12/27 Newlywed Dread
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Posted by: spiritwks
Posted on: 2004-10-15 08:41:30
Dr. Phil, I want to meet the parents who created such a totally shallow, selfish, self-absorbed, spoiled brat. What were THEY thinking?
Suffering is what starving, orphaned children in Africa do... it's not about giving up regular massages and manicures.
Nicole is an embarrassment to women everywhere... I wanted to shake her by the shoulders and shout: GROW UP, NICOLE.
The only time Nicole used the word "love" was when she talked about her material desires... she didn't once use the word "love" in reference to her husband.... And what's HE thinking, by the way? He may be infatuated with her, but anyone this shallow and immature is not capable of a lasting relationship with another human being. She's ruined you financially; don't let her ruin the rest of your life.
Posted by: spiritwks
Posted on: 2004-10-15 08:41:30
Dr. Phil, I want to meet the parents who created such a totally shallow, selfish, self-absorbed, spoiled brat. What were THEY thinking?
Suffering is what starving, orphaned children in Africa do... it's not about giving up regular massages and manicures.
Nicole is an embarrassment to women everywhere... I wanted to shake her by the shoulders and shout: GROW UP, NICOLE.
The only time Nicole used the word "love" was when she talked about her material desires... she didn't once use the word "love" in reference to her husband.... And what's HE thinking, by the way? He may be infatuated with her, but anyone this shallow and immature is not capable of a lasting relationship with another human being. She's ruined you financially; don't let her ruin the rest of your life.
Nicole - what a piece of work
Posted by: colleenrw
Posted on: 2004-10-15 09:35:03
Nicole is unbelievable! What she needs is a sugar daddy. She doesn't love her husband. I predict they will divorce. She only loves money and she thought she was marrying into a richer lifestyle than her previous marriage. Can you say golddigger? But, scary to say, there are women out there that are just like her, if not worse.
Posted by: colleenrw
Posted on: 2004-10-15 09:35:03
Nicole is unbelievable! What she needs is a sugar daddy. She doesn't love her husband. I predict they will divorce. She only loves money and she thought she was marrying into a richer lifestyle than her previous marriage. Can you say golddigger? But, scary to say, there are women out there that are just like her, if not worse.
MEN ALSO, JACK READ UP
Posted by: rbrowneyes
Posted on: 2004-10-15 14:35:01
I got news for you women, there are MEN out there just as bad as you have seen the women to be on here. I had one, lies lies, you can stay at home and we will have a beautiful home, Believing the man I was to marry (which I had known for 16 years, High school sweetheart (fiance) reconnected after 14 years) after leaving my awesome job I loved so much (I cried the last week and leaving for the last time) because he could and would support us, I find out he not only couldn't (lied about his income)but he wouldn't (2 weeks after I leave my job, 4 weeks into this marriage, he doesn't want to work & doesn't), trying to work this out, I spent my entire savings, sold my home because he didn't want to live where it was, bought a mobil home for us to live in and a vehicle (I didn't own one before hand because I was furnished one with my awesome job) so we could get from place to place, his wasn't big enough for the 3 (oh yeah, I became instant stay at home Mom 24/7)of us. Dealing with all of this as if that isn't enough, May 3rd, 1999 the F6 tornado hit and there went everything. So, I started over, home, 2 vehicles. After dragging him to counciling at the Church (no charge) and ending up being the only one there after a few sessions (didnt go the way he liked) I had to file bankruptcy, nothing in his name, very bad credit from the past, another lie. And, while I was with my Father dealing with my GrandMothers death for 4 days, he (husband) was dealing (s*x in my bed)with his EX-Wife, Mother of the child I had been raising. I Went to work making very little. He left me with no heat (JAN), money and cutoff notices on all utilities, 2 of his brothers brought wood over so that I could use the fireplace for heat. How did it turn out: In the divorce, I sued for alimony and got it because of the lies and abuse. LOL
I am now single (broke $, ruined credit, heart broken, moved to another state living with family)picking up the pieces, praying and working on myself so that this doesn't happen again. WOMAN & MEN, ask questions, if they get offended (why I didn't), they are not worth having to begin with.
I tried to give THEM the life they wanted & forgot all about ME.
