A Family Divided: Concerns about Katherine: Katherine's School Fight

Katherine's Story
Dr. Phil talks with Katherine about her recent troubles with her ex-boyfriend and troubles at school.
Katherine had been dating a boy for six months and remembers, "I thought at the time that it was the best thing that ever happened to me."


She says that they started arguing all the time and he went as far as pushing and shoving her. "He just was saying, 'I don't want to be with you anymore.' He told me that he still loved me and he just needed time. I said, 'It's now or never,' and he said 'Never.' When he didn't care at all, it just tore me apart," she explains.


"One day at school I just went up to him and started shoving him and just kicking and screaming and throwing punches ... I just felt good. I had so much anger toward him, it felt good to release it all. I actually think it was the right thing to do. It was a good thing that he got to see how much it hurt me, and how much pain I had that day."After hearing about the fight, Dr. Phil checks in with Katherine and her family in an Apple iChat AV video conference.


Katherine explains, "He just kept antagonizing me, and I just got sick of it and I just blew up in his face."



Dr. Phil asks Marty and Erin, "The principal used the word assault. Is that accurate?"


Marty answers, "We're very lucky that they didn't press charges."


Dr. Phil tells Katherine, "I don't understand what you're doing getting in a fight at school with anybody about anything ... You are such a young woman of grace and intelligence and then you tell me you're at school in a slugfest with some boy. ... What are you doing so involved with a boy at your age? I think that is really unacceptable behavior."


Erin agrees saying, "I feel like she's outside of normal teenage behavior here."

Dr. Phil warns Katherine, "You have to get the chip off your shoulder, quit condescending to your mother, father and your sister, and let some people that love you step up and try to give you some input and counsel. I don't want you to get off in a wrong direction right now. And if there's going to be a power struggle, then let's just get to it, because I'm ready for it if you are."


He continues, "I just want to do this with you. I don't want you to get mad about it, I don't want you to pout about it. I want you to say, 'You know what, I've kind of been making some bad choices, I want to live to my potential, and I want to start conducting myself with some class and dignity.'"


Dr. Phil ends the converstation making it clear to Katherine that he is very concerned about her recent actions and the decisions she is making.