In Part 2,
Dr. Phil continues his exclusive interview with a 16-year-old girl who claims four classmates raped her while she was intoxicated. What does she recall from that night? And, why does she say her peers care more about the accused football players than they do her? Then, hear from Leah, who claims her 17-year-old daughter, Rehtaeh, took her own life after being raped and bullied. Plus, meet Alexis, who says she too was raped at 15 and “could’ve been Rehtaeh.” This program contains strong sexual content. Viewer discretion advised.
Get caught up on what happened in Part 1.
The Night That Changed Everything
Dr. Phil continues his exclusive discussion with the girl who claims that star football player Matt and three other boys took advantage of her at a party — at a sheriff’s deputy’s house — in December 2012, after she had at least three to four alcoholic beverages. She says that after the boys were arrested and charged with second-degree rape, she suffered even more backlash from her peers, because she “took away their star football players.” She hopes that by sharing her side of the story, they might have more compassion.
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She says she doesn’t remember leading Matt by the hand and initiating their encounter that night. “I don’t remember initiating anything,” she tells Dr. Phil. When asked whether she said she “wanted more,” like Matt claims, she responds, “That’s false, as I can recall.”
“Did you ever think about calling anyone to come get you?”
What does she want to see happen to the boys?
Dr. Phil asks how this has changed her, and she responds, “I have PTSD now.” She says she cries at random moments and assumes that everyone now knows who she is, which makes her afraid to meet anyone new or talk to people. “For months after that, I’d wish I’d died that night, so that I would not have to live with the pain, and I would not have to live with all the ridicule of everyone telling me that I’m in the wrong,” she confesses. She says she wants to help other people by sharing her story. “The truth is better than holding it in, because if you hold it in, it will consume you,” she says.
“You’ve told your story and stood up for yourself, and you should be proud of that,” Dr. Phil tells her.
Matt’s parents, Mark and Dianne, say they’re worried about their son’s future, which has essentially been put on hold — and could include a trial and up to 20 years in prison, if he’s convicted. “It’s devastating,” Dianne says.
Mark says he feels bad that Matt has had a year — or longer — of his life taken away from him because of the accusations. “If this goes to trial, I really don’t feel like he will be found guilty,” he says. “The four boys are guilty of only poor judgment.” He says that the superintendent took the boys out of school and that Matt was placed in a vocational school. “Instead of them being innocent until they’re proven guilty, we automatically put a guilty label on them,” he says.
“My biggest fear is the unknown, because I don’t know what’s going to become of this,” Matt says.
Matt and his parents react to the alleged victim’s account of what happened that night. “I really do feel like she was embarrassed.”
Dr. Phil asks Matt what he would’ve done differently, and he responds, “I wouldn’t have argued with my parents to stay the night [at Tyler’s].”
“That’s a good partial lesson,” Dr. Phil responds. “I was hoping you’d say you wouldn’t have gone over there to begin with, and you wouldn’t have been drinking illegally, and you wouldn’t have been involved in sex with one girl and four boys and all of that.”
“None of it would’ve happened if I didn’t argue with them to stay,” Matt clarifies.
Dr. Phil says that Matt needs to take ownership in his part. “If he’s falsely accused, then that is unfair,” he tells the family before turning to Matt and saying, “but you also put yourself in harm’s way with really bad choices.”
Bullied to Death?
Leah claims that in 2011, her 15-year-old daughter, Rehtaeh, was raped by four classmates at a party and then humiliated and bullied after a photo from that night was texted to other students. “It was a picture of her being raped,” Leah claims. “People came up to her and started talking and saying, ‘Oh, my gosh … you’re such a slut.” She says that they reported the harassment to the police, but the bullying continued, with negative Facebook pages about Rehtaeh popping up in an attempt to gain support for the boys. “She was never the same again,” she says about the teen, who took her own life nearly five months ago. Leah says she found her daughter hanging in the bathroom. “I could feel her body on the back of the door,” she recalls tearfully. “I think I went into shock.”
Why haven’t the boys been charged with rape? And, what message does Leah have for other teens and parents?
“I Could’ve Been Rehtaeh”
Seventeen-year-old Alexis says that two years ago, she too was raped while at a party. She says a boy gave her four drinks and then took advantage of her when she was nearly passed out. She and her mother, Nichole, share their story.
“My whole life was ruined. I could’ve been Rehtaeh very easily.”
Inside the Minds of Teens
Rosalind Wiseman, author of Queen Bees and Wannabes
and her new book, Masterminds and Wingmen
, joins Dr. Phil to weigh in on the discussion.
“We’re talking a lot to our girls about this, but we’re not talking to our boys.”