02/05 A Family Divided: Marty and Erin
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Posted by: karencyr
Posted on: 2004-02-05 07:45:51
Theres just somehting about Marty That I like and something about Marty I do not like..Meaning, I do think Marty is distant,and forsure too late, What kind of a "Husband" Would take their Children with him to cheat on his wife with another woman, over dinner.....But yet, I feel sorry for Marty with all the turmoil his life has been in over his family,when I see him smile, and see the happiness within him, makes me smile, and think to myself, there is still hope for him.....
Posted by: karencyr
Posted on: 2004-02-05 07:45:51
Theres just somehting about Marty That I like and something about Marty I do not like..Meaning, I do think Marty is distant,and forsure too late, What kind of a "Husband" Would take their Children with him to cheat on his wife with another woman, over dinner.....But yet, I feel sorry for Marty with all the turmoil his life has been in over his family,when I see him smile, and see the happiness within him, makes me smile, and think to myself, there is still hope for him.....
Don't give up
Posted by: niccie14
Posted on: 2004-02-05 10:45:48
Marty and Erin remind me of my parents. Great people, but they struggle to communicate. What they need to do is forget the past. Marty should buy Erin some flowers, taker her out, overwhelm her. He is going to have to melt her heart. If they can regain their intimacy and become best friends again, they can get through this. God bless, and don't give up until you know you have done everything possible.
Posted by: niccie14
Posted on: 2004-02-05 10:45:48
Marty and Erin remind me of my parents. Great people, but they struggle to communicate. What they need to do is forget the past. Marty should buy Erin some flowers, taker her out, overwhelm her. He is going to have to melt her heart. If they can regain their intimacy and become best friends again, they can get through this. God bless, and don't give up until you know you have done everything possible.
Forgive..but FORGET?????
Posted by: mqgang
Posted on: 2004-02-05 12:48:53
Yes, you are right...Marty should try to awe Erin again. But they cannot just forget the past. The scars are too deep. They both have to forgive each other before that healing will begin. They will NEVER be best friends again while the scars remain open.
Posted by: mqgang
Posted on: 2004-02-05 12:48:53
Yes, you are right...Marty should try to awe Erin again. But they cannot just forget the past. The scars are too deep. They both have to forgive each other before that healing will begin. They will NEVER be best friends again while the scars remain open.
Forgiving + Healing = forgetting pain
Posted by: undeceived
Posted on: 2004-02-05 16:50:44
You are right that there are going to be very deep scars in this relationship. I know that those scars can heal though and while they won't forget the individual things that have happened, the pain can be forgotten. Of course that can only happen when they are both willing to forgive and let go of the things they are continuously bringing back up. I loved it when Dr. Phil pointed out that Marriage is 100/100 rather than 50/50. My husband and I had some very deep wounds, but that pain does fade with time and with restoration of the relationship. It is a choice...and Marty and Erin will both have to choose each and every day if they will love one another or not.
Posted by: undeceived
Posted on: 2004-02-05 16:50:44
You are right that there are going to be very deep scars in this relationship. I know that those scars can heal though and while they won't forget the individual things that have happened, the pain can be forgotten. Of course that can only happen when they are both willing to forgive and let go of the things they are continuously bringing back up. I loved it when Dr. Phil pointed out that Marriage is 100/100 rather than 50/50. My husband and I had some very deep wounds, but that pain does fade with time and with restoration of the relationship. It is a choice...and Marty and Erin will both have to choose each and every day if they will love one another or not.
More than Forgiveness
Posted by: jadlady
Posted on: 2004-02-08 14:47:43
I think there’s more than forgiveness that’s necessary. You have to understand why you hurt in the first place and the person who pressed the button that caused the hurt has to understand why what they did had that effect. There has to be something underlying the forgiveness. Belief systems, trust. Faith… it isn’t just, I’ll forgive you and we’ll get on with life…. Otherwise its more like giving in to being tired with the pain – letting it fades over time…
I think if you don’t resolve the issues, they just go dormant for a while. That happens because you get tired of feeling those awful painful feelings so you just put them away so you don’t overtake your life. You let them go for a while and try to enjoy other things around you. Maybe during that time you get stronger, smarter… The trouble comes when both people do that and learn to coexist indefinitely without resolving the problems. Until they solve the underlying problems, there are raw nerves in there. They will never go any further, they can’t get any closer – its just a stalemate – until they deal with the issues.
