Shocking Accusations: Abused Wife or Abused Husband?
July 31, 2014
Marie says she is terrified of her husband, Ron, who she claims has a violent temper and is verbally and physically abusive — allegations he adamantly denies. Ron claims Marie is a compulsive liar and alleges she is the one with anger problems. Dr. Phil sorts through the allegations and looks at video footage from inside the family’s home. Can he help this couple put an end to their fighting — for the sake of their child?
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Spouses at Odds
Marie says she has been terrified of her husband, Ron, since last year, when she claims he began saying things like, “I really want to hurt you,” and, “Our story will be on the 6 o’clock news.” Marie says Ron has dragged her down the stairs and had the cops called on him 14 times. Last month, she claims Ron smashed her on the side of the head while grabbing for her cell phone, which she was using to record video during an argument. "The fight started to progress and Ron came at me," Marie says. "I didn't know what he was going to do."
Ron joins Marie onstage and claims her accusations of abuse are all lies, which made him reluctant to even come on the show. Ron claims he is the real victim in their relationship and that Marie is the one with anger issues — exacerbated by the fact that he claims Marie drinks alcohol on top of taking prescription medications. "She's not well, so I give her the benefit of the doubt, while being a punching bag," Ron says.
Both Ron and Marie admit that their 4-year-old daughter, Della, often has a front row seat to their screaming matches.
"Somebody is lying," Dr. Phil says. "What that tells me is there are three agendas. There's your agenda, and there's your agenda," he says to Ron and Marie, in turn. "And then there's the family agenda, and it's coming in third. One of you is lying, and your daughter picks up the tab for you covering your ass."
Learning to CommunicateMarie tells Dr. Phil that she just wants to be happy again and not constantly worried about Ron's mood. Ron says he would like to get back to being Marie's "best friend" and admits there are things he can work on to be a better spouse. But, he adds, Marie needs to make some changes to her behavior as well.
Dr. Phil tells the couple that many of their problems, at their root, are a product of poor communication.
Ron and Marie both agree to take the help.