JACK, THIS COULD BE YOU, WATCH OUT, BE SMARTER THAN I WAS. The single life is pretty good when looking back, I kept hanging on to NOTHING. RBrownEyes
Posted by: rbrowneyes
Posted on: 2004-10-15 14:35:01
I got news for you women, there are MEN out there just as bad as you have seen the women to be on here. I had one, lies lies, you can stay at home and we will have a beautiful home, Believing the man I was to marry (which I had known for 16 years, High school sweetheart (fiance) reconnected after 14 years) after leaving my awesome job I loved so much (I cried the last week and leaving for the last time) because he could and would support us, I find out he not only couldn't (lied about his income)but he wouldn't (2 weeks after I leave my job, 4 weeks into this marriage, he doesn't want to work & doesn't), trying to work this out, I spent my entire savings, sold my home because he didn't want to live where it was, bought a mobil home for us to live in and a vehicle (I didn't own one before hand because I was furnished one with my awesome job) so we could get from place to place, his wasn't big enough for the 3 (oh yeah, I became instant stay at home Mom 24/7)of us. Dealing with all of this as if that isn't enough, May 3rd, 1999 the F6 tornado hit and there went everything. So, I started over, home, 2 vehicles. After dragging him to counciling at the Church (no charge) and ending up being the only one there after a few sessions (didnt go the way he liked) I had to file bankruptcy, nothing in his name, very bad credit from the past, another lie. And, while I was with my Father dealing with my GrandMothers death for 4 days, he (husband) was dealing (s*x in my bed)with his EX-Wife, Mother of the child I had been raising. I Went to work making very little. He left me with no heat (JAN), money and cutoff notices on all utilities, 2 of his brothers brought wood over so that I could use the fireplace for heat. How did it turn out: In the divorce, I sued for alimony and got it because of the lies and abuse. LOL
I am now single (broke $, ruined credit, heart broken, moved to another state living with family)picking up the pieces, praying and working on myself so that this doesn't happen again. WOMAN & MEN, ask questions, if they get offended (why I didn't), they are not worth having to begin with.
I tried to give THEM the life they wanted & forgot all about ME.
JACK, THIS COULD BE YOU, WATCH OUT, BE SMARTER THAN I WAS. The single life is pretty good when looking back, I kept hanging on to NOTHING. RBrownEyes
Same boat; different sea
Posted by: bruce5th
Posted on: 2004-12-27 22:58:17
I feel a kinship here. For maybe a year, I believed I had married the man of my dreams. At that point, we started the cycle of being evicted every three months or so and I learned exactly how long you can wait to pay bills b-4 it gets turned off. If I complained, I was being selfish and money meant more to me than he did. I just couldn't find a way to just not worry about it like he wanted me to.
My stress and worry combined with his indifference eventually came out as anger and, in response, he just stopped caring. It doesnt matter if I'm happy anymore about anything he wants to do. He takes and throws money away on lottery and other reckless habits while I try to provide for 3 kids with what little is left when he is done having fun. Sometimes, he gets back on track and tries to fix the financial mess, but it's always too ;ittlt too late. I handle finances alot differently and, if allowed, I could prevent most of these problems but he doesnt feel like he gets enough for himself when the bills are paid... No matter how much or how little he earns,there is never enough to provide the basics like rent or electric or a running vehicle.
I've tried going to work myself but he doesn't like that either and he treats me awful to the point that I have to fight to get to work. In his opinion, it takes away from my duty to him and the kids and he would rather die than do what he considers to be "my job".
So , I have resolved myself to be broke and stay home to make sure my girls get treated right. Now, 8 years later, I want something less stressful and more secure but have given up so much control that I cant provide for the girls on my own. I have no legal, running vehicle. I have been in trouble with the law for domestic disputes and other issues that revolve around him. I have no liscense and no chance of paying the fines and fees that I would NEVER choose over rent. No job, no money, and little hope of anything changing anytime soon. For some reason, I'm hooked and I dont feel like I can take my girls' Daddy away from them with a clear consious. But at the same time, they shouldn't grow up like this... with all the stress and worry and fighting and tears.
