06/28 Weight Interventions

dangerously obese
Posted by: mamawifern
Posted on: 2004-02-09 08:30:49

What a great forum to educate the public about Lymphedema!! As I belive this is what this lady has looking at the picture. There is help....and yes obesity CAN trigger lymphedema due to the strain on the lymphatic system. First, she need to see a doc her can confirm the diagnosis...then find a physical therapist trained to provide her with Manuale lymphedema drainage! Do the public a tremensous service and research this topic and get all the facts about this uncurable but treatable condition! I know..as I have lymphedema after I had my radical lymph node dissection back in 1996 as my skin cancer(melanoma) metasized to the lymph nodes in my right groin! I woke up with lymphedema!!
Edward
Posted by: vznevada
Posted on: 2004-02-09 13:13:57

My heart went out to this man. He is not only extremely good looking, but I was also trying to find where he thought he was fat. Although his wife is a truly beautiful woman, Edward is equally good looking...and most deserving of a beautiful wife and a happy life.

I hope Dr. Phil can reach him and counsel him. He obviously has some deep sorrows to deal with :-((

Carol Y.
I agree...
Posted by: ldftannie
Posted on: 2004-02-09 14:24:06

My first reaction to Edward was that I thought he looked great. Hi father must have really put him down a lot in his life. It's just not right. I wish him all the best wishes in the world. He needs to enjoy his new life with his beautiful bride. His father was wrong!
I agree also
Posted by: m_johnson7
Posted on: 2004-02-09 16:02:54

My roommate and I were watching Dr. Phil and wondering why Edward thought that he was so fat, We thought that he was an extemely good-looking man and that people were not looking at him saying bad things, I think they were looking at him, thinking of how good looking he is. I personally have also had a father who was absent for most of my life and the only thing he had to say to me was about my weight, so I know how that part feels, but he never made my feelings change about myself, just him! We wish Edward and his wife luck, they are a beautiful couple and deserve each other!
Hiding Fat
Posted by: keri4god
Posted on: 2004-02-09 16:20:37

Hi all...I know when I was heavier, I weighed 240 pounds. I hid it very well and didn't look fat to my friends. My ideal weight was 120 pounds and i'm about 15 away from that now. I had the gastric bypass surgery and am not sorry I had it done. But my friends all said I wasn't fat to begin with but I hid it with baggy clothes and clothes that would conceal well...maybe that is what Edward does. I wish not only Edward but Joell good luck in their lives and losing the weight...I hope they keep us updated on these two people. :-)
AMEN, to comment on Edward...
Posted by: rdhatblond
Posted on: 2004-02-09 20:10:14

I too felt the pain of this VERY HANDSOME young man, and felt he certainly did not look overweight...I have seen this happen, a parent planting such negatives that a brilliant, attractive, and kind individual and not see the positives [that outweigh all the negatives], and only focus on those negatives. I would be proud to call Edward my husband, as I know his wife is...What Edward has to give as a husband and father inside would far outweigh any weight, even if he was overweight, and again, this is something I just couldn't see....God bless both of you, and I know things will all work out for the positive, you have so much good to work with....
Familes can be so cruel
Posted by: rainbow_35
Posted on: 2004-02-09 16:17:02

I agree with you. I think he was so handsome and they made such a beautiful couple. I too know what it feels like to always be critized by your family. I have had weight problems all my life. Always as a teenager I felt to chubby even though I only weighed 125 pounds. After I married slowly I put on exta weight(I weighed 175 pounds) and everyone in my family, let me know how bad I looked. they would all say you need to lose weight. Well I did. I went on a diet and lost a lot of weight. I looked better than I did when i was in school and I couldnt wait till my family reunion for everyone to see the new me. Well guess what, everyone told me how bad i looked. they all said you are way too skinny. You look so bad. You look like a sick person. I was so depressed and I felt so ugly. Slowly I gained the weight back and now I am trying once more to lose it and keep it off. So I have decided to hell with what everyone else thinks. I have only one person that needs to happy with they way I look and that is myself. I wish all the people on today's show the best and just know there are a lot of people out there cheering you all on. Good Luck. Dr. Phil we love you and your show.
I agree
Posted by: jaleyn
Posted on: 2004-02-09 21:23:40

I really loved the way Dr Phil helped him to realize that he is worthy and valuable. He is very good looking and seemed like a wonderful man His wife seems to really love him and be supportive. How can parents not realize what damage they do when they label their children. My husband was told for years he was dumb.... It has taken me a long time(we have been married almost 28 years)to help him realize he is NOT...
Edward was such a cutie!!
Posted by: natchat36
Posted on: 2004-02-12 12:18:55

