05/06 Mother's Day Celebration
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Posted by: spikebird
Posted on: 2005-04-30 21:29:30
Dear Dr. Phil,
Please don't forget that some women are not able to have children and will never be mothers. I have lost three children, and Mother's Day is a hard holiday for me. It's great that you are going to honor mothers, but be sensitive to those of us who will never be.
Cindy
Posted by: spikebird
Posted on: 2005-04-30 21:29:30
Dear Dr. Phil,
Please don't forget that some women are not able to have children and will never be mothers. I have lost three children, and Mother's Day is a hard holiday for me. It's great that you are going to honor mothers, but be sensitive to those of us who will never be.
Cindy
New Zealand Mum
Posted by: dmaru15
Posted on: 2005-05-01 07:35:32
Dear Dr Phil and Robyn,
"What a lovly thing to do for all the mothers that live within your country...
if only we had something here in New Zealand.
I have six children all under 14years of age...and wished we could get gifts on mothers day...what more can a kiwi mum ask for.You mums overseas are so lucky to have Dr Phil and Robyn living where you are, and hosting a wonderful show.
xxxdmaru15
Posted by: dmaru15
Posted on: 2005-05-01 07:35:32
Dear Dr Phil and Robyn,
"What a lovly thing to do for all the mothers that live within your country...
if only we had something here in New Zealand.
I have six children all under 14years of age...and wished we could get gifts on mothers day...what more can a kiwi mum ask for.You mums overseas are so lucky to have Dr Phil and Robyn living where you are, and hosting a wonderful show.
xxxdmaru15
Adoption sometimes is the WORST option
Posted by: julibriggs
Posted on: 2005-05-03 16:46:05
We did a foreign adoption in 1997--were planning on one girl but got hit with a bait and switch and got two. Two related children being taken from a birth home and institutionalized for a couple of years spells hell, disaster, I can't find the word for it, for the parents individually and as a couple. I won't bore you with any more, but my marriage is in the courts right now, the state has had the kids for 14 months. 11 of those 14, the elder one has been in 5 different psych hospitals. Younger one hospitalized once. I don't have anything left in me, and he is seeking to have the children returned to him. That may or may not happen.
Anyway, I want to find some joy on Sunday and to bring about love and warmth to my mother and been-like-a-mother-to-me's, several states away.
So, all in all making the move towards parenthood couldn't even begin to have been worth it, in my case.
JPB
Posted by: julibriggs
Posted on: 2005-05-03 16:46:05
We did a foreign adoption in 1997--were planning on one girl but got hit with a bait and switch and got two. Two related children being taken from a birth home and institutionalized for a couple of years spells hell, disaster, I can't find the word for it, for the parents individually and as a couple. I won't bore you with any more, but my marriage is in the courts right now, the state has had the kids for 14 months. 11 of those 14, the elder one has been in 5 different psych hospitals. Younger one hospitalized once. I don't have anything left in me, and he is seeking to have the children returned to him. That may or may not happen.
Anyway, I want to find some joy on Sunday and to bring about love and warmth to my mother and been-like-a-mother-to-me's, several states away.
So, all in all making the move towards parenthood couldn't even begin to have been worth it, in my case.