All I ever wanted was the basics. But I got sucked in and moved too fast and got in over my head when we had the 3rd girl. So, like I said, "Same Boat; Different Sea"
Posted by: bruce5th
Posted on: 2004-12-27 22:58:17
I feel a kinship here. For maybe a year, I believed I had married the man of my dreams. At that point, we started the cycle of being evicted every three months or so and I learned exactly how long you can wait to pay bills b-4 it gets turned off. If I complained, I was being selfish and money meant more to me than he did. I just couldn't find a way to just not worry about it like he wanted me to.
My stress and worry combined with his indifference eventually came out as anger and, in response, he just stopped caring. It doesnt matter if I'm happy anymore about anything he wants to do. He takes and throws money away on lottery and other reckless habits while I try to provide for 3 kids with what little is left when he is done having fun. Sometimes, he gets back on track and tries to fix the financial mess, but it's always too ;ittlt too late. I handle finances alot differently and, if allowed, I could prevent most of these problems but he doesnt feel like he gets enough for himself when the bills are paid... No matter how much or how little he earns,there is never enough to provide the basics like rent or electric or a running vehicle.
I've tried going to work myself but he doesn't like that either and he treats me awful to the point that I have to fight to get to work. In his opinion, it takes away from my duty to him and the kids and he would rather die than do what he considers to be "my job".
So , I have resolved myself to be broke and stay home to make sure my girls get treated right. Now, 8 years later, I want something less stressful and more secure but have given up so much control that I cant provide for the girls on my own. I have no legal, running vehicle. I have been in trouble with the law for domestic disputes and other issues that revolve around him. I have no liscense and no chance of paying the fines and fees that I would NEVER choose over rent. No job, no money, and little hope of anything changing anytime soon. For some reason, I'm hooked and I dont feel like I can take my girls' Daddy away from them with a clear consious. But at the same time, they shouldn't grow up like this... with all the stress and worry and fighting and tears.
All I ever wanted was the basics. But I got sucked in and moved too fast and got in over my head when we had the 3rd girl. So, like I said, "Same Boat; Different Sea"
GET A GRIP
Posted by: lanceandem
Posted on: 2004-12-29 22:39:17
YOU KNEW EXACTLY WHAT YOU WERE GETTING INTO WHEN YOU MARRIED HIM! AND IF YOU DIDN'T YOU SHOULDN'T HAVE MARRIED HIM!!
Posted by: lanceandem
Posted on: 2004-12-29 22:39:17
YOU KNEW EXACTLY WHAT YOU WERE GETTING INTO WHEN YOU MARRIED HIM! AND IF YOU DIDN'T YOU SHOULDN'T HAVE MARRIED HIM!!
Jack what did you think was gonna happen???
Posted by: hunt4me2
Posted on: 2004-12-27 16:10:47
Dr Phil:
Why is it that men have been marring for money for centuries and it’s overlooked? True in the earliest times it was for land, blood lines, and power. Since then when women look for financial stability, and promised things it has been called ‘gold digging’. At least Nicole has been up front from the very beginning about what she is looking for. She has never made deviated from this goal. As much as you don’t like her or this attitude you have to at least grant her the ‘at-a-boy’ for knowing what she wants.
Jack on the other had has misrepresented himself from the first. What did he think was going to happen AFTER the wedding that she would just stop buying? He didn’t have to promise her the things he knew he couldn’t deliver. No one forced him to 1) make her these promises and 2) marry this particular woman. Why did he feel he had to play the ‘big man’?
Why is it if she is truthful she’s a ‘gold digger’? Why is she the heavy in this picture? True maybe you think she should grow up and help provide, but this is what she is looking for and no one had to marry her. Besides no one forced him to marry her!
She shouldn’t have compounded the problem b y adding a baby to the mix. Look she’s not a Britney Spears, or a Paris Hilton. What I mean is she’s not a blue eyed, blond size two who can have her choice of the men who fall over themselves to try to get to her. I think Nicole is in for a rude awakening between what she is expecting Jack to provide, her image of herself, and her fantasy of a perfect life. I can’t get over the fact that Jack must have thought that when they said the ‘I do’s” she would have stopped spending.
My question is how long did they date and were engaged before they were married? Couldn’t she see he was over extending himself financially? Couldn’t she see it? Did she want to?
