January 13, 2015
Get two chairs. You and your teen sit in the chairs facing each other. Both of you put your hands in your lap as opposed to folded across your chest. From the moment you sit down, make and maintain eye contact. This is what is referred to as a dyad. It’s simply a two-person unit wherein the people are face to face and are involved in active eye contact.
You will have several topics for discussion. Finish the sentence provided with as much embellishment and honest disclosure as you possibly can. There is a specific pattern in which you must talk to each other. The person who is to speak first (it can be either one of you) shares his or her feelings about the assigned subject matter for three uninterrupted minutes while maintaining eye contact with the second person, who is to keep time and signal when the three minutes are up. You must stop talking when your time is up.
At the conclusion of the first person’s remarks, the second person can make only one response: “Thank you for caring enough to share, and I promise to weigh it carefully.” No other statement may be made.
Then, it’s the second person’s turn. He or she has three minutes to respond to the same subject matter as the first person while being timed by the first person. Again, eye contact is to be maintained throughout, and the first person’s only response can be: “Thank you for caring enough to share, and I promise to weigh it carefully.”
You can also start a journal for yourself. Record your thoughts and feelings about what’s happened so far. It can be important to return to your journal and review these thoughts and feelings in weeks and months to come.