Like when Dr. Phil made Marty turn and face Erin and look her in the eye. He wouldn’t let him look down or turn away, to hide… sooner or later you have to deal with the stuff if you want things to get better. Or… accept they will remain the same at least for the time being but could explode at any moment – or pack it in and leave.
Posted by: jadlady
Posted on: 2004-02-08 14:47:43
I think there’s more than forgiveness that’s necessary. You have to understand why you hurt in the first place and the person who pressed the button that caused the hurt has to understand why what they did had that effect. There has to be something underlying the forgiveness. Belief systems, trust. Faith… it isn’t just, I’ll forgive you and we’ll get on with life…. Otherwise its more like giving in to being tired with the pain – letting it fades over time…
I think if you don’t resolve the issues, they just go dormant for a while. That happens because you get tired of feeling those awful painful feelings so you just put them away so you don’t overtake your life. You let them go for a while and try to enjoy other things around you. Maybe during that time you get stronger, smarter… The trouble comes when both people do that and learn to coexist indefinitely without resolving the problems. Until they solve the underlying problems, there are raw nerves in there. They will never go any further, they can’t get any closer – its just a stalemate – until they deal with the issues.
Like when Dr. Phil made Marty turn and face Erin and look her in the eye. He wouldn’t let him look down or turn away, to hide… sooner or later you have to deal with the stuff if you want things to get better. Or… accept they will remain the same at least for the time being but could explode at any moment – or pack it in and leave.
It's not all just Marty
Posted by: phliss
Posted on: 2004-02-08 19:51:17
Erin seems in my opinion to constantly cast herself as the only victim in this relationship. Her ever present yelling at Martin must make him cringe. She usually has such a "poor me" look on her face and at times has rolled her eyes when Marty has tried to say how he feels plus the fact that when Dr. Phil asks her what she thinks about whatever Martin has just said, I can't remember a time when she said "He's probably right. I think I understand him a bit more."
HE is not the only one with baggage and yet it seems that Erin--and at times Dr. Phil--dump all the problems of the marriage onto Martin. Give the guy a break; he's trying to change (more than is Erin in my opinion) but he has a considerable load of poor childhood family relationships to overcome and learn how to be a husband and a father. It really irks me how much venom seems to be poured onto his head by some of these messages.Let's hear Erin being told off about her part in this, she's no sweetie pie and needs to own up to what the constant yelling does to a man. Woo her again? Yes. Make herself wooable again? Absolutely! Then they have the 100-100% marriage!
Posted by: phliss
Posted on: 2004-02-08 19:51:17
Erin seems in my opinion to constantly cast herself as the only victim in this relationship. Her ever present yelling at Martin must make him cringe. She usually has such a "poor me" look on her face and at times has rolled her eyes when Marty has tried to say how he feels plus the fact that when Dr. Phil asks her what she thinks about whatever Martin has just said, I can't remember a time when she said "He's probably right. I think I understand him a bit more."
HE is not the only one with baggage and yet it seems that Erin--and at times Dr. Phil--dump all the problems of the marriage onto Martin. Give the guy a break; he's trying to change (more than is Erin in my opinion) but he has a considerable load of poor childhood family relationships to overcome and learn how to be a husband and a father. It really irks me how much venom seems to be poured onto his head by some of these messages.Let's hear Erin being told off about her part in this, she's no sweetie pie and needs to own up to what the constant yelling does to a man. Woo her again? Yes. Make herself wooable again? Absolutely! Then they have the 100-100% marriage!
I'm with you
Posted by: danabauer
Posted on: 2004-02-10 01:41:36
Erin has plenty of reasons to feel sorry for herself, but all of her hurt wasn't caused by Marty. You would never know it because he has been her whipping post for years. Could he ever do anything to please her? I really believe he would like to be her "hero" but no matter how he would choose to rescue her he wouldn't be able to please her. She must break free of her need to be in control of everything and everyone and allow Marty to step up to the plate. He would be her "soft place to land" if she would just let him.
Posted by: danabauer
Posted on: 2004-02-10 01:41:36
Erin has plenty of reasons to feel sorry for herself, but all of her hurt wasn't caused by Marty. You would never know it because he has been her whipping post for years. Could he ever do anything to please her? I really believe he would like to be her "hero" but no matter how he would choose to rescue her he wouldn't be able to please her. She must break free of her need to be in control of everything and everyone and allow Marty to step up to the plate. He would be her "soft place to land" if she would just let him.
