When Staying Together for the Kids Isn't Best
You shouldn't get divorced until you earn your way out. That means turning over every stone and exploring every avenue of rehabilitation in a sincere effort to reconnect with your partner. If you've done this and decided that you need to get a divorce but are afraid it would harm the children, consider the facts.
Research shows that kids who grow up in an emotionally barren, abusive environment don't do as well as kids who grow up with one well-adjusted, single parent. This is not a totally non-controversial statement, so look at some of the research and decide for yourself:
From "For Better or Worse: Divorce Reconsidered" by E. Mavis Hetherington, Ph.D., and John Kelly.
From "The Unexpected Legacy of Divorce" by Judith Wallerstein, Ph.D.