities from each day, and schedule one PJ Day a WEEK. If you don't choose now, believe me, God, Life, Reality - will make the decision for you. You will turn around and your little ones will be taller than you and strangers.
I can give you the full details, the ways my body quit, the choices I had to make. I can tell you all about the other side of it. I can tell you how
Slow down is right
Posted by: siamesetn
Posted on: 2003-10-28 11:33:24
I believe that choosing to stay home with your children in the beginning years is not only for the children, but FOR the mother--her peace of mind that her child is safe and protected. Hopefully the child is receiving the attention that he/she deserves from his/her mother while she is at home. Personally, I don't remember my mother being home with me when I was an infant through the second grade. What I do remember is her NOT being home after the second grade, when she then went back to work. To all the mothers out there, remember, if you're at home, do a good job--provide that environment and haven for your kids. If you're working, then do everything you can to make sure your children are well cared for during those hours. Either way, those kids, as they grow, have a good variety of extracurricular choices. Let those activities work FOR you all as a family, not against you. I agree that the children do not want chaos in the home, and they'd be willing to sacrifice...lets say, sacrifice a sport or a dance class that you might be forcing upon them. They are grown before you know it, and you begin to think hard about what you would do differently if you had the chance. Will your kids look back on their childhood with fondness or with distain?
Posted by: siamesetn
Posted on: 2003-10-28 11:33:24
I believe that choosing to stay home with your children in the beginning years is not only for the children, but FOR the mother--her peace of mind that her child is safe and protected. Hopefully the child is receiving the attention that he/she deserves from his/her mother while she is at home. Personally, I don't remember my mother being home with me when I was an infant through the second grade. What I do remember is her NOT being home after the second grade, when she then went back to work. To all the mothers out there, remember, if you're at home, do a good job--provide that environment and haven for your kids. If you're working, then do everything you can to make sure your children are well cared for during those hours. Either way, those kids, as they grow, have a good variety of extracurricular choices. Let those activities work FOR you all as a family, not against you. I agree that the children do not want chaos in the home, and they'd be willing to sacrifice...lets say, sacrifice a sport or a dance class that you might be forcing upon them. They are grown before you know it, and you begin to think hard about what you would do differently if you had the chance. Will your kids look back on their childhood with fondness or with distain?
Kids Need You NOW!
Posted by: ronaleeann
Posted on: 2004-04-10 12:36:36
Wow! You've hit the nail on the head!
My Mom worked, but was ALWAYS home when we got there at the end of the day. I can't tell you the security that gave me as a kid.
After soul searching and some struggling, I finally realized the value in her example and am now doing the same for my children. And, my husband is doing it, too! Our boys are flourishing, and I feel so good about being a PART of their lives.
I think it's time for parents to WAKE UP -they have years ahead of them to advance at work, continue their education, travel, etc. But, they only have a short time to raise their children and teach them to be good, responsible, loving, compassionate people. Once that small window of time is closed, it's over.
Thanks for being someone who "gets it" and isn't afriad to say it!
Posted by: ronaleeann
Posted on: 2004-04-10 12:36:36
Wow! You've hit the nail on the head!
My Mom worked, but was ALWAYS home when we got there at the end of the day. I can't tell you the security that gave me as a kid.
After soul searching and some struggling, I finally realized the value in her example and am now doing the same for my children. And, my husband is doing it, too! Our boys are flourishing, and I feel so good about being a PART of their lives.
I think it's time for parents to WAKE UP -they have years ahead of them to advance at work, continue their education, travel, etc. But, they only have a short time to raise their children and teach them to be good, responsible, loving, compassionate people. Once that small window of time is closed, it's over.
Thanks for being someone who "gets it" and isn't afriad to say it!
I'm turning into my mom....