I'm with U 2
Posted by: slimami
Posted on: 2004-02-10 07:57:02
I couldn't agree more with both of you. I was yelling at the television the day this show aired. I wanted to tell Dr. Phil that her "I am so wounded" face was ridiculous. This is definitely a case, just like most marital challenges,where it takes two. She has a major part in this play and for some reason no one is acknowledging this or if it is acknowledged then I see it unbalanced with more of the fault placed on Marty. If I were him I would've bolted for the door so fast just to stop hearing the yelling and nagging from her. We also have to keep in mind that the producers might not be showing us the entire picture but I do think that they are pretty precise on this show. If you want tenderness, understanding and affection then you have to come half-way. Dr. Phil has said many a times that marriage isn't 50-50 it is 100-100 but it isn't applying here. I have had patients who have been married for over 50 -60 years and when I ask them what is their secret they all have told me that you have to have a sense of humor, don't bicker and always forgive when you are wrong. I do wish them both the best of luck, they have a very full emotional plate along with three kids (the girls and Nathan) to care for. It is alot of work on a DAILY basis to make any relationship work, hopefully they will come to an understanding that will bring them some peace.
Posted by: slimami
Posted on: 2004-02-10 07:57:02
I couldn't agree more with both of you. I was yelling at the television the day this show aired. I wanted to tell Dr. Phil that her "I am so wounded" face was ridiculous. This is definitely a case, just like most marital challenges,where it takes two. She has a major part in this play and for some reason no one is acknowledging this or if it is acknowledged then I see it unbalanced with more of the fault placed on Marty. If I were him I would've bolted for the door so fast just to stop hearing the yelling and nagging from her. We also have to keep in mind that the producers might not be showing us the entire picture but I do think that they are pretty precise on this show. If you want tenderness, understanding and affection then you have to come half-way. Dr. Phil has said many a times that marriage isn't 50-50 it is 100-100 but it isn't applying here. I have had patients who have been married for over 50 -60 years and when I ask them what is their secret they all have told me that you have to have a sense of humor, don't bicker and always forgive when you are wrong. I do wish them both the best of luck, they have a very full emotional plate along with three kids (the girls and Nathan) to care for. It is alot of work on a DAILY basis to make any relationship work, hopefully they will come to an understanding that will bring them some peace.
Agree
Posted by: ellemay313
Posted on: 2004-02-11 13:22:36
You know I have to agree that Marty getting all the dumping is WRONG and it's starting to get to me to. I am female and no I wouldn't want someone I married cheating on me either. However if Marty is willing to accept responsiblity for his part in what happened then maybe so should Erin. I agree all you see is her roll her eyes and yell and scream.. you know I don't like being screamed at either so what makes her or Phil think that Marty enjoys it. The name calling is a little much ..but I understand it DEFENCE.
To me Erin comes off cold heartless poor me ..I'm the poor one in this. The eye rolling gets to me a lot ... I still have not figured out why Phil doesn't call her on that, cause to me it seems as though she is passing off what Marty says as well as doesn't even hear it, and that she would rather hold onto the bitterness and anger then to forgive. I personally think she likes to be seen as poor me. Please people pitty me.
That in noway excusses what Marty has done..nor does what I am going to say next , but if I was married to a man with the same attitude as Erin .. I would also look elsewhere and would continue to. Erin holds the threat of divorce over Marty like someone holding rewards or bribes from a child.
I think that Erin needs Phil to give her a damn wake up call and let her know that if you are just going to roll your eyes maybe it is time to break down and file for that divorce you keep threatening. :)
Posted by: ellemay313
Posted on: 2004-02-11 13:22:36
You know I have to agree that Marty getting all the dumping is WRONG and it's starting to get to me to. I am female and no I wouldn't want someone I married cheating on me either. However if Marty is willing to accept responsiblity for his part in what happened then maybe so should Erin. I agree all you see is her roll her eyes and yell and scream.. you know I don't like being screamed at either so what makes her or Phil think that Marty enjoys it. The name calling is a little much ..but I understand it DEFENCE.
To me Erin comes off cold heartless poor me ..I'm the poor one in this. The eye rolling gets to me a lot ... I still have not figured out why Phil doesn't call her on that, cause to me it seems as though she is passing off what Marty says as well as doesn't even hear it, and that she would rather hold onto the bitterness and anger then to forgive. I personally think she likes to be seen as poor me. Please people pitty me.