JPB
Re: Adoption
Posted by: tammyec
Posted on: 2005-05-03 18:55:57
I feel for you. Two years ago my husband and I adopted two half-brothers (10 months apart in age). One has been institutionalized 3 times (he just turned 9). They have both been diagnosed with multiple behavior disorders and the younger one with a mental disorder. My husband and I fight over them and issues such as over money, therapy, discipline, etc. We also have a biological child suffering from depression due to the new home situation. It is extremely difficult sometimes not to lose my mind. I hope you find some peace. Seek some therapy for yourself. It may help. tjc
Posted by: tammyec
Posted on: 2005-05-03 18:55:57
I feel for you. Two years ago my husband and I adopted two half-brothers (10 months apart in age). One has been institutionalized 3 times (he just turned 9). They have both been diagnosed with multiple behavior disorders and the younger one with a mental disorder. My husband and I fight over them and issues such as over money, therapy, discipline, etc. We also have a biological child suffering from depression due to the new home situation. It is extremely difficult sometimes not to lose my mind. I hope you find some peace. Seek some therapy for yourself. It may help. tjc
Adoption
Posted by: genny1969
Posted on: 2005-05-06 18:12:07
JPB, I am so sorry that you had to experience such heart ache and pain. But much like having a child that is naturally yours, there are ups and downs. Happy moments and time of despair. But through it all (because I have experienced seeing my 16 year old go to prison for five years)I would not trade him for any other child. Yes he may be my biological child but heart ache has no respect of gender or biological standards. I pray that one day you have the opportunity to be a mother regardless to if it is naturally your child or you bring some unfortunate child in as your own. I am grateful even though it has been rough. Also enjoy your mother, I lost my mother in a car accident and I was the driver. At least you can be thankful that your mom is alive for you to call her and say... Hi mom. You're in my prayers...
Posted by: genny1969
Posted on: 2005-05-06 18:12:07
JPB, I am so sorry that you had to experience such heart ache and pain. But much like having a child that is naturally yours, there are ups and downs. Happy moments and time of despair. But through it all (because I have experienced seeing my 16 year old go to prison for five years)I would not trade him for any other child. Yes he may be my biological child but heart ache has no respect of gender or biological standards. I pray that one day you have the opportunity to be a mother regardless to if it is naturally your child or you bring some unfortunate child in as your own. I am grateful even though it has been rough. Also enjoy your mother, I lost my mother in a car accident and I was the driver. At least you can be thankful that your mom is alive for you to call her and say... Hi mom. You're in my prayers...
"Blessed...New Zealand Mum"
Posted by: spicyred
Posted on: 2005-05-03 17:28:30
Your right we're...lucky to have a Great show w/ Dr. Phil! Celebrating Mother's all over the United States!
New Zealand Mum, you are Blessed with (6) Children to love, teach,laugh, cuddle with etc. That's your Greatest Gift ever!! :)
"HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY"
Posted by: spicyred
Posted on: 2005-05-03 17:28:30
Your right we're...lucky to have a Great show w/ Dr. Phil! Celebrating Mother's all over the United States!
New Zealand Mum, you are Blessed with (6) Children to love, teach,laugh, cuddle with etc. That's your Greatest Gift ever!! :)
"HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY"
I'm with you dmaru
Posted by: beffes
Posted on: 2005-05-03 21:38:36
I would like to say a Happy Mother's Day to all mothers, and a big thank you to Dr Phil and Robyn, I too wish we could have some-one like you here in Australia (maybe you and Robyn could do a show here in Perth). I watch your show whenever I can, and think your great.
Take care
Beffes
Posted by: beffes
Posted on: 2005-05-03 21:38:36
I would like to say a Happy Mother's Day to all mothers, and a big thank you to Dr Phil and Robyn, I too wish we could have some-one like you here in Australia (maybe you and Robyn could do a show here in Perth). I watch your show whenever I can, and think your great.
