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Posted by: greeniago
Posted on: 2005-01-06 10:31:16
I thought Dr. Phil's comment about how Americian parents would love to hear their children say what the children on the show said was nice, but not very realistic. First of all, after working with children for almost 30 years, I've heard many, many American children say similar things.........what it really great, is when they actually follow thru. What most children I've known found is that words are easy, it's the doing that is the really hard part.
Posted by: greeniago
Posted on: 2005-01-06 10:31:16
I thought Dr. Phil's comment about how Americian parents would love to hear their children say what the children on the show said was nice, but not very realistic. First of all, after working with children for almost 30 years, I've heard many, many American children say similar things.........what it really great, is when they actually follow thru. What most children I've known found is that words are easy, it's the doing that is the really hard part.
Time with Dad
Posted by: atlswan
Posted on: 2005-01-06 10:45:49
This is for Lauren, who wanted to spend more time with her father. You are such a delightful young woman. Like Dr. Phil said, it isn't often you find a teenager that is openly wanting to spend time with a parent. I was so impressed with your desire to not let your father vanish every night but to find a way to get that special time together.
I would give anything to have my father back to spend time with. We didn't always have a great relationship when I was growing up but it improved a lot when I became an adult. I can remember him and my mother visiting me often at college. He never went to college and loved walking around campus with me. We watched a lot of late night TV together, too!
Sadly, Dad was diagnosed with Parkinson's Disease in 1996 and by 2001, was mentally fading away from us. He was no longer the Dad I knew. He died in December 2003. He will never get to know his wonderful son-in-law or be Grandpa to any child I have. Even though it's been over a year, I still am not over it.
I'm so glad your father joined you on the show. It looks like he truly cares about you and your mother. Treasure your time together as father and daughter because it is, as you already know, so very, very precious!
God bless you, Lauren!
Posted by: atlswan
Posted on: 2005-01-06 10:45:49
This is for Lauren, who wanted to spend more time with her father. You are such a delightful young woman. Like Dr. Phil said, it isn't often you find a teenager that is openly wanting to spend time with a parent. I was so impressed with your desire to not let your father vanish every night but to find a way to get that special time together.
I would give anything to have my father back to spend time with. We didn't always have a great relationship when I was growing up but it improved a lot when I became an adult. I can remember him and my mother visiting me often at college. He never went to college and loved walking around campus with me. We watched a lot of late night TV together, too!
Sadly, Dad was diagnosed with Parkinson's Disease in 1996 and by 2001, was mentally fading away from us. He was no longer the Dad I knew. He died in December 2003. He will never get to know his wonderful son-in-law or be Grandpa to any child I have. Even though it's been over a year, I still am not over it.
I'm so glad your father joined you on the show. It looks like he truly cares about you and your mother. Treasure your time together as father and daughter because it is, as you already know, so very, very precious!
God bless you, Lauren!
good luck
Posted by: ananas15
Posted on: 2005-01-06 13:20:13
Hello, at first sorry for my languages, because iīm from Holland.
at second, I see my mother to not often and I miss her very much, but when I get to her it feels like she donīt like me. And she heve only attention for her husband and her new dog. I can imagen that you miss your father to, because i know how it is to miss someone, and I only can say: hold on girl!
and never give up how hard it is sometimes... I wish you good luck for the future.
kisses from Holland
Christa
Posted by: ananas15
Posted on: 2005-01-06 13:20:13
Hello, at first sorry for my languages, because iīm from Holland.
at second, I see my mother to not often and I miss her very much, but when I get to her it feels like she donīt like me. And she heve only attention for her husband and her new dog. I can imagen that you miss your father to, because i know how it is to miss someone, and I only can say: hold on girl!
and never give up how hard it is sometimes... I wish you good luck for the future.
kisses from Holland
Christa
not common?
Posted by: v_jade_c
Posted on: 2005-01-06 17:56:26
I think that many girls want to spend more time with their dads. They are just scared or ashamed to admit it. They may feel that they are just not interesting enough or not fun.