Posted by: carrie1982
Posted on: 2003-10-28 10:26:20
I realized after watching Dr. Phil today that I turned into my mom after only 14 months of motherhood. She's a wonderful person and I should be proud to be the slightest bit like her but in this case, I'm really freaked out. She has always been busy- running her 4 kids everywhere, being soccer mom, football mom, lacrosse mom, councelor, full time worker with a part time job on the side, and God only knows what else. I always said when I became a mother I would be laid back and relaxed. That didn't exactly go how I wanted it to. I became a mother at 20 and a single mom at 21. I'm a full time college student and turning insane. I don't have a job(thank God) but being a single mom is a full time job in itself. I don't think I've had a full night sleep since before I was pregnant. My son's father has never been supportive in any way(that's another show...) but he got the boot anyway. I am constantly running around like a chicken with my head cut off trying to keep up with my toddler. He keeps me on my toes but sometimes I feel like I need a break. That's something I never get. I'm always running behind him saying no don't touch that, no don't do that, put that down, leave that alone all while I'm trying to study and do homework. By the time he goes to bed at 8 pm I feel like just collapsing. I am a neat freak so my apartment is always being antibacterialized, deodorized, scrubbed to the max. I'm having a hard time finding time for myself. There are days that I fo
Posted by: carrie1982
Posted on: 2003-10-28 10:26:20
I realized after watching Dr. Phil today that I turned into my mom after only 14 months of motherhood. She's a wonderful person and I should be proud to be the slightest bit like her but in this case, I'm really freaked out. She has always been busy- running her 4 kids everywhere, being soccer mom, football mom, lacrosse mom, councelor, full time worker with a part time job on the side, and God only knows what else. I always said when I became a mother I would be laid back and relaxed. That didn't exactly go how I wanted it to. I became a mother at 20 and a single mom at 21. I'm a full time college student and turning insane. I don't have a job(thank God) but being a single mom is a full time job in itself. I don't think I've had a full night sleep since before I was pregnant. My son's father has never been supportive in any way(that's another show...) but he got the boot anyway. I am constantly running around like a chicken with my head cut off trying to keep up with my toddler. He keeps me on my toes but sometimes I feel like I need a break. That's something I never get. I'm always running behind him saying no don't touch that, no don't do that, put that down, leave that alone all while I'm trying to study and do homework. By the time he goes to bed at 8 pm I feel like just collapsing. I am a neat freak so my apartment is always being antibacterialized, deodorized, scrubbed to the max. I'm having a hard time finding time for myself. There are days that I fo
help yourself
Posted by: firebird79
Posted on: 2003-10-28 10:54:43
darlin, first of all, lose the neat freak personna, and in a hurry. second, you have one kid, thank your lucky stars thats all you have, and enjoy every minute of his rambunctiousness, because you cannot get it back!!!!!! treat every day as if it is precious. ever thought of putting off your college education for 2-3 years? your child will thank you for it when he is grown, he needs MOM, and a loving patient one, to teach him everything the world has to offer, and i can bet you a million bucks that in a few years, (like if you let him start school and then go back yourself) you will be able to concentrate and probably earn better grades and learn easier, in YOUR classes. i have been there, i have 2 teenage girls and they lived thru mom going to school while they were in kindergarten and 2nd grade, and they were more helpful than one could ever imagine ! now im on family number 2 and have a 2 year old and a stepfamily of 4 more, and i'm more laid back than i ever thought id be, but i had to learn to relax with the neat freak thing, in order to enjoy my kids(and stepkids)!
Posted by: firebird79
Posted on: 2003-10-28 10:54:43
darlin, first of all, lose the neat freak personna, and in a hurry. second, you have one kid, thank your lucky stars thats all you have, and enjoy every minute of his rambunctiousness, because you cannot get it back!!!!!! treat every day as if it is precious. ever thought of putting off your college education for 2-3 years? your child will thank you for it when he is grown, he needs MOM, and a loving patient one, to teach him everything the world has to offer, and i can bet you a million bucks that in a few years, (like if you let him start school and then go back yourself) you will be able to concentrate and probably earn better grades and learn easier, in YOUR classes. i have been there, i have 2 teenage girls and they lived thru mom going to school while they were in kindergarten and 2nd grade, and they were more helpful than one could ever imagine ! now im on family number 2 and have a 2 year old and a stepfamily of 4 more, and i'm more laid back than i ever thought id be, but i had to learn to relax with the neat freak thing, in order to enjoy my kids(and stepkids)!
