October 19, 2010
Thousands of teenagers are finding themselves in relationships that are controlling, manipulative and sometimes physically abusive. Research shows that 98 percent of teenage girls who have been abused continue to date the abuser. Your teen could be one of them. Do you know the warning signs?
If you suspect your daughter is in an abusive relationship, go through the following checklist of warning signs:
1) Does she apologize for his behavior and makes excuses for him?
2) Is she losing interest in activities that she used to enjoy?
3) Has she stopped seeing friends and family members and become more isolated?
4) When your daughter and her boyfriend are together, does he call her names and put her down in front of other people? Does she seem intimidated by him?
5) Does her boyfriend act extremely jealous of others who pay attention to her, especially other guys?
6) Does he think or tell your daughter that you don’t like him?
7) Does he control her behavior, check up on her constantly, and call and text her, demanding to know who she has been with? Does he control where she goes, what she wears and who she sees?
8) Does she casually mention his violent behavior, but laugh it off as a joke?
9) Does she often have unexplained injuries or offer explanations that don’t make sense?
10) Have you seen him violently lose his temper, striking or breaking objects? Has he destroyed her property?
11) Does he criticize her parenting and threaten to take away or hurt her children?
12) Has he threatened her life?
If you answered yes to even one of these questions, your daughter may be in an abusive relationship.
For support and more information please call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or at TTY 1-800-787-3224.