Take care
Beffes
Kiwi Mum here
Posted by: reins0518
Posted on: 2005-05-09 11:26:31
Hi, I am a kiwi mum living in the states. Not all of us benefit from Dr Phils generosity. My husband is so totally clueless, he waited until Mothers day to go and find a card and came home with nothing. I didnt get one single thing. He should know me better that all I wanted was a peice of paper with my 15mth olds scribble on it, but that was too much effort in itself. Last year I got a catalogue from Kmart of the necklace he had put on lay away for me, turned out he never did pick it up, so not only did i luck out again, but he wasted his deposit. ggrrr
Posted by: reins0518
Posted on: 2005-05-09 11:26:31
Hi, I am a kiwi mum living in the states. Not all of us benefit from Dr Phils generosity. My husband is so totally clueless, he waited until Mothers day to go and find a card and came home with nothing. I didnt get one single thing. He should know me better that all I wanted was a peice of paper with my 15mth olds scribble on it, but that was too much effort in itself. Last year I got a catalogue from Kmart of the necklace he had put on lay away for me, turned out he never did pick it up, so not only did i luck out again, but he wasted his deposit. ggrrr
To: Childless
Posted by: laurainelk
Posted on: 2005-05-03 11:24:00
I can relate to you. I had 3 tubal pregnancies and then went through several failed in vitro attempts. Mother's Day was definitely hard to get through. I am one of the lucky ones. At 34 years old, I finally became pregnant and now have a 3 year old son. I know the pain you are going through and pray that you will be blessed with a child too. It seems like the people who would be the best parents aren't given the chance. I hope you have a mother you can focus on for Mother's Day. And I always found it helpful to spend time with other children in my family. Luckily my brothers and their wives let me spend lots of time with their children. I know it's not the same as having your own, but it got me through. Don't forget that there are many people that care, even though we may not know you.
Posted by: laurainelk
Posted on: 2005-05-03 11:24:00
I can relate to you. I had 3 tubal pregnancies and then went through several failed in vitro attempts. Mother's Day was definitely hard to get through. I am one of the lucky ones. At 34 years old, I finally became pregnant and now have a 3 year old son. I know the pain you are going through and pray that you will be blessed with a child too. It seems like the people who would be the best parents aren't given the chance. I hope you have a mother you can focus on for Mother's Day. And I always found it helpful to spend time with other children in my family. Luckily my brothers and their wives let me spend lots of time with their children. I know it's not the same as having your own, but it got me through. Don't forget that there are many people that care, even though we may not know you.
childless
Posted by: audrawv
Posted on: 2005-05-03 13:11:13
Thank you to Cindy for calling to everyone's attention that not all women are mothers. This assumption does make it a difficult day for us; whether by choice or lost pregnancies. Cindy, look at it this way: children are a bigger burden than you may imagine. I would have never gotten this far in life, gotten an education, traveled or seen the places and met the people I have so far if I would have had one or more rugrats clinging to me. How about you? Yes. Mother's Day can be a sensitive subject for childless women, but the glass is still half full for us! Kids aren't everything they're cracked up to be, you know, and the society in which we live today is no place to raise them either! Just reframe your perspective as I have and look at all you HAVE accomplished with your single lifestyle! Most of my friends who are Moms envy me and remark about my exciting life with jealousy in their voices. I feel little empathy for them because that is the path they chose. I too have lost a few, but that is no reason for me to stay in the past and feel sorry for myself. If children are still absolutely necessary in your life; if raising kids will make you feel more womanly, there is always adoption or foster care. Audra from WV
Posted by: audrawv
Posted on: 2005-05-03 13:11:13
Thank you to Cindy for calling to everyone's attention that not all women are mothers. This assumption does make it a difficult day for us; whether by choice or lost pregnancies. Cindy, look at it this way: children are a bigger burden than you may imagine. I would have never gotten this far in life, gotten an education, traveled or seen the places and met the people I have so far if I would have had one or more rugrats clinging to me. How about you? Yes. Mother's Day can be a sensitive subject for childless women, but the glass is still half full for us! Kids aren't everything they're cracked up to be, you know, and the society in which we live today is no place to raise them either! Just reframe your perspective as I have and look at all you HAVE accomplished with your single lifestyle! Most of my friends who are Moms envy me and remark about my exciting life with jealousy in their voices. I feel little empathy for them because that is the path they chose. I too have lost a few, but that is no reason for me to stay in the past and feel sorry for myself. If children are still absolutely necessary in your life; if raising kids will make you feel more womanly, there is always adoption or foster care. Audra from WV
loving every minute of it
Posted by: stephelz
Posted on: 2005-05-04 01:00:58
The assumption that I think Dr. Phil is making by having a Mother's Day show is not that all women are or should be mothers, but that we all have mothers and he wants to honor them. It is a sad statement to say children are a burden... especially if you have never had a child. I can happily say, nothing is better than waking up in the morning and being greeted by my kids' happy, smiling faces...no jet setting around the world can compare to spending the day with my kids and seeing them discover the world around them. Yes, I have made my choice to be a mother, just as you have made your choices in life. I do not regret my choices for a second. Becoming a mother is the best thing that ever happened to me. Hearing of your experiences does not evoke jealousy it only makes for a fun story. Responding to the woman your letter was in response to...I pray for her that she may one day become blessed with a child...be it naturally, through adoption or foster care.