Ok! First of all I am SO amazed that this guy thinks he is fat!! Now, having said that I also deal with this issue myself. Although I have been very heavy (205lbs.) and now very thin (110lbs) I am never happy with how I look either. So even though we can all tell Edward that he is very good looking, it won't matter at all until he decides to erase the negative tapes that play in his head. My therory is that it comes from feeling responsible in some way for his father's abandonment, which he is in NO WAY culpable for!! Mine started with dear old mom,I was never good enough for her either. So I totally get how he feels! Edward, you are not only a hottie, but you are such a sweet and couragous human being! You will get though this and you will be fine. You have to work at it, it is not easy to stop thinking negative about yourself.But please, love yourself, because you are so worth it! Hang in there buddy!!
I TOTALLY agree
Posted by: bcb8504
Posted on: 2004-02-09 16:00:56

My first thought while I was watching the show was "Edward does not need to lose any weight." I thought he was really handsome.I hope he can learn to see himself in a postive light.
Add me to the list
Posted by: momisme2
Posted on: 2004-02-09 18:33:13

I thought Edward was a hotty! Its so sad what we can say to ourselves. I hope he can work through it. I believe he can! :)
there's more to it
Posted by: mmmdsm
Posted on: 2004-02-10 09:05:05

I think there is an underlying reason for the way he feels. He looks good to me and there is something he is hiding and hasn't told Dr. Phil, yet. For him not to have sex on his honeymoon is suspect. Maybe he didn't want to be married at such a young age and regrets his decision. He is holding back but not because of his appearance. Just a thought.
EDWARD LUV
Posted by: bonehelmet
Posted on: 2004-02-09 19:57:05

My girlfriend and I were so moved by Edward. Edward, you are a beautiful person, let your light shine, the world needs more good men like you. You have to put your father behind you, he was 1/100th of the man you are.
Edward
Posted by: memory1977
Posted on: 2004-02-09 20:08:33

All I can say is I felt Edwards pain,I too was instilled with nothing but negative thoughts of myself from the parent that is supposed to nurture us.He is a gorgeous man inside and out.I know with Dr.Phil and Edwards determination he will come out on top.
Tammy
Kudos to you Edward
Posted by: ambieloo83
Posted on: 2004-02-09 20:37:03

I think Edward is a very good looking mand and a great husband and father. Alot of the reason why he is so hard on himself is because of his father not being there and as a little boy you look up to your father. You look to your father as a role model so if he says something is wrong with you, you'll tend to focus on that one thing and doubt it.
Edward
Posted by: aperson1
Posted on: 2004-02-09 21:09:05

Wow! My heart went out for Edward. I thought he showed such courage to come on the show. What a nice looking, sincere young man. He has so many amazing qualities. I wish him and his new family much love and happiness.

The father had no right to abandon him, came back in his life for a brief moment, and destroy him emotionally. I wonder if the comments made to Edward by his father - made him feel less guilty for leaving Edward in the first place. Sham, Sham, Sham!!!
To Edward - What Courage!`
Posted by: daninoah
Posted on: 2004-02-09 21:23:03

Many of us can see how attractive Edward is on the outside. But unfortunately, he can't see that in himself. The one word that came to mind while watching him today on Dr. Phil was COURAGEOUS. He did what many men would not be willing to do. I think he demonstrated more character and depth, than most. Bravo to you Edward!!
Edward...not only easy on the eyes!
Posted by: luulu2
Posted on: 2004-02-09 21:52:23

What a great looking man!!! Television cameras are well known to make people appear heavier than they are....not this guy. If I had turned off the volume, I would never have known he had a weight issue.

I was stuck by his grooming and excellent taste in clothes. Most attractive is his spirit--his goodness shines.

Edward,you think they are looking at you for all the wrong reasons..... you turn heads for all of the right reasons! You and your wife are a most attractive couple.

I do understand, however, what you are going thru. It was so brave of you to bare your soul today. Dr. Phil is so right--I lost my weight years ago but the tapes in my head still rant on about my being fat and all the rest of it. I am looking forward to your journey and how Dr. Phil deals with your "inner critic"....then I will learn to silence mine once and for all.

I wish you well and look forward to another wonderful transformation from the inside out.
(((Edward)))
Posted by: sissy707
Posted on: 2004-02-10 02:17:58

Within minutes of watching Edward with Dr.Phil I realized that I could have been sitting up there. The pain this man is feeling comes from deep within. It doesn't matter how many times he is told he is handsome, that he is a good man, that he worthy. Like Dr.Phil said, " so often it happens when people confuse body image and self-image." I hope that Dr.Phil finds the magic buttons to push to help him learn to love himself. It is obvious to us, but he is unable to see his wonderful qualities. Edward, should you read this, I am praying for you and holding your hand across the miles.
Edward
Posted by: frenz96
Posted on: 2004-02-10 03:56:56

I really felt the pain that Edward was feeling. As I sat there and watched the show I cried. I guess I could relate to him in some ways and only wished that I had the support that he has.
His wife is very pretty and they seem to be a wonderful couple. I hope that through Edward Dr. Phil will help those of us out here that feel like Edward. I wish Edward all the best. Thank you Edward for being so brave.