That in noway excusses what Marty has done..nor does what I am going to say next , but if I was married to a man with the same attitude as Erin .. I would also look elsewhere and would continue to. Erin holds the threat of divorce over Marty like someone holding rewards or bribes from a child.
I think that Erin needs Phil to give her a damn wake up call and let her know that if you are just going to roll your eyes maybe it is time to break down and file for that divorce you keep threatening. :)
cheated?
Posted by: tpot13
Posted on: 2004-02-12 01:03:31
I'm not persuaded Marty did what we'd call cheating. He's consistently denied that there was anything sexual involved (tho I'm not sure how many are reruns of the same shot). The only evidence against him is that he lied about a phone conversation, and that Erin "saw them and they're beautiful women". The phone lie is understandable as a white lie, when we know Erin's perchant for exagerated accusations. And beauty isn't evidence of betrayal. (If anything, it's an obstacle). Marty has admitted cheating, which may be only a friendship (perhaps with sexual fantasies) that he feels guilty about.
anybody who can only last two minutes with his wife is only going to soil his trousers with a stranger.
Posted by: tpot13
Posted on: 2004-02-12 01:03:31
I'm not persuaded Marty did what we'd call cheating. He's consistently denied that there was anything sexual involved (tho I'm not sure how many are reruns of the same shot). The only evidence against him is that he lied about a phone conversation, and that Erin "saw them and they're beautiful women". The phone lie is understandable as a white lie, when we know Erin's perchant for exagerated accusations. And beauty isn't evidence of betrayal. (If anything, it's an obstacle). Marty has admitted cheating, which may be only a friendship (perhaps with sexual fantasies) that he feels guilty about.
anybody who can only last two minutes with his wife is only going to soil his trousers with a stranger.
It Was Over A Long Time Ago
Posted by: barbw55
Posted on: 2004-02-18 17:32:54
Marty just sits there and agrees and has absolutely no good intentions to resolve this.
He just says what he wants everyone to believe.
His emotions are so fake.!! Erin on the other
hand has seemed to chill a little bit.
As far as this family making it, there is no chance.
Posted by: barbw55
Posted on: 2004-02-18 17:32:54
Marty just sits there and agrees and has absolutely no good intentions to resolve this.
He just says what he wants everyone to believe.
His emotions are so fake.!! Erin on the other
hand has seemed to chill a little bit.
As far as this family making it, there is no chance.
give him a break
Posted by: lori011359
Posted on: 2004-02-12 17:07:32
I have watched the series from the start and can't believe that Dr. Phil always blames Marty for everything. Now it's his fault that Alex had sex. Where is Erin's responsibility for this child. Maybe if her mother wasn't such a witch(actually should start with a B). Maybe Mommy dearest should be available to her daughter. Marty and Alex get put through the ringer on every show, but Erin and Katherine(who I feel is a mirror image of her mother) are always the poor mistreated ones...That is BS. I think Dr. Phil is a great guy but I don't understand where he comes from with this family. I have been in Marty's shoes, had a spouse that was disconnected and acted like he didn't care and I had an afair. I made a mistake but wouldn't have felt the need to turn to someone else if my husband had been there for me..We are still together 18 years later but he also admitted his part in what happened. Dr. Phil I would like to see you make Erin responsible for her part.
Posted by: lori011359
Posted on: 2004-02-12 17:07:32
I have watched the series from the start and can't believe that Dr. Phil always blames Marty for everything. Now it's his fault that Alex had sex. Where is Erin's responsibility for this child. Maybe if her mother wasn't such a witch(actually should start with a B). Maybe Mommy dearest should be available to her daughter. Marty and Alex get put through the ringer on every show, but Erin and Katherine(who I feel is a mirror image of her mother) are always the poor mistreated ones...That is BS. I think Dr. Phil is a great guy but I don't understand where he comes from with this family. I have been in Marty's shoes, had a spouse that was disconnected and acted like he didn't care and I had an afair. I made a mistake but wouldn't have felt the need to turn to someone else if my husband had been there for me..We are still together 18 years later but he also admitted his part in what happened. Dr. Phil I would like to see you make Erin responsible for her part.
lori011359:
Posted by: lyndish
Posted on: 2004-02-06 19:26:04
Let's not forget that we see only a tidbit of the whole picture. Dr. Phil sees and hears way more, and knows what he's doing.
