The Fourteen Days of Loving with Honesty Dyads

Day 11

EVENING ACTIVITY
Set up the dyad, having your book and a clock or timer handy. Remember to choose a time that is free of distraction.

Step 1: Silently make and maintain eye contact for two minutes
Step 2: Topics for intimate disclosure:

Partner A: "Of the five categories available, I feel that I best fit the category ____________ because. . ." Three minutes

Partner B: "Thank you for caring enough to share, and I promise to weigh it carefully."

Partner B: "Of the five categories available, I feel that I best fit the category ____________ because. . ." Three minutes

Partner A: "Thank you for caring enough to share, and I promise to weigh it carefully."

Partner A: "Of the five categories available, I think you best fit the category ____________ because. . ." Three minutes

Partner B: "Thank you for caring enough to share, and I promise to weigh it carefully."

Partner B: "Of the five categories available, I think you best fit the category ____________ because. . ." Three minutes

Partner A: "Thank you for caring enough to share, and I promise to weigh it carefully."

Partner A: "I can best use my category to contribute to our relationship by. . ." Three minutes

Partner B: "Thank you for caring enough to share, and I promise to weigh it carefully."

Partner B: "I can best use my category to contribute to our relationship by . . ." Three minutes

Partner A: "Thank you for caring enough to share, and I promise to weigh it carefully."

Partner A: "I could possibly contaminate our relationship if I allowed my defining characteristics to. . ." Three minutes

Partner B: "Thank you for caring enough to share, and I promise to weigh it carefully."

Partner B: "I could possibly contaminate our relationship if I allowed my defining characteristics to. . ." Three minutes

Partner A: "Thank you for caring enough to share, and I promise to weigh it carefully."

Step 3: Stand and hug for thirty seconds.
Step 4: Please record your thoughts and feelings in your personal journal for five minutes minimum.

Day 11 footnote: In order to complete this evening's assignment, look at the chart below. This chart depicts five different personality types. An animal has been assigned to each personality type that typifies how those personality types would probably be seen. Have some fun with this, but also give it careful consideration as you answer the dyad questions.

Wolf Lion Dog Owl Beaver
Promoter Controller Supporter Analyzer Workaholic
Smooth Runs things Anything goes Take it apart Earn way
Persuasive Willful Easy way Figure out Never rest
Own rules Leader Laid-back Suspicious Perfection
Always sells My way Gullible Judgmental Sweet virtue
    Testing    


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For a more in-depth look at yourself, your partner and how to reconnect, you can read Relationship Rescue and do the exercises in Dr Phil's Relationship Rescue Workbook.