Hunter
hunt4me2@aol.com
Posted by: hunt4me2
Posted on: 2004-12-27 16:10:47
Dr Phil:
Why is it that men have been marring for money for centuries and it’s overlooked? True in the earliest times it was for land, blood lines, and power. Since then when women look for financial stability, and promised things it has been called ‘gold digging’. At least Nicole has been up front from the very beginning about what she is looking for. She has never made deviated from this goal. As much as you don’t like her or this attitude you have to at least grant her the ‘at-a-boy’ for knowing what she wants.
Jack on the other had has misrepresented himself from the first. What did he think was going to happen AFTER the wedding that she would just stop buying? He didn’t have to promise her the things he knew he couldn’t deliver. No one forced him to 1) make her these promises and 2) marry this particular woman. Why did he feel he had to play the ‘big man’?
Why is it if she is truthful she’s a ‘gold digger’? Why is she the heavy in this picture? True maybe you think she should grow up and help provide, but this is what she is looking for and no one had to marry her. Besides no one forced him to marry her!
She shouldn’t have compounded the problem b y adding a baby to the mix. Look she’s not a Britney Spears, or a Paris Hilton. What I mean is she’s not a blue eyed, blond size two who can have her choice of the men who fall over themselves to try to get to her. I think Nicole is in for a rude awakening between what she is expecting Jack to provide, her image of herself, and her fantasy of a perfect life. I can’t get over the fact that Jack must have thought that when they said the ‘I do’s” she would have stopped spending.
My question is how long did they date and were engaged before they were married? Couldn’t she see he was over extending himself financially? Couldn’t she see it? Did she want to?
Hunter
hunt4me2@aol.com
Nicole should try driving a chevette
Posted by: lanceandem
Posted on: 2004-12-29 22:38:39
What a joke this Woman is! Even worse is this so called Man she's with! As sad is it is this is the typical Woman in America now a day. Where has all the love gone? Is it all about $$MONEY$$???? Once this guy found out that this so called wife was only after $MONEY$ he should have been tripping over people to get to the court house in order to get the Divorce papers filed!! The fact that he is allowing her to go on Dr.Phil and show America how much of a push over he is is SAD!! Buddy you better get her money hungry butt out of your life quick before she takes you down more than you already have been taken! GOOD LUCK PAL!!!!!
Posted by: lanceandem
Posted on: 2004-12-29 22:38:39
What a joke this Woman is! Even worse is this so called Man she's with! As sad is it is this is the typical Woman in America now a day. Where has all the love gone? Is it all about $$MONEY$$???? Once this guy found out that this so called wife was only after $MONEY$ he should have been tripping over people to get to the court house in order to get the Divorce papers filed!! The fact that he is allowing her to go on Dr.Phil and show America how much of a push over he is is SAD!! Buddy you better get her money hungry butt out of your life quick before she takes you down more than you already have been taken! GOOD LUCK PAL!!!!!
nicole
Posted by: laangle72
Posted on: 2004-10-15 16:02:13
I just want to ask her what her problem is and ask her to try living on $300 a week and sometimes having to take a second job just to buy grocerys. embarressed to drive a 94 ive never had a new car and am now just buying my first home. if she wants all that why doesnt she go get a job.
Posted by: laangle72
Posted on: 2004-10-15 16:02:13
I just want to ask her what her problem is and ask her to try living on $300 a week and sometimes having to take a second job just to buy grocerys. embarressed to drive a 94 ive never had a new car and am now just buying my first home. if she wants all that why doesnt she go get a job.
I agree with you!!!
Posted by: andreaday
Posted on: 2004-10-15 18:08:36
I fully agree with you. I could not believe what I was hearing. I grew up a little pampered too. That doesn't mean that I wasn't taught the value of money, and how to earn it. I worked for almost everything in my teenage years on up. I would say to Nicole that it is time to wake up!
I stay at home, I have a modest house(about 1400 sq. ft.), and I will admit I drive 2 newer cars. But they are Nissans not Mercedes. I am a little spoiled, but I wouldn't love my husband any less if we drove older cars, and lived in a small apartment. And I have never really thought about things like getting my nails done and going on frequent weekend get aways. I like to save my money for a rainy day, and not have any credit card debt hanging over me unless it is an emergency (and by emergency I mean groceries, not getting your hair or nails done.)