Sometimes..
Posted by: mistyamaya
Posted on: 2003-11-04 03:58:42
Sometimes moms don't have the option of just staying home. I think it is great she is furthering her education and maybe if she doesnt do it now, then when? If you have the motivation now go for it. Just because you go to school doesnt mean you cannot give full attention to your child. It is important that if you want to give your kids things in life, especially if your alone, that you acquire and education. Just make sure to try to balance and give yourself a break and most definately enjoy your baby while he still is one but don't kill yourself trying to be superwoman.
Posted by: mistyamaya
Posted on: 2003-11-04 03:58:42
Sometimes moms don't have the option of just staying home. I think it is great she is furthering her education and maybe if she doesnt do it now, then when? If you have the motivation now go for it. Just because you go to school doesnt mean you cannot give full attention to your child. It is important that if you want to give your kids things in life, especially if your alone, that you acquire and education. Just make sure to try to balance and give yourself a break and most definately enjoy your baby while he still is one but don't kill yourself trying to be superwoman.
re; turning into mom
Posted by: sldjakl
Posted on: 2003-10-28 17:18:33
I can totally relate to what you are going through. I used to be a single mom and went to school during that time. I remember feeling like if I could just have a few minutes to myself I could get focused again. I am now married and a stay at home mom, but I am also a member of a babysitting co-op. It is a group of moms who exchange points for babysitting. It costs nothing, provides "playdates" for the kids and eases the minds of moms who don't want just anyone to care for their child. Once a month we have meetings just for the moms. There are rules and guidelines to follow and members have to invite others in. You should try to find one in your area.
Posted by: sldjakl
Posted on: 2003-10-28 17:18:33
I can totally relate to what you are going through. I used to be a single mom and went to school during that time. I remember feeling like if I could just have a few minutes to myself I could get focused again. I am now married and a stay at home mom, but I am also a member of a babysitting co-op. It is a group of moms who exchange points for babysitting. It costs nothing, provides "playdates" for the kids and eases the minds of moms who don't want just anyone to care for their child. Once a month we have meetings just for the moms. There are rules and guidelines to follow and members have to invite others in. You should try to find one in your area.
babysitting co-op
Posted by: chippy2
Posted on: 2004-04-10 18:42:39
TO SLDJAKL: this babysitting co-op is a good idea... anyone knows if there's one in Mississauga, Ontario?
Posted by: chippy2
Posted on: 2004-04-10 18:42:39
TO SLDJAKL: this babysitting co-op is a good idea... anyone knows if there's one in Mississauga, Ontario?
to Carrie
Posted by: cmc571
Posted on: 2003-10-28 23:23:41
Carrie,
Remember, this is with only one child - what I don't understand is why women do this to themselves - having one child is HARD work - and I can't imagine raising my daughter without my husband {she's 2 1/2}, but I also can't imagine intentionally having more children :}
You are so young - hang in there - by the time you're my age your son will be 12 - and that will be in the blink of an eye for you -
Posted by: cmc571
Posted on: 2003-10-28 23:23:41
Carrie,
Remember, this is with only one child - what I don't understand is why women do this to themselves - having one child is HARD work - and I can't imagine raising my daughter without my husband {she's 2 1/2}, but I also can't imagine intentionally having more children :}
You are so young - hang in there - by the time you're my age your son will be 12 - and that will be in the blink of an eye for you -
Not overscheduled but inadequate
Posted by: fitz17
Posted on: 2003-10-28 10:27:51
I am a stay-at-home Mom and I am not overscheduled by any means. My feelings of inadequacy is what stresses me out to the point where I become physically ill. The feeling of never being good enough is destroying my relationship with my husband. I try to make sure the house is clean, laundry is put away, and dinner is on the table. With the holidays around the corner, the feelings are 10 fold. I have 2 boys, 10 and 12 and they are involved in a lot of sports activities. Sports is what we have in common and is also an outlet for me, being an athlete. It seems this cycle is circular and it's only getting worse when it comes to my internal voice.
