Five-time best-selling author Larry Winget calls himself the “Pit Bull of Personal Development,” and in his new book, Grow a Pair: How to Stop Being a Victim and Take Back Your Life, Your Business, and Your Sanity, he offers common sense advice for taking charge of your life. To reach your goals — personal, career, money or otherwise — Larry says you have to reject victimhood and start being more assertive.
Larry offers the following questions you should ask yourself:
- Do you allow people to take advantage of you?
- Do your kids talk back to you?
- Do you find yourself picking up the slack for lazy coworkers?
- Do you let people cut in front of you in line?
- Do you accept bad service without speaking up?
- Do you eat cold food in a restaurant rather than send it back?
- Do you allow people you are paying to be late for appointments?
- Do you let things slide even though it bothers you?
- Do you let your friends hurt your feelings and never say a word about it?
- Do you often feel responsible for other people and their feelings?
- Do you find yourself unwilling to express yourself for fear of offending someone?
- Do you ever feel that people don’t respect you?
- Do you find yourself compromising your opinions and beliefs in an effort to go along?
- Do you feel like you are being used?
- Do people talk down to you?
- Do people mistreat you emotionally, verbally, psychologically or physically?
If you answered yes to any of these questions, Larry says chances are good you need to “grow a pair.” He’s not talking about anatomy — he’s talking about attitude! Instead of offering excuses or explanations, Larry says we must face facts, take responsibility and deal with the consequences.