Whew! Sorry I just had to vent here. I see people that don't realize how much they have in life all the time. Nicole should be thankful for her child and loving husband no matter how much money they do or don't have.
Posted by: andreaday
Posted on: 2004-10-15 18:08:36
I fully agree with you. I could not believe what I was hearing. I grew up a little pampered too. That doesn't mean that I wasn't taught the value of money, and how to earn it. I worked for almost everything in my teenage years on up. I would say to Nicole that it is time to wake up!
I stay at home, I have a modest house(about 1400 sq. ft.), and I will admit I drive 2 newer cars. But they are Nissans not Mercedes. I am a little spoiled, but I wouldn't love my husband any less if we drove older cars, and lived in a small apartment. And I have never really thought about things like getting my nails done and going on frequent weekend get aways. I like to save my money for a rainy day, and not have any credit card debt hanging over me unless it is an emergency (and by emergency I mean groceries, not getting your hair or nails done.)
Whew! Sorry I just had to vent here. I see people that don't realize how much they have in life all the time. Nicole should be thankful for her child and loving husband no matter how much money they do or don't have.
Posted by: daffys4yu
Posted on: 2004-10-16 01:01:34
Nicole needs to wake up and smell the coffee. This isn't Fantasyland. I'm a single mom struggling to make ends meet hoping to meet the love of my life some day. I was so upset to hear that she has, what sounds to be, a wonderful guy and is not satisfied. How dare she!?! Granted he did go over board, don't we all when we meet someone new? Does she realize how many women are out there just hoping to meet a good guy and can't? And here she is worried about her nails. Has she ever heard of "Sally Hensen"? Give me a break. May be she should marry Donald Trump.
Posted by: hypergram
Posted on: 2004-10-17 19:22:48
Nicole has obviously been given far too much. She really needs to learn that love does not equal possessions. I hope she loves her beautiful lil baby, and realises how lucky she is to have her.
Annie
just seen the show today
Posted by: 1karyann
Posted on: 2004-10-22 16:59:15
Chii she don't deserve no man, let me tell it she just want him for his money and I know I'm just 22 years old but I thought you married a man or woman whatever your choice, it'll be for love and the fact that you thinking about him and calls to see how their day is going. Not veriably abusing the man for not being able to get your nails done every week when you can share the expensens together I know a man should provide either way it goes but marriage is TEAM work E for effort people or just stay single...
Posted by: 1karyann
Posted on: 2004-10-22 16:59:15
Chii she don't deserve no man, let me tell it she just want him for his money and I know I'm just 22 years old but I thought you married a man or woman whatever your choice, it'll be for love and the fact that you thinking about him and calls to see how their day is going. Not veriably abusing the man for not being able to get your nails done every week when you can share the expensens together I know a man should provide either way it goes but marriage is TEAM work E for effort people or just stay single...
wake & smell the coffee
Posted by: krissynae
Posted on: 2004-12-27 21:04:56
Oh my goodness, If you want a better life get a job. Do pampered Chef or some home based business. She is a real princess. Come live in some of our livee & see how tight life can be.. Poor little spoiled girl.. Please..
Posted by: krissynae
Posted on: 2004-12-27 21:04:56
Oh my goodness, If you want a better life get a job. Do pampered Chef or some home based business. She is a real princess. Come live in some of our livee & see how tight life can be.. Poor little spoiled girl.. Please..
GROW UP!!
Posted by: mndoliver
Posted on: 2004-10-15 09:35:03
My husband and I have been married for two years this past week. Nicole thinks she has it bad.... please!!! She is embarrassed by driving a 1984 Volvo. She should come to my house. My husband lost his job the week he went back to work after our wedding. We have been struggling to make ends meet our whole marriage. We have four vehicles, two of which no longer run, one that is on the way to it's grave, and one that runs but needs work on it. All of our vehicles are over 10 years old. Marriage isn't about pampering. I have never gotten a massage, and the only time I got my nails done was for our wedding. Marriage is about loving and working through all the hard times that come flying at you constantly. Sharing a Mountain Dew is an everyday occurance in our house. Grow up young lady, marriage life is hard and it isn't perfect. You have to make it perfect, and work very hard to keep it together.