Posted by: lyndish
Posted on: 2004-02-06 19:26:04
Let's not forget that we see only a tidbit of the whole picture. Dr. Phil sees and hears way more, and knows what he's doing.
"Give Him A Break For What~?
Posted by: chris414
Posted on: 2004-02-21 14:54:05
You mean give the "Poor Marty" a break for ripping a heart out of Erin's chest, like my husband did mine~? Forget it~! For 6 or 7 years now I have tried to give the "Poor Guy" a break, and to keep our marriage together for me and my son and for what~? He did it to me 3 times also~!! How do you think it made my son feel when he walked out the door to go live with her~? Today he is 21 and still hasn't forgotten it. Don't get me wrong, he loves his dad very much, but he hurt him so bad, that it made me hate him even more~! A year ago, after I thought everything was going to be really OK, he comes home from work crying because he found out that day that she had died of kidney failer~! What do you think that did to me and you want someone to give the "Poor Guy" another chance~? By the way, he met her at work too. At General Motors, where almost 3/4 of all the families are divorced or broken up. NOW, You give me a break~!!
Posted by: chris414
Posted on: 2004-02-21 14:54:05
You mean give the "Poor Marty" a break for ripping a heart out of Erin's chest, like my husband did mine~? Forget it~! For 6 or 7 years now I have tried to give the "Poor Guy" a break, and to keep our marriage together for me and my son and for what~? He did it to me 3 times also~!! How do you think it made my son feel when he walked out the door to go live with her~? Today he is 21 and still hasn't forgotten it. Don't get me wrong, he loves his dad very much, but he hurt him so bad, that it made me hate him even more~! A year ago, after I thought everything was going to be really OK, he comes home from work crying because he found out that day that she had died of kidney failer~! What do you think that did to me and you want someone to give the "Poor Guy" another chance~? By the way, he met her at work too. At General Motors, where almost 3/4 of all the families are divorced or broken up. NOW, You give me a break~!!
Why is marty Being Blamed for EVERYTHING
Posted by: maygirl3
Posted on: 2004-04-08 20:55:56
I am mad at the fact that everything that has ever gone wrong with this family is marty's fault.To the best of my knowledge he didn't make Alex have sex and get pregnant. He didn't make Katherine's grades go down .Where does Erin take some responsibility in all this. This is her family too . Marty didn't just have a affair for no reason.It seems to me that Erin is making it seem like she was the perfect wife and didn't do anything to maybe cause Marty to stray. To me it seems like she is trying to make it seem like she didn't have a hand in alex getting out of control. I think Dr phil needs to open up his eyes and realize that he and Erin , Alex and Katherine are all blaming Marty for EVERYTHING!!!!!!!!!He also has to realize that blaming somebody for every problem his family has is not right.
Posted by: maygirl3
Posted on: 2004-04-08 20:55:56
I am mad at the fact that everything that has ever gone wrong with this family is marty's fault.To the best of my knowledge he didn't make Alex have sex and get pregnant. He didn't make Katherine's grades go down .Where does Erin take some responsibility in all this. This is her family too . Marty didn't just have a affair for no reason.It seems to me that Erin is making it seem like she was the perfect wife and didn't do anything to maybe cause Marty to stray. To me it seems like she is trying to make it seem like she didn't have a hand in alex getting out of control. I think Dr phil needs to open up his eyes and realize that he and Erin , Alex and Katherine are all blaming Marty for EVERYTHING!!!!!!!!!He also has to realize that blaming somebody for every problem his family has is not right.
not just marty
Posted by: leryasa
Posted on: 2004-02-12 20:08:01
I agree, it seems marty gets all the blame. He seems to be the one of the family that appears to have changed the most. When you look back at past shows, Marty has a grim look on his face, these days, he's smiling, laughing, crying. To me, Erin is still the ice queen. And every clip of her conversations with the girls are arguments, and put downs. I think she needs to take a long walk along the beach, get in touch with her emotions and then invite the girls for a long walk with her and have a talk instead of a confrontation.
Posted by: leryasa
Posted on: 2004-02-12 20:08:01
I agree, it seems marty gets all the blame. He seems to be the one of the family that appears to have changed the most. When you look back at past shows, Marty has a grim look on his face, these days, he's smiling, laughing, crying. To me, Erin is still the ice queen. And every clip of her conversations with the girls are arguments, and put downs. I think she needs to take a long walk along the beach, get in touch with her emotions and then invite the girls for a long walk with her and have a talk instead of a confrontation.