Posted by: fitz17
Posted on: 2003-10-28 10:27:51
I am a stay-at-home Mom and I am not overscheduled by any means. My feelings of inadequacy is what stresses me out to the point where I become physically ill. The feeling of never being good enough is destroying my relationship with my husband. I try to make sure the house is clean, laundry is put away, and dinner is on the table. With the holidays around the corner, the feelings are 10 fold. I have 2 boys, 10 and 12 and they are involved in a lot of sports activities. Sports is what we have in common and is also an outlet for me, being an athlete. It seems this cycle is circular and it's only getting worse when it comes to my internal voice.
inadequate?
Posted by: firebird79
Posted on: 2003-10-28 10:45:50
why do you think you feel inadequate? your post doesnt show this?? if you and your kids are both interested in sports, this is a very good thing, its a bonding thing and a healthy lifestyle thing. if ya wanna vent, let me know
Posted by: firebird79
Posted on: 2003-10-28 10:45:50
why do you think you feel inadequate? your post doesnt show this?? if you and your kids are both interested in sports, this is a very good thing, its a bonding thing and a healthy lifestyle thing. if ya wanna vent, let me know
Reply to fitz17
Posted by: dixiedeb20
Posted on: 2003-10-28 22:53:36
How blessed you are to be able to devote yourself fulltime to your family!!! I have worked since college, except for summer breaks from teaching, and I have always wanted to be a fulltime mom and wife. However, I can't help but note a sense of incompleteness in your post...perhaps now that your sons are a bit older and don't need constant watching you can do some things for yourself. Pursue a hobby or dream you've had on hold, perhaps?
Posted by: dixiedeb20
Posted on: 2003-10-28 22:53:36
How blessed you are to be able to devote yourself fulltime to your family!!! I have worked since college, except for summer breaks from teaching, and I have always wanted to be a fulltime mom and wife. However, I can't help but note a sense of incompleteness in your post...perhaps now that your sons are a bit older and don't need constant watching you can do some things for yourself. Pursue a hobby or dream you've had on hold, perhaps?
you need flylady
Posted by: tjreisch
Posted on: 2003-10-29 15:13:35
try www.flylady.net
You won't regret it. I've been where you are now, and am finally starting to come out of it.
Posted by: tjreisch
Posted on: 2003-10-29 15:13:35
try www.flylady.net
You won't regret it. I've been where you are now, and am finally starting to come out of it.
re: inadequate
Posted by: patrishaks
Posted on: 2003-10-30 21:39:15
I believe society has put a lot of pressure on women to do way too much. If you figure out the "have tos" according to society's standards, it is impossible to do. If you sleep 8 hours, work 8 hours take a 1/2 hour lunch a day and concentrate on eating (like the experts say we should), excercise 1/2 hour a day etc etc that leaves little to no time to do anything besides the shoulds. I try to remember what I feel is important is what counts and be realistic about what I can accomplish in 24 hours. I convince myself about 50% of the time!
Posted by: patrishaks
Posted on: 2003-10-30 21:39:15
I believe society has put a lot of pressure on women to do way too much. If you figure out the "have tos" according to society's standards, it is impossible to do. If you sleep 8 hours, work 8 hours take a 1/2 hour lunch a day and concentrate on eating (like the experts say we should), excercise 1/2 hour a day etc etc that leaves little to no time to do anything besides the shoulds. I try to remember what I feel is important is what counts and be realistic about what I can accomplish in 24 hours. I convince myself about 50% of the time!