Posted by: stephelz
Posted on: 2005-05-04 01:00:58
The assumption that I think Dr. Phil is making by having a Mother's Day show is not that all women are or should be mothers, but that we all have mothers and he wants to honor them. It is a sad statement to say children are a burden... especially if you have never had a child. I can happily say, nothing is better than waking up in the morning and being greeted by my kids' happy, smiling faces...no jet setting around the world can compare to spending the day with my kids and seeing them discover the world around them. Yes, I have made my choice to be a mother, just as you have made your choices in life. I do not regret my choices for a second. Becoming a mother is the best thing that ever happened to me. Hearing of your experiences does not evoke jealousy it only makes for a fun story. Responding to the woman your letter was in response to...I pray for her that she may one day become blessed with a child...be it naturally, through adoption or foster care.
How sad for YOUR mom
Posted by: txhoosier
Posted on: 2005-05-04 15:31:20
Your Mom must be so glad that she gave birth to someone who now says that kids are nothing but trouble! If someone does not have or want children that is fine but DO NOT cut down your own mother when you are telling people how great you have it being childless, that you get to see great places, eat in wonderful restraurants, travel when you want, have terrific jobs and have lots of money- those of us who have children by choice have it just as good as you do - we see the greatest art work on a daily basis, we visit the best places - I love the zoo and the parks when seen with a child, we hear the best sounds (children laughing and playing and those calls from our service person saying "hi, I am doing fine over here, I love you all and I will be home soon", or even from the child at college calling to say that once again they are "a tad short of funds, can you help me out?". I too have a college degree but the MOM degree that I hold is by far the best and most prized degree I can have. My Mom is gone now and if I could say all I never got to say to her I would tell her that I am so glad that she gave birth to me and my siblings, that she loved and nutured us - with Dad's help of course - and that the standards they both instilled in all of us are alive and well in all the grandchildren and great grandchildren that they have left behind. I am glad you are happy with your life. So are those of us who chose to be parents so don't kick us down, we like where we are too. You said you had accomplished so much with your single lifestyle, well I have two degrees, 5 kids, 3 grandchildren and I haven't even hit the 58 mark yet so I have a lot more time to do even more but right now I have a 2 year old granddaughter who lives with me who wants to color and then go out to play on the jungle gym, so I am going to go play - have fun at your day at work, when she is older I will do that too! My life IS fuller than yours believe me - I do not envy you nor am I jealous of you, I do pity you when you are older and retired and no one calls you Mom or Grandma!! I can't even imagine what your life must be like all alone, nor would I ever want that life.