Marty's Not so Bad!
Posted by: lhmadison
Posted on: 2004-02-12 22:35:04
Hey - I totally agree. Dr. Phil's too hard on Marty. From the video I have seen, Erin is getting back a lot of what she dishes out. If I were Marty, getting slammed on the show almost every time he appears, I think I would just walk off the set!
Posted by: lhmadison
Posted on: 2004-02-12 22:35:04
Hey - I totally agree. Dr. Phil's too hard on Marty. From the video I have seen, Erin is getting back a lot of what she dishes out. If I were Marty, getting slammed on the show almost every time he appears, I think I would just walk off the set!
i go for the underdogs
Posted by: ctyankee
Posted on: 2004-02-14 00:26:07
Marty and Katherine are the victims here. Yah, Marty screwed up, big time, but he does have a lot of baggage and he is vunerable. Erin has her nose up in the air, too good for everyone. When i see her cry, its almost like she is not sincere about it. Poor Katherine, she has gotten the brunt of it all. Throughout the whole pregnancy of Alex, Kath was put on the back burner. You can bet she will not make the same big big mistake Alex made. If Alex knows it all, like she claims to, then she should move out of the house and support herself, her child and her deadbeat boyfriend. Martys affair i do not agree with at all, but he has to get some positive attention somewhere.
Posted by: ctyankee
Posted on: 2004-02-14 00:26:07
Marty and Katherine are the victims here. Yah, Marty screwed up, big time, but he does have a lot of baggage and he is vunerable. Erin has her nose up in the air, too good for everyone. When i see her cry, its almost like she is not sincere about it. Poor Katherine, she has gotten the brunt of it all. Throughout the whole pregnancy of Alex, Kath was put on the back burner. You can bet she will not make the same big big mistake Alex made. If Alex knows it all, like she claims to, then she should move out of the house and support herself, her child and her deadbeat boyfriend. Martys affair i do not agree with at all, but he has to get some positive attention somewhere.
Anger is deeply imbedded
Posted by: uhaul1
Posted on: 2004-02-08 21:38:40
Both Marty and Erin are so filled with anger that it will be very hard for them to forgive each other and save this marriage. Somehow, they have to get past this deep anger they both have before any healing can take place. Both of them have a different face for the Dr. Phil show and their private lives. Their true faces reveal this anger. Also, Marty seems to have a very difficult time answering questions when he is on the show. He seems to always be thinking of an answer that Dr. Phil wants to hear rather than just saying the truth. They both have a lot of work if there is any chance for this marriage to survive...............
Posted by: uhaul1
Posted on: 2004-02-08 21:38:40
Both Marty and Erin are so filled with anger that it will be very hard for them to forgive each other and save this marriage. Somehow, they have to get past this deep anger they both have before any healing can take place. Both of them have a different face for the Dr. Phil show and their private lives. Their true faces reveal this anger. Also, Marty seems to have a very difficult time answering questions when he is on the show. He seems to always be thinking of an answer that Dr. Phil wants to hear rather than just saying the truth. They both have a lot of work if there is any chance for this marriage to survive...............
Ready to work Marty and Erin
Posted by: susankath
Posted on: 2004-02-05 17:33:53
I truly hope Erin and Marty can save their marriage. They both need to face their fears (where they came from and where they are now). In my opinion, Marty is emotionally distant from himself and his family. I'm not sure that Marty really understands that he needs to work on himself. He seems to think Erin is the problem and granted she is part of it. She does have a strong personality and seems to be very angry with Marty and with herself for marrying Marty. Both Marty and Erin need to take ownership of their problems and learn how to open up honestly and sympathically with each other. I hope all goes well for them but I wouldn't be surprised if they divorced.
Posted by: susankath
Posted on: 2004-02-05 17:33:53
I truly hope Erin and Marty can save their marriage. They both need to face their fears (where they came from and where they are now). In my opinion, Marty is emotionally distant from himself and his family. I'm not sure that Marty really understands that he needs to work on himself. He seems to think Erin is the problem and granted she is part of it. She does have a strong personality and seems to be very angry with Marty and with herself for marrying Marty. Both Marty and Erin need to take ownership of their problems and learn how to open up honestly and sympathically with each other. I hope all goes well for them but I wouldn't be surprised if they divorced.