Done it been there
Posted by: elmer70
Posted on: 2004-04-10 11:08:22
I now am a grandmother of 23 but long ago, my husband died, living me with 9 children, I had not worked during my marriage years but knew that I would have to support myself in years to come, and also Social Security was not enough to pay for all my kids support. I went to college nights, I worked in an office days, I also taught a pre school program three days a week. I was very stressed out. As I look back on it , I could have taken a different route, I did miss a lot of my kids growing up years, they never did go hungry but I know they missed me being home when they came home from school,one of my daughters said that she always was happiest when I was home making cookies when they came home from school. I guess what I am trying to say is that you have to do the best you can and hope for the best, as I say now I am retired and still active in my kids lives and grandchildrens lives. Of course back than I did not know there was a word called stress or the meaning of it, I was just plain tired!!!!
Posted by: elmer70
Posted on: 2004-04-10 11:08:22
I now am a grandmother of 23 but long ago, my husband died, living me with 9 children, I had not worked during my marriage years but knew that I would have to support myself in years to come, and also Social Security was not enough to pay for all my kids support. I went to college nights, I worked in an office days, I also taught a pre school program three days a week. I was very stressed out. As I look back on it , I could have taken a different route, I did miss a lot of my kids growing up years, they never did go hungry but I know they missed me being home when they came home from school,one of my daughters said that she always was happiest when I was home making cookies when they came home from school. I guess what I am trying to say is that you have to do the best you can and hope for the best, as I say now I am retired and still active in my kids lives and grandchildrens lives. Of course back than I did not know there was a word called stress or the meaning of it, I was just plain tired!!!!
Take care of self
Posted by: bbeachbabe
Posted on: 2003-10-28 10:49:17
When both of our children started school full time I had an opportunity to go back to work part time. This only lasted 2 years before I said enough is enough. When I went for my annual physical my doctor recommended a book for me to read. In the Preface of the book one of the authors told a story about meeting a 70 yr. old woman at a spa that seemed to be everything she would like to be. Someone asked her how she became the person she was. She replied, "When people start calling you selfish, you're on the right track." This is my motto. My husband and I we frequently got babysitters and made time to do things together without kids. Once in awhile I would have a play day for myself. These plays days are more frequent now for both of us. The kids are still a priority and we still chauffer the kids around to activities, attend all their activities and have dinner together on a regular basis. I also color code activities on the kitchen calendar so everyone in the house can tell when they or someone else have something scheduled. We feel very fortunate that I do not have to work and can stay at home to get things done during the day. Half an hour before my kids(both teenagers now) get home from school I sit down with a cup of tea or coffee to either do some reading or watch something TV. Then I am rejuvenated and ready for what ever comes next. If you don't take care of yourself no one will.
Posted by: bbeachbabe
Posted on: 2003-10-28 10:49:17
When both of our children started school full time I had an opportunity to go back to work part time. This only lasted 2 years before I said enough is enough. When I went for my annual physical my doctor recommended a book for me to read. In the Preface of the book one of the authors told a story about meeting a 70 yr. old woman at a spa that seemed to be everything she would like to be. Someone asked her how she became the person she was. She replied, "When people start calling you selfish, you're on the right track." This is my motto. My husband and I we frequently got babysitters and made time to do things together without kids. Once in awhile I would have a play day for myself. These plays days are more frequent now for both of us. The kids are still a priority and we still chauffer the kids around to activities, attend all their activities and have dinner together on a regular basis. I also color code activities on the kitchen calendar so everyone in the house can tell when they or someone else have something scheduled. We feel very fortunate that I do not have to work and can stay at home to get things done during the day. Half an hour before my kids(both teenagers now) get home from school I sit down with a cup of tea or coffee to either do some reading or watch something TV. Then I am rejuvenated and ready for what ever comes next. If you don't take care of yourself no one will.
Crazy, crazy, crazy
Posted by: rocky916
Posted on: 2003-10-28 10:57:56
I can really relate to Jeanne. I really feel like I'm close to having a supernova melt down. I'm raising my sons by myself. The boys and I have been on our own for 2 years now. My sons are 5 and this is hard. What do you do when you're all alone without support? I don't know. I know that Dr. Phil says that we need to take care of ourselves, but how do you do this? Maybe someone has some answers out there. I'm not overscheduled. It's just that everything is my responsibility. I can't sleep, I'm in pain and am always tired.
