"I think every time we make progress, we go straight down the tubes again," she says. "I don't see why I have to keep getting hurt over and over. I made the decision to just shut him out kind of halfway and just let him in a little bit."
Dr. Phil tells Marty that while his family loves him, they didn't miss his temper while they were on their trip. They said that Marty blows up and then forgets about his outburst, while it still
Katherine doesn't see it Marty's way. "He'll start yelling and I'm not the type of person who will sit there and let somebody yell in my face," she says.
He tells Marty, "When you yell and scream and call names, you are climbing down from the parent position and you are getting into a child/child relationship ... You cannot parent from a child position. Do you get that?"
"Yes," Marty says.
Dr. Phil addresses Marty. "If you want to be the head of this family, then you need to be a good steward of that responsibility and authority," he says. "And behaving in a child-to-child way with yelling and screaming or name-calling is not OK."
Katherine tells Dr. Phil that she has been trying to approach her father. "Each time I open up to him, and say, 'Dad, it hurts me when you do that,' he says, 'I don't care. I don't have control over your feelings.' So I think in my mind, 'Why should I open up to him?'" she asks.
"That is an absolutely appropriate thing for you to say," Dr. Phil observes. "It's appropriate for you guys to discuss that. It's OK to have that conversation, but you need to have the conversation, and you need to be committed to moving this ahead."
"I do that a lot," Marty admits. "It's not right."
Katherine chimes in, "What are you going to do about it?"
"Stop doing it," Marty answers.
When Katherine asks how, Dr. Phil says, "You're doing good, girl." He gets up and switches seats with Katherine as the audience applauds. "Answer the girl's
"How are you going to stop blowing up?" Katherine reiterates.
"By listening to you more and trying to understand," Marty says.
When Katherine asks Marty how he'll respond when she wants to discuss boys, he jokes, "That's when we fly to California."
Dr. Phil interjects. "Let me tell you, when they want to talk about boys, I'd pull up a chair if I were you," he tells Marty.