Posted by: txhoosier
Posted on: 2005-05-04 15:31:20
Your Mom must be so glad that she gave birth to someone who now says that kids are nothing but trouble! If someone does not have or want children that is fine but DO NOT cut down your own mother when you are telling people how great you have it being childless, that you get to see great places, eat in wonderful restraurants, travel when you want, have terrific jobs and have lots of money- those of us who have children by choice have it just as good as you do - we see the greatest art work on a daily basis, we visit the best places - I love the zoo and the parks when seen with a child, we hear the best sounds (children laughing and playing and those calls from our service person saying "hi, I am doing fine over here, I love you all and I will be home soon", or even from the child at college calling to say that once again they are "a tad short of funds, can you help me out?". I too have a college degree but the MOM degree that I hold is by far the best and most prized degree I can have. My Mom is gone now and if I could say all I never got to say to her I would tell her that I am so glad that she gave birth to me and my siblings, that she loved and nutured us - with Dad's help of course - and that the standards they both instilled in all of us are alive and well in all the grandchildren and great grandchildren that they have left behind. I am glad you are happy with your life. So are those of us who chose to be parents so don't kick us down, we like where we are too. You said you had accomplished so much with your single lifestyle, well I have two degrees, 5 kids, 3 grandchildren and I haven't even hit the 58 mark yet so I have a lot more time to do even more but right now I have a 2 year old granddaughter who lives with me who wants to color and then go out to play on the jungle gym, so I am going to go play - have fun at your day at work, when she is older I will do that too! My life IS fuller than yours believe me - I do not envy you nor am I jealous of you, I do pity you when you are older and retired and no one calls you Mom or Grandma!! I can't even imagine what your life must be like all alone, nor would I ever want that life.
I agree
Posted by: flmom38
Posted on: 2005-05-05 09:59:10
It saddens me and actually makes me mad when people are so outspoken about the burdens that children are and that they would never want one. I have a biological son and 2 adopted daughters. There are times when it gets hectic in my house and I get stressed but I would never give them up. I would never put anyone down becasue they do not want children. That is their choice and I respect it. But why do they feel so free to put down our choice to have children. Sometimes those people act like we, as mothers, are accomplishing nothing. I feel like I am sacrificing some things to do the most difficult and important thing in the world - raising good, mature, responsible adults. To those of you who don't want these "burdens" be careful how you phrase the fact that you do not want kids. It can be a big put down to those of us who do.
Posted by: flmom38
Posted on: 2005-05-05 09:59:10
It saddens me and actually makes me mad when people are so outspoken about the burdens that children are and that they would never want one. I have a biological son and 2 adopted daughters. There are times when it gets hectic in my house and I get stressed but I would never give them up. I would never put anyone down becasue they do not want children. That is their choice and I respect it. But why do they feel so free to put down our choice to have children. Sometimes those people act like we, as mothers, are accomplishing nothing. I feel like I am sacrificing some things to do the most difficult and important thing in the world - raising good, mature, responsible adults. To those of you who don't want these "burdens" be careful how you phrase the fact that you do not want kids. It can be a big put down to those of us who do.
I agree
Posted by: sorensen00
Posted on: 2005-05-06 12:46:40
You are so right..I am a 16 yr old girl and I adore my parents..Yea they may have their bads days but so can I..I have never heard my mom and dad say that they never can do anything becuase they got kids..My brother is 18 and graduating and my sister is 5 and never once have I heard my parents every say that..Please don't blame it all on us.Ya we can cause problems but so can parents.My family goes on trips all the time We just got back from Cancun last November and we had a blast!!!! You still can travel and go places, kids dont stop you..Thats why its called Family VACATIONS!!! You go as a family.. If I were a mom I would be very bored with no kids during the day, I can't wait to have kids, becuase we can do so many things as a family and have a great time...So don't blame it all on us kids..You can have no matter with or without kids so that is just an excuse you like to use(my opinion)
~Ashley~
Posted by: sorensen00
Posted on: 2005-05-06 12:46:40
You are so right..I am a 16 yr old girl and I adore my parents..Yea they may have their bads days but so can I..I have never heard my mom and dad say that they never can do anything becuase they got kids..My brother is 18 and graduating and my sister is 5 and never once have I heard my parents every say that..Please don't blame it all on us.Ya we can cause problems but so can parents.My family goes on trips all the time We just got back from Cancun last November and we had a blast!!!! You still can travel and go places, kids dont stop you..Thats why its called Family VACATIONS!!! You go as a family.. If I were a mom I would be very bored with no kids during the day, I can't wait to have kids, becuase we can do so many things as a family and have a great time...So don't blame it all on us kids..You can have no matter with or without kids so that is just an excuse you like to use(my opinion)
~Ashley~
Art Work
Posted by: hrt4god
Posted on: 2005-05-06 21:54:25
I just have to agree with you here-I got the most precious email from my 11 year old daughter today it said.
