Don't make the mistake of thinking that you already know your partner inside out. Instead, without judgmental attitudes and with an open mind, give your best, most objective attention to this fascinating enterprise.
Answer the following questions as honestly as you can. Remember that you need to do this without consulting your partner. The point is to assess how aware of your partner you are now. Make this an honest appraisal.
I can name my partner's three best friends.
I know what accomplishments my partner is most proud of.
I can identify the happiest time in my partner's life.
I know what my partner considers to be his or her greatest losses in life.
I can describe what my partner considers to be his or her greatest area of difficulty in interacting with each of his parents.
I know what will be probably be playing on the radio when my partner is driving somewhere.
I can name the relatives that my partner would most likely try to avoid at a family reunion.
I can describe the most traumatic event that occurred in my partner's childhood.
My partner has clearly identified for me what he or she wants in life.
I can identify the obstacles that my partner believes are preventing his or her getting what he or she wants.
I know which of my partner's physical features he or she is least happy about.
I can recall the very first impressions I had of my partner.
I know what section of the Sunday newspaper my partner is likely to turn to first.
I can describe, in some detail, the home environment in which my partner was raised.
I know what makes my partner laugh.
I know what my partner's parents would probably say is the thing about my partner that they are most proud of.
I can describe two or three decisions my partner made before we met that my partner now regrets — and my partner can do the same about me.
I know which part of a restaurant menu my partner is likely to look at first.
I can quote three things my partner says to me that he or she says to no one else in this world.
I am thoroughly familiar with my partner's religious beliefs.
Scoring: Give yourself 1 point for each True answer. 0 to 9 - Miles to go, but the perfect opportunity on hand 10 or higher - Fairly accurate profile, but with much exploration and discovery ahead