January 25, 2011
How do your choices in men affect your life? Dr. Phil sits down man to man with Angel, the father of Rachael’s baby, to ask him the hard questions: Why did he get Rachael pregnant, what’s in store for the future, and is he going to marry her? And, Dr. Phil doesn’t mince words when he gives Gloria some insight into her behavior.
A Surprise Visitor
Dr. Phil’s wife, Robin, surprises the women. “Do you know how excited I am to be here?” she says to them. “I’m very proud of you. I think you’ve all worked really, really hard.”
Robin tells the women they should grab on and take advantage of their time with Dr. Phil. “I really just don’t want y’all to miss your opportunity with him one on one,” she says. “Really tell him what you need. Work with him.”
When Dr. Phil joins the women, Michelle reveals that she’s come to the conclusion that she has a strong desire to be married and start a family. “What are you willing to do to get that?” Dr. Phil asks. “I know, as sure as I’m sitting here, that what you’re doing now will not generate that result in your life.”
Michelle admits that she doesn’t know how to date, and Dr. Phil tells her that Alana can show her.
The Truth Comes Out
Dr. Phil says to Jennifer that he believes if she knew years ago that her husband, Peter, was going to cheat on her and make a mockery of their marriage, she would still embark on the journey because of her children.
“The only thing good that has come out of my marriage is my son. That’s my life,” she says, admitting that she would go through what she’s been through to have him. Explaining why she feels lost, she says, “I feel like I’m wasting my opportunity with you, because I don’t know what questions to ask.” She adds that she envies Michelle for her independence.
“We don’t know how much time we have left together. Don’t waste a minute of it,” Dr. Phil tells the women.
An Explosive Confrontation
Gloria says to Dr. Phil, “I would like you to tell me what you think I’m not putting on the table.”
“I would rather you tell me than me tell you,” Dr. Phil says. “You seem to go to great lengths to keep the focus off what you need.”
Gloria says she rarely makes hurtful comments, and it’s just that the other women take her insight as being negative. She adds that after Alana was judgmental of her, the other women formed a gang mentality against her.
Dr. Phil asks her, “Did it ever occur to you that the common denominator in every one of these conflicts is you?”
“I’m not saying I’m a victim here,” she says. “I am accountable.”
“I don’t want you to give your power away and check your agenda off because of a dynamic you’ve created with some of these people in this room,” Dr. Phil tells her.
When Kimm tells Gloria to balance her energy, Gloria asks, “Do you guys resent that I’m having a conversation with Dr. Phil?” The women respond with gasps and laughs.
The father of Rachael’s baby, Angel, joins the women.
Angel reveals that he would like to marry Rachael.
The couple visits Dr. Lisa Masterson, co-host of the Emmy Award-winning show The Doctors, for a prenatal visit.
“You don’t have to be wealthy to have children, to raise them responsible with love and care,” Dr. Phil tells the couple. “But you do need to be able to meet the basics.”
Rachael Meets with a Headhunter
Dr. Phil shares that he arranged for Rachael to meet with a headhunter, so she can find a better job where she utilizes her education.
Dr. Phil tells Rachael that he wants her to study her interview and that the headhunter is going to coach her on how to be interviewed.
“I need all the help I can get,” Rachael says.
Gloria’s Mystery Date
Gloria meets with Julie Ferman from Cupid’s Coach and goes on a blind date.
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