Dear Mom,
Hi Mom and happy early mothers day i love you for for ever and for always your the best mom, cook, cleaner and helper like what happened yesterday at church. Love ya
I wouldn't trade this letter for anything in the world.
Idaho Mom
Posted by: hrt4god
Posted on: 2005-05-06 21:54:25
I just have to agree with you here-I got the most precious email from my 11 year old daughter today it said.
Dear Mom,
Hi Mom and happy early mothers day i love you for for ever and for always your the best mom, cook, cleaner and helper like what happened yesterday at church. Love ya
I wouldn't trade this letter for anything in the world.
Idaho Mom
how dare you
Posted by: haney4
Posted on: 2005-05-04 22:53:08
How dare you say that children are a burden. No child should ever be called that.
I will agree with you that the society in which we live in today is bad, but if you raise your children in a loving home with good morals, society will not affect them. It hurt my heart to read your message about how horrible kids are. And yes i have seen many places as well. I have been to the zoo with my two children, and have seen some beautiful art work. And if you havent guessed yet, its my childrens beautiful pictures that they have drawn for me and my husband. Why don't you ask your friends who seem to have jealousy in their voices if they would turn back time and give it all up.I bet they would not. I am proud to be a mother, and to the women who want kids and can not have them, you are in my prayers.
Posted by: haney4
Posted on: 2005-05-04 22:53:08
How dare you say that children are a burden. No child should ever be called that.
I will agree with you that the society in which we live in today is bad, but if you raise your children in a loving home with good morals, society will not affect them. It hurt my heart to read your message about how horrible kids are. And yes i have seen many places as well. I have been to the zoo with my two children, and have seen some beautiful art work. And if you havent guessed yet, its my childrens beautiful pictures that they have drawn for me and my husband. Why don't you ask your friends who seem to have jealousy in their voices if they would turn back time and give it all up.I bet they would not. I am proud to be a mother, and to the women who want kids and can not have them, you are in my prayers.
Mother’s Instinct
Posted by: smallfry25
Posted on: 2005-05-07 23:21:57
I am a 27-year-old mother of four children (10, 6, 4, 10 months). I had my first child at 17 years old. My child was not a burden to me. I gave up everything and anything I had to love and support my child. My life had a lot of hard roads but I have my children that make it easier to keep going. My husband and I have been together for 15 years (since I was 13). I think being able to be patience, lean on your spouse for support, have an open mind is good parenting. Having some parenting guidance from a family resource center helps. My husband tells me I am his rock and keep this family going because I love them all so much. Children are blessing not a burden. If you feel like they’re a burden you’re not doing it right. You make the difference on your child as they grow. Teaching I child new things, talking with them, learning to be a kid again your self. You show your children the right way yes they will make mistakes as long as they learn from them you will be okay. Being a young mother I wouldn’t change a thing. Maybe Luck or mother’s instinct who knows! I have lots great times with my children. I am very proud of my children. I feel blessed to have them. I do feel sad for those can’t have children. I have two friends that one been trying for 9 years and the other for 3 years.