Posted by: rocky916
Posted on: 2003-10-28 10:57:56
I can really relate to Jeanne. I really feel like I'm close to having a supernova melt down. I'm raising my sons by myself. The boys and I have been on our own for 2 years now. My sons are 5 and this is hard. What do you do when you're all alone without support? I don't know. I know that Dr. Phil says that we need to take care of ourselves, but how do you do this? Maybe someone has some answers out there. I'm not overscheduled. It's just that everything is my responsibility. I can't sleep, I'm in pain and am always tired.
crazy, crazy, crazy: you are not crazy
Posted by: nicolejhsn
Posted on: 2003-10-28 11:53:00
I have been a single parent most of my children's lives. they are now 11 and 13. i live four hours away from my nearest relative and their father is not around. i nurture my relationship with God, i provide for my children physically and emtionally, i manage my household and i work 40+ hours a week. not to mention i live pay check to pay check, so emergencies mean a bill doesn't get paid. how, through all this do we take care of ourselves? we trust God. we get connected with our local church. we position ourselves so that we are "friends" of God. He wants good things for us. i know that i struggle now, but i trust God for a better life. my struggles are creating within me a better person to appreciate and care for that "better life".
Posted by: nicolejhsn
Posted on: 2003-10-28 11:53:00
I have been a single parent most of my children's lives. they are now 11 and 13. i live four hours away from my nearest relative and their father is not around. i nurture my relationship with God, i provide for my children physically and emtionally, i manage my household and i work 40+ hours a week. not to mention i live pay check to pay check, so emergencies mean a bill doesn't get paid. how, through all this do we take care of ourselves? we trust God. we get connected with our local church. we position ourselves so that we are "friends" of God. He wants good things for us. i know that i struggle now, but i trust God for a better life. my struggles are creating within me a better person to appreciate and care for that "better life".
for rocky
Posted by: dixiedeb20
Posted on: 2003-10-28 22:57:27
Find yourself some help! Join a moms' support group at church or in your community or hook up with friends or family members. Ask! Maybe there's someone in your orbit who could help but is afraid of butting in or doesn't realize you would accept it.
Posted by: dixiedeb20
Posted on: 2003-10-28 22:57:27
Find yourself some help! Join a moms' support group at church or in your community or hook up with friends or family members. Ask! Maybe there's someone in your orbit who could help but is afraid of butting in or doesn't realize you would accept it.
Eureka Moment
Posted by: hamenv
Posted on: 2003-10-28 11:21:26
Message boards are usually not my thing, but a need to express my thoughts is important at this time. After viewing today's show, I have had a revelation about my husband's life and cause of breakdown which eventually took his life. A busy and dedicated high school principal and father that dropped some of the balls he was juggling and spent the next 7 years fighting depression and anxiety. The public view of him as their go-to guy and his inability to delegate without still owning the task led to years of pain and declining quality of life. Mothers and people like you need to see the problems that this can develop into when you take on too much and put your health last. After the long fight, my husband took his own life.
If anyone reads this, I hope they can take away an insight into not only what your narcissistic behavior, as the savior of all, can do to you and your mental and physical health, but what it can do to your family and friends when you're not here anymore.
Posted by: hamenv
Posted on: 2003-10-28 11:21:26
Message boards are usually not my thing, but a need to express my thoughts is important at this time. After viewing today's show, I have had a revelation about my husband's life and cause of breakdown which eventually took his life. A busy and dedicated high school principal and father that dropped some of the balls he was juggling and spent the next 7 years fighting depression and anxiety. The public view of him as their go-to guy and his inability to delegate without still owning the task led to years of pain and declining quality of life. Mothers and people like you need to see the problems that this can develop into when you take on too much and put your health last. After the long fight, my husband took his own life.
If anyone reads this, I hope they can take away an insight into not only what your narcissistic behavior, as the savior of all, can do to you and your mental and physical health, but what it can do to your family and friends when you're not here anymore.