I am 19 years old and have no relationship with my dad. I love him, he supports me at the moment, but he hasn't been much a part of my life since I was little. Once I hit puberty he hasn't had much to do with me. I tried asking him to spend more time with me, make a family time or a game night. We've had two or three meaningful talks where we have cried, but the next day it goes back to normal. every cuple of years he makes an effort for a week or two, but that is it. He lives in the same house and we have to force him to spend time with me or my sister. He takes my brother hunting, talks to him, and just spends time with him but not with us. It is not as simple or as rare as Dr. Phil seems to think.
I don't want my sister to have no relationship with my dad like me. I hope Dr. Phil will see this and make a show devoted to this kind of promlem. My dad likes to watch the show sometimes.
Anyway, congrats Lauren, I am so happy for your success with your relationship with your father.
Posted by: v_jade_c
Posted on: 2005-01-06 17:56:26
I think that many girls want to spend more time with their dads. They are just scared or ashamed to admit it. They may feel that they are just not interesting enough or not fun.
I am 19 years old and have no relationship with my dad. I love him, he supports me at the moment, but he hasn't been much a part of my life since I was little. Once I hit puberty he hasn't had much to do with me. I tried asking him to spend more time with me, make a family time or a game night. We've had two or three meaningful talks where we have cried, but the next day it goes back to normal. every cuple of years he makes an effort for a week or two, but that is it. He lives in the same house and we have to force him to spend time with me or my sister. He takes my brother hunting, talks to him, and just spends time with him but not with us. It is not as simple or as rare as Dr. Phil seems to think.
I don't want my sister to have no relationship with my dad like me. I hope Dr. Phil will see this and make a show devoted to this kind of promlem. My dad likes to watch the show sometimes.
Anyway, congrats Lauren, I am so happy for your success with your relationship with your father.
clutter
Posted by: sameoleme
Posted on: 2005-01-06 11:14:18
This show just made me angry. How can anyone live in filth. What a shame for someone to have a lovely home and allow it to get so filthy. In my opinion this comes from nothing but LAZINESS. Messy diapers stuck to a sofa,rotten food in the car? Come on. It makes me angry for Dr. Phil to give this family anything. This house didn't get like this over night, it's a way of life for them. Dr. Phil needs to take his own advice and it's time to get real.
I'm so angry and sad that I can hardly find the words to express it.
Posted by: sameoleme
Posted on: 2005-01-06 11:14:18
This show just made me angry. How can anyone live in filth. What a shame for someone to have a lovely home and allow it to get so filthy. In my opinion this comes from nothing but LAZINESS. Messy diapers stuck to a sofa,rotten food in the car? Come on. It makes me angry for Dr. Phil to give this family anything. This house didn't get like this over night, it's a way of life for them. Dr. Phil needs to take his own advice and it's time to get real.
I'm so angry and sad that I can hardly find the words to express it.
Clutter?
Posted by: debbiemig
Posted on: 2005-01-06 16:00:03
I haven't even finished watching the show, I had to write! I can't believe that Dr. Phill sent anyone to clean up that pig pen for that LAZY woman! She has no pride to swallow! She allowed the cameras into her house, all to pretend to be " overwhelmed" by the mess!I can't believe he fell for it! I also am surprised that he wasn't more harsh with her. Why would ANYONE allow her family to live in that filth! She's too busy being a "mom"? PAAALEASE!
Posted by: debbiemig
Posted on: 2005-01-06 16:00:03
I haven't even finished watching the show, I had to write! I can't believe that Dr. Phill sent anyone to clean up that pig pen for that LAZY woman! She has no pride to swallow! She allowed the cameras into her house, all to pretend to be " overwhelmed" by the mess!I can't believe he fell for it! I also am surprised that he wasn't more harsh with her. Why would ANYONE allow her family to live in that filth! She's too busy being a "mom"? PAAALEASE!
my middle name is clutter
Posted by: stephi_h
Posted on: 2005-01-06 16:59:41
That is so mean. growing up my house was clean. Now that I am on my own I cant keep my house clean. I am like that lady! I am a busy mom. I also have 3 kids ages 4, 2, 7months. I cant keep my house clean!!!(i dont have diapers any where but in the trash and I dont have rotten food in the car or in my house. Let me say this my house may be a mess but my kids are clean and well taken care of so just because her house was a mess dosent mean that she is a bad mother.
