Teens: How to Deal with Disagreement
Adolescence can be a time when girls are catty, backstabbing, intimidating and downright bitchy. While it's important for girls to be able to get along in high school, it's also crucial that they learn the problem-solving skills that can help them with confrontations later in life.
Rosalind Wiseman is the co-founder and president of The Empower Program, a non-profit adolescent outreach program that teaches girls how to relate to one another without being mean. She is also the author of Queen Bees and Wannabes: Helping Your Daughter Survive Cliques, Gossip, Boyfriends and Other Realities of Adolescence, and Defending Ourselves: A Guide to Prevention, Self-Defense and Recovery from Rape.
She teaches girls how to deal with a confrontation or disagreement using a tool called S.E.A.L.
Rosalind also teaches them how to apologize, something that takes strength and courage. She explains, "It is acknowledging what you did that was hurtful." You must realize that your apology doesn't include what the other person did, and it must be given without trying to explain why you did what you did. It is also important to thank someone when he/she apologizes to you. "When someone apologizes, it's hard, so acknowledge it," she says.