HAPPY MOTHER"S DAY
Julie
(Canada)
Posted by: smallfry25
Posted on: 2005-05-07 23:21:57
I am a 27-year-old mother of four children (10, 6, 4, 10 months). I had my first child at 17 years old. My child was not a burden to me. I gave up everything and anything I had to love and support my child. My life had a lot of hard roads but I have my children that make it easier to keep going. My husband and I have been together for 15 years (since I was 13). I think being able to be patience, lean on your spouse for support, have an open mind is good parenting. Having some parenting guidance from a family resource center helps. My husband tells me I am his rock and keep this family going because I love them all so much. Children are blessing not a burden. If you feel like they’re a burden you’re not doing it right. You make the difference on your child as they grow. Teaching I child new things, talking with them, learning to be a kid again your self. You show your children the right way yes they will make mistakes as long as they learn from them you will be okay. Being a young mother I wouldn’t change a thing. Maybe Luck or mother’s instinct who knows! I have lots great times with my children. I am very proud of my children. I feel blessed to have them. I do feel sad for those can’t have children. I have two friends that one been trying for 9 years and the other for 3 years.
HAPPY MOTHER"S DAY
Julie
(Canada)
Posted by: mom2kaykim
Posted on: 2005-05-05 10:37:00
Good thing your mother didn't think children were a burden, or you wouldn't be here to travel the world without a "rugrat" hanging off of you! Sometimes it can be a good thing SOME people cannot have children. Unfortunate for those who cannot and actually love children, though. My heart breaks for those of you who are childless and not by choice. May you be blessed in other ways. I truly mean it.........
Audraww
Posted by: trippin3
Posted on: 2005-05-05 12:04:01
Burden?? What do you mean you never would have gotten this far in life, gotten an education or traveled with in your words "rugrats clinging to you"??? I think you are a jealous bitter person.....I have 2 1/2 year old triplet, girls and 2 teenage boys, I have managed to have a wonderful marriage, obtain my BA and MA, I have an awesome career and have traveled the world (some with the kids, some without) bottom line, If you want it bad enough you will achieve it. Don't use having children as an excuse for not reaching your goal, or in you case using NOT having children as giving you the ability to do so. I am sorry for your losses but please don't try to comfort yourself by justifying NOT having children.
Posted by: trippin3
Posted on: 2005-05-05 12:04:01
Burden?? What do you mean you never would have gotten this far in life, gotten an education or traveled with in your words "rugrats clinging to you"??? I think you are a jealous bitter person.....I have 2 1/2 year old triplet, girls and 2 teenage boys, I have managed to have a wonderful marriage, obtain my BA and MA, I have an awesome career and have traveled the world (some with the kids, some without) bottom line, If you want it bad enough you will achieve it. Don't use having children as an excuse for not reaching your goal, or in you case using NOT having children as giving you the ability to do so. I am sorry for your losses but please don't try to comfort yourself by justifying NOT having children.
Re : Audra
Posted by: brenziecat
Posted on: 2005-05-06 07:20:03
First and foremost, how can you say children are a bigger burden than one can imagine....since YOU don't have any. There is so much anger in your post. It sounds like you are mad because you don't have children & rather than deal with that pain you hide behind it, by referring to them as burdens, rugrats & goal stoppers. Furthermore if you don't show empathy towards your friends with children... are you really their friend. Who's really jealous of who? Since that is the path that they chose I can bet that they don't regret it, maybe they wish they would've waited to accomplish a little more BEFORE they had children. But I'm sure they would not trade their lives for a college diploma or mini vacations. All good things come to an end eventually.I really suggest and pray that you deal with your pain in a more positive manner.
Posted by: brenziecat
Posted on: 2005-05-06 07:20:03
First and foremost, how can you say children are a bigger burden than one can imagine....since YOU don't have any. There is so much anger in your post. It sounds like you are mad because you don't have children & rather than deal with that pain you hide behind it, by referring to them as burdens, rugrats & goal stoppers. Furthermore if you don't show empathy towards your friends with children... are you really their friend. Who's really jealous of who? Since that is the path that they chose I can bet that they don't regret it, maybe they wish they would've waited to accomplish a little more BEFORE they had children. But I'm sure they would not trade their lives for a college diploma or mini vacations. All good things come to an end eventually.I really suggest and pray that you deal with your pain in a more positive manner.