Posted by: stephi_h
Posted on: 2005-01-06 16:59:41
That is so mean. growing up my house was clean. Now that I am on my own I cant keep my house clean. I am like that lady! I am a busy mom. I also have 3 kids ages 4, 2, 7months. I cant keep my house clean!!!(i dont have diapers any where but in the trash and I dont have rotten food in the car or in my house. Let me say this my house may be a mess but my kids are clean and well taken care of so just because her house was a mess dosent mean that she is a bad mother.
FlyLady needed
Posted by: ahorsesoul
Posted on: 2005-01-06 17:13:14
That family will never be able to keep their house clean if they do not have the skills to do this! I was disappointed that Dr. Phil did not help them with a plan on how to keep it looking so nice. The need the plan on flylady.net. It sure has helped me! It at first sounds silly. I tried this method just to prove it did not work! HA I sure was wrong! It works very well.
Posted by: ahorsesoul
Posted on: 2005-01-06 17:13:14
That family will never be able to keep their house clean if they do not have the skills to do this! I was disappointed that Dr. Phil did not help them with a plan on how to keep it looking so nice. The need the plan on flylady.net. It sure has helped me! It at first sounds silly. I tried this method just to prove it did not work! HA I sure was wrong! It works very well.
Posted by: tig97055
Posted on: 2005-01-06 18:48:21
One Babystep at a time! Got to Flylady.net read everything and then start by shining your sink. I promise it works.
Tigger(been there done it, still doing it)
Posted by: tig97055
Posted on: 2005-01-06 18:49:54
One Babystep at a time! Got to Flylady.net read everything and then start by shining your sink. I promise it works.
Tigger(been there done it, still doing it)
Posted by: tig97055
Posted on: 2005-01-06 18:59:23
One Babystep at a time! Got to Flylady.net read everything and then start by shining your sink. I promise it works.
Tigger(been there done it, still doing it)
Posted by: juanita780
Posted on: 2005-01-06 20:12:28
Hi 'oldnuf',
If you want to start with FlyLady go to www.flylady.net. I think you'll be glad you did.
Juanita780
re oldenuf - how did you get started - flylady
Posted by: pas4peace
Posted on: 2005-01-08 12:07:40
Just go to www.flylady.net sign up to receive the messages, read the ones for the newbies
and after that... focus primarily on the ones from kelly.. they will come daily m-f and contain a simple 15 minute task... delete all emails every day otherwise you'll get overwhelmed
and dont worry about the reminders, they'll mean more as you get into it
do watch for the 27 fling boogies... they are fun and help you declutter...
i joined in jan/04 and am amazed at how nice everything feeels now... no hot spots, guest rooms are always ready for guests.. dishes always clean and sink all shiny and clean :) the loss of clutter seems to affect how you feel inside too...
Weird thing is , its all free.... its really priceless
Posted by: pas4peace
Posted on: 2005-01-08 12:07:40
Just go to www.flylady.net sign up to receive the messages, read the ones for the newbies
and after that... focus primarily on the ones from kelly.. they will come daily m-f and contain a simple 15 minute task... delete all emails every day otherwise you'll get overwhelmed
and dont worry about the reminders, they'll mean more as you get into it
do watch for the 27 fling boogies... they are fun and help you declutter...
i joined in jan/04 and am amazed at how nice everything feeels now... no hot spots, guest rooms are always ready for guests.. dishes always clean and sink all shiny and clean :) the loss of clutter seems to affect how you feel inside too...
Weird thing is , its all free.... its really priceless
Amen to Flylady!!
Posted by: gladiola00
Posted on: 2005-01-06 18:55:06
I have often wanted to email Dr. Phil and suggest that many of his guest would have their problems solved with a daily dose of Flylady!!! I was searching on line one day for help with my clutter problem....everywhere I saw mentioned "Flylady". She is a Godsend!!! Check her out Dr. Phil...and all who need her www.Flylady.net
Also, to all who critise...please think twice before you cast stones...many times it is far deeper than just laziness. People who are living in clutter and willing to go on TV (showing the world) in search of help, are desperate for help and suggestions. Finally....Bless you Dr. Phil for all you do to help others!!!
