Men and women are different, and it’s that way for a reason! Don’t get frustrated with your partner for being exactly the way God designed him or her.

The differences are clear when it comes to orgasms and sexual pleasure — and there’s a scientific explanation behind it. Dr. Phil advises men: “I think you’re running into a lot of trouble if your idea of foreplay is, ‘Brace yourself honey, here I come!'”

For men, the time between the idea of sex and their ability to orgasm is 2.8 minutes.

“The problem is that for women, the average time is just over 14 minutes,” Dr. Phil explains, joking that men are left with about 12 minutes during which time they need to think of something to do!