Posted by: mndoliver
Posted on: 2004-10-15 09:35:03
My husband and I have been married for two years this past week. Nicole thinks she has it bad.... please!!! She is embarrassed by driving a 1984 Volvo. She should come to my house. My husband lost his job the week he went back to work after our wedding. We have been struggling to make ends meet our whole marriage. We have four vehicles, two of which no longer run, one that is on the way to it's grave, and one that runs but needs work on it. All of our vehicles are over 10 years old. Marriage isn't about pampering. I have never gotten a massage, and the only time I got my nails done was for our wedding. Marriage is about loving and working through all the hard times that come flying at you constantly. Sharing a Mountain Dew is an everyday occurance in our house. Grow up young lady, marriage life is hard and it isn't perfect. You have to make it perfect, and work very hard to keep it together.
holy cow!
Posted by: atlswan
Posted on: 2004-10-15 09:35:03
I usually don't have time to watch the Dr. Phil show itself, so I catch up through the Web site summaries. After reading today's summary, however, I HAVE to watch this one. All three of these couples are blowing my mind right now.
By the way, I wouldn't mind driving around in an old Volvo at all! ;-)
Posted by: atlswan
Posted on: 2004-10-15 09:35:03
I usually don't have time to watch the Dr. Phil show itself, so I catch up through the Web site summaries. After reading today's summary, however, I HAVE to watch this one. All three of these couples are blowing my mind right now.
By the way, I wouldn't mind driving around in an old Volvo at all! ;-)
Yeah I would drive a used volvo
Posted by: cougle
Posted on: 2004-10-15 14:40:06
As well as they are good cars and will last
a long time .I would be emabrassed to be in
a really old rusty car but that's about it .
Posted by: cougle
Posted on: 2004-10-15 14:40:06
As well as they are good cars and will last
a long time .I would be emabrassed to be in
a really old rusty car but that's about it .
If it runs, I'll take it!
Posted by: rosebud81
Posted on: 2004-10-15 15:19:33
Try having children and not having a car. You won't care if it's rusted or old or any other way a car can be unpleasing to the eye. As long as it runs and can get you back and forth to work, the grocery store, gets kids from daycare, gets susie to ballet, and johnny to soccer.
People who are so unappreciative of thing's should have to go without them for a week, and see how it feels. They'll learn to appreciate what they have; no matter what it looks like!
Posted by: rosebud81
Posted on: 2004-10-15 15:19:33
Try having children and not having a car. You won't care if it's rusted or old or any other way a car can be unpleasing to the eye. As long as it runs and can get you back and forth to work, the grocery store, gets kids from daycare, gets susie to ballet, and johnny to soccer.
People who are so unappreciative of thing's should have to go without them for a week, and see how it feels. They'll learn to appreciate what they have; no matter what it looks like!
Posted by: hot_tamale
Posted on: 2004-10-15 20:13:49
Amen! I just don't understand that way of thinking.
Posted by: keirasmum
Posted on: 2004-10-15 15:26:38
84 Volvo??? i'll take it!! my honey, my 7 week old and I take the bus!!!
Unbelievable..
Posted by: navywife20
Posted on: 2004-10-15 10:09:39
Nicole is such a golddigger. I couldn't believe that she sat there laughing and smiling basically admitting that she did not love her husband she just wanted to be taken care of financially.
Tammi, I think she needs to read a book called The Five Love Languages. It is a great book. My husband and I read them and it is excellent. It explores the different ways a person wants to be loved (physical touch, words, acts of service.. etc.) and also how you show your love. When Tammi said that she wanted affection, and her husband said that he tells her, I knew that book would be perfect for them.
Posted by: navywife20
Posted on: 2004-10-15 10:09:39
Nicole is such a golddigger. I couldn't believe that she sat there laughing and smiling basically admitting that she did not love her husband she just wanted to be taken care of financially.
Tammi, I think she needs to read a book called The Five Love Languages. It is a great book. My husband and I read them and it is excellent. It explores the different ways a person wants to be loved (physical touch, words, acts of service.. etc.) and also how you show your love. When Tammi said that she wanted affection, and her husband said that he tells her, I knew that book would be perfect for them.