Posted by: gladiola00
Posted on: 2005-01-06 18:55:06
I have often wanted to email Dr. Phil and suggest that many of his guest would have their problems solved with a daily dose of Flylady!!! I was searching on line one day for help with my clutter problem....everywhere I saw mentioned "Flylady". She is a Godsend!!! Check her out Dr. Phil...and all who need her www.Flylady.net
Also, to all who critise...please think twice before you cast stones...many times it is far deeper than just laziness. People who are living in clutter and willing to go on TV (showing the world) in search of help, are desperate for help and suggestions. Finally....Bless you Dr. Phil for all you do to help others!!!
Totally agree!
Posted by: treadnwatr
Posted on: 2005-01-07 18:45:18
That was one of my first reactions as this segment was drawing to a close. Yeh sure, it's wonderful that they can start with a clean slate. And boy, wouldn't it be wonderful if Dr. Phil and his crew could come to my house! However, unless that Family has the tools and strategies and corresponding action plan to maintain it, then it's pretty much a lost cause.
It's possible that Dr. Phil's "deal" of taking things away (if they don't keep it clean) might be incentive enough. Somehow though, I don't think so. Besides, what is going to be the definition of "clean"? And what have we (the audience) learned from this segment...mmmm....if we could just get the Dr. Phil show to come and clean (and organize) our house, then we'll be all set?!
Personally, I was rather disappointed with the segment for a couple of reasons:
1) I thought Dr. Phil was a bit too harsh and unrealistic when it came to her being able to keep her house "clean". Don't get me wrong, I agree that her and her family were living in a "pigstye" (the dirty diaper in the couch was a bit too much). Nonetheless, I think there are hundreds (if not thousands) of homes out there that are very close to being as "cluttered" as hers. I know my house seems to be in a constant state of clutter. With small children, it's always an ever-ending battle to keep the clutter under control. Furthermore, fact of the matter is that if you don't have enough storage solutions in place, and are not super, super organized, then IMO there is always going to be clutter. And as good of intentions that you have, the reality is that life in the 21st century is busy and often-times chaotic (especially for families where both parents are working outside the home). What is needed is a definite go-forward plan and a commitment (from EVERYONE in the family) to try to maintain a clean house. And I agree with some of the other posters that flylady.net is a good resource.
2) There was no real go-forward plan of action for how this family was going to change its habits in order to keep the clutter under control. The laundry was a perfect example. Clearly the family didn't have the time (energy, effort, or whatever) to keep up with the current laundry situation. Exactly what changes were made (besides adding some laundry bins) that are going to help this family keep up with their laundry?! I know in our house, the laundry is never kept up or even mildly under control! That's just life in these hectic, chaotic times.
When I saw this segment coming on, I quickly grabbed a pen & paper to jot down some notes from the tips and advice I expected. Sadly, my sheet of paper was still blank by the end of the segment. :-(
Posted by: treadnwatr
Posted on: 2005-01-07 18:45:18
That was one of my first reactions as this segment was drawing to a close. Yeh sure, it's wonderful that they can start with a clean slate. And boy, wouldn't it be wonderful if Dr. Phil and his crew could come to my house! However, unless that Family has the tools and strategies and corresponding action plan to maintain it, then it's pretty much a lost cause.
It's possible that Dr. Phil's "deal" of taking things away (if they don't keep it clean) might be incentive enough. Somehow though, I don't think so. Besides, what is going to be the definition of "clean"? And what have we (the audience) learned from this segment...mmmm....if we could just get the Dr. Phil show to come and clean (and organize) our house, then we'll be all set?!
Personally, I was rather disappointed with the segment for a couple of reasons:
1) I thought Dr. Phil was a bit too harsh and unrealistic when it came to her being able to keep her house "clean". Don't get me wrong, I agree that her and her family were living in a "pigstye" (the dirty diaper in the couch was a bit too much). Nonetheless, I think there are hundreds (if not thousands) of homes out there that are very close to being as "cluttered" as hers. I know my house seems to be in a constant state of clutter. With small children, it's always an ever-ending battle to keep the clutter under control. Furthermore, fact of the matter is that if you don't have enough storage solutions in place, and are not super, super organized, then IMO there is always going to be clutter. And as good of intentions that you have, the reality is that life in the 21st century is busy and often-times chaotic (especially for families where both parents are working outside the home). What is needed is a definite go-forward plan and a commitment (from EVERYONE in the family) to try to maintain a clean house. And I agree with some of the other posters that flylady.net is a good resource.
2) There was no real go-forward plan of action for how this family was going to change its habits in order to keep the clutter under control. The laundry was a perfect example. Clearly the family didn't have the time (energy, effort, or whatever) to keep up with the current laundry situation. Exactly what changes were made (besides adding some laundry bins) that are going to help this family keep up with their laundry?! I know in our house, the laundry is never kept up or even mildly under control! That's just life in these hectic, chaotic times.
When I saw this segment coming on, I quickly grabbed a pen & paper to jot down some notes from the tips and advice I expected. Sadly, my sheet of paper was still blank by the end of the segment. :-(
i agree
Posted by: bubbles07
Posted on: 2005-01-06 18:02:59
i agree with what u said even though i am only 15 years old my house is a mess it is just me and my mother now living here but one of my sisters has 2 kids and they r over here all the time and we cant keep our house clean i mean it isnt a pig pen like that but it still isnt clean it is cluttered a lot but we r never home becuase i am into sports and we have something to do every night so we never have time to clean
Posted by: bubbles07
Posted on: 2005-01-06 18:02:59
i agree with what u said even though i am only 15 years old my house is a mess it is just me and my mother now living here but one of my sisters has 2 kids and they r over here all the time and we cant keep our house clean i mean it isnt a pig pen like that but it still isnt clean it is cluttered a lot but we r never home becuase i am into sports and we have something to do every night so we never have time to clean
Unbelievable!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Posted by: wonmother
Posted on: 2005-01-06 18:20:28
Dr. Phil, I couldn't believe you spent or had sponsors donate to this story. Theirs so many other people that could have use the needed help from your kind generosity. Thank you for allowing my comment. Lou from Centenary, Indiana
Posted by: wonmother
Posted on: 2005-01-06 18:20:28
Dr. Phil, I couldn't believe you spent or had sponsors donate to this story. Theirs so many other people that could have use the needed help from your kind generosity. Thank you for allowing my comment. Lou from Centenary, Indiana
this was different
Posted by: gale312
Posted on: 2005-01-06 19:57:16
You may get overwhelmed sometime with 3 small ones, but she was an organizer. She knew how to get started(thats part of what she does to others) I just think she didn't want to clean her own home.
She was laughing all the way through her segment and was thrilled to find out she didn't have to clean it herself. I'll bet you she will keep it that way now-she did get some new furniture with the clean-up.
Posted by: gale312
Posted on: 2005-01-06 19:57:16
You may get overwhelmed sometime with 3 small ones, but she was an organizer. She knew how to get started(thats part of what she does to others) I just think she didn't want to clean her own home.
She was laughing all the way through her segment and was thrilled to find out she didn't have to clean it herself. I'll bet you she will keep it that way now-she did get some new furniture with the clean-up.
She didn't even seem surprised!
Posted by: elmombusy
Posted on: 2005-01-13 16:42:38
I agree with you! She knew exactly how to take chaos and organize it. But the thing that stuck out in my mind, was that she seemed almost expecting something. She didn't appear surprised or blown away at the "new" house they had created! The husband did look surprised and awestruck!
I also can't see them taking furniture or whatever away from them. That seemed like an odd condition to the plan to me!
Posted by: elmombusy
Posted on: 2005-01-13 16:42:38
I agree with you! She knew exactly how to take chaos and organize it. But the thing that stuck out in my mind, was that she seemed almost expecting something. She didn't appear surprised or blown away at the "new" house they had created! The husband did look surprised and awestruck!
I also can't see them taking furniture or whatever away from them. That seemed like an odd